Your views on Online Dating....

I don't care how people date. I do have a problem that a few countries, movements and organizations are starting to restrict dating. Its rather troubling.

Well.. is he at least willing to pay for the plane ride. Some of us can't afford to fly, or can't drive long distance. However, if you don't trust him enough to go see him, then him coming to see you isn't that much better. He can still pour something in ya drink and drag ya off to tie you to the train tracks while wearing his black villain hat and twirling his mustache. Seems to me, that if he can't afford to take a weekend off to come see you, that you'd be bored at his place anyway, since he wouldn't be there much due to working.

DON'T GO!!!! He has time to be online, so he has time to make a move to visit you! This is weird how he doesn't want to come to you, most gentlemen would want to make the first visit. I do not trust online dating, they always have a wife tucked away somewhere. Test it, see if you and a friend can stay with him if you go, when he says no for any reason) you can be sure he has a wife!

I would have to say that if he's too busy with his career then he's too busy to make time for you. If he really wants to have a relationship with you then he needs to make time for you. I agree with some of the other responses of not going alone, take some girlfriends and make a trip out of it or you could ask him to meet you somewhere halfway. With myself, I met my husband online, after only talking online for a month I jumped on a plane and moved to be with him and we've been together for 7 years and have a son together. It could be the best thing in your life but it can also be a disappointment. Use your best judgement. BTW, I am new here.

Please, do not even think of coming out here to see him. Firstly, if he is sincerely interested in meeting you he will take the initiative and fly out to meet you. Secondly, even if he does this, make sure you do not meet him alone. I know two woman who made the mistake of going to meet someone they met on-line. One flew to Hawaii and knew immediately upon meeting him at the airport that she not only didn't like him but was very fearful of him. He had bought her ticket and she had very little money and ended up having to stay in a hostel until she could get back home. The other flew somewhere to northern BC and after a romantic start found out that he wanted her to entertain his other male friends as well. I know there are many success stories but please be very very careful. Whatever you do make sure you are always financially independent and have support from those you trust.

OK - you mustn't go to his place, he MUST come to yours. I have met lots of guys through the internet and they always come to my town. Most men expect to do that anyway, you shouldn't have to put yourself out for him. For your own safety you should insist that he visits you, he is quite capable of doing that i'm sure. Secondly, you don't want to set a precendent here by doing all the running - if he is keen to see you then he will start making plans to see you - but whatever you do, don't go chasing after him.

The net is a very anonymous place and physically meeting someone you come accross on the net is best avoided UNLESS you are very sure of the person. I would suggest it best to avoid it especially since he doesnt seem to be very keen to meet you on your home ground.

well first of all cheers Im from Toronto Canada but with that said here's my opinion. I met my girlfriend who I have been with for the last three years off an online dating site but unlike you I had only known her for a few weeks before we met. A month later we moved in together and here I am. See you have known him for 8 years but yet you can't be sure if he's not married or like the pig farmer serial killer they caught up there. All I can say is if your going to go up there to meet him then go with 2 friends and never let them out of your site even for a minute until I guess you feel comfortable. I can't say no don't do it because I did myself but the fact of the matter is women are more likely to be killed and murdered when meeting someone off the net. Whatever you decide to do just stay safe and don't go alone and good luck.

well my friend,i would tell him to come here if he is that interested in you then he will make the move not you.and if he starts making excuses that he cant then i would say the heck with him and its not worth it then.but i do believe in online relationships because i have had many friends and family do this and they are so happy and it turned out great.if both of you are serious about one another then its up to him to come to you.great seeing you online again,hope all is well,have a great week end!!!pattie

I think he should come to see you. Safer that way. -Amber