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Hi, mamakat0 and a happy birthday to you and your moms...As for the other thing...that sucks is all I can say...after what you've been through you don't need anymore stresses in your life. The question is..can you forgive him and let it pass, but at the same time might be causing you more stress, or would you feel better perhaps by leaving him, and if you did where would you go?? I think the bottom line is to ask yourself which would make you feel happier and less stressed out? My prayers are still with you mamakat0 and let us know what you decide, okay?

First of all, happy birthday, to you and your mom. Second of all, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. Men can be such heartless jerks. Mine has done that to me, several times, over the years. We are still together, but it's not a good marriage. I don't trust him, and I haven't in years. In all honesty, it's not much of a marriage, and hasn't been for many years. He started out cheating on me, within the first year of our marriage. It's hard to get over it, so if you're still upset over the first time, then, it'll be harder to get over this one. You have to make up your own mind, so just figure out, if you can stand to be with him anymore, after this. That should help make your decision. Take care.

Hi mamakatO! Happy Birthday to YOU. I hope your day with your mom was good. About your husband that is cheating on you I wouldnt stay with him If I were you. Its very true what they say if he cheats he will always cheat. Dont have your heart broke again. Im sorry to hear this but you have to be strong and I wish all the best.

I can't tell you what to do...that has to be your choice. Personally I can't and won't tolerate cheating. I figure if my partner is out sleeping around he isn't happy with me and if he isn't happy with me then he moves to just move on. !!HAPPY HALLOWEEN!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

Happy Birthday! You deserve a much better day than you're having! I don't understand why his answer was hormones... hormones would be what caused ME to do something!! And maybe something not very nice! Could all this stress be effecting your pressure? I think so! Something to consider when you're making up your mind... TAKE CARE!

firstly happy birthday to you . and i have to say that just believe your hubby, try your best to give him support and let himknow that how important he is in your life.

hi mamakat0... first of all, i would like to wish you and your mum a very happy b'day... hope both of you have an enjoyable day... as for your hubby, i'm sorry to hear that... but it is entirely up to you... please pray to God and ask for His guidance... if you think that you can't stand to live with him anymore, then i think you have to make up your mind... i know it won't be easy for you... take care and good luck...

Sweetie first of all I am sorry to hear this My Ex Husband cheated on me in most of the Marriage I was scared of him in a sense as I am scared of People when they shout at me and that I endured it for 21 years Then I got Diagnosed with my Illness and I knew that I had to act or my Life was over I did not want to be treated like someone he kept telling is nothing special, useless, stupid So after a long thought it was over but what really triggered it was his attitude to my Illness I knew he would never care for me You have to think about the If's and But's Darling and what I mean by that is Is it worth risking it a third time Does he really love you Do you really love him Will he stand by you in your Illness or is he going to keep cheating and blaming it on silly things Will you ever be able to trust him Is your Love that strong that together you will get over this Those are the sort of things you need to think about and I mean really think Sweetie Do not be scared to be alone you will manage just like I am After so many years and that is including my Childhood I have my own Life So Sweet please think things through very Carefully and do not do anything silly I know it hurts I felt it many a time but keep a clear Head and try to think of your Health Shout if you need me Sweetie Love and Hugs to you and remember you are a special Person and you are strong And belated Happy Birthday Sweet

Hey sweetheart. I'm a day late, but happy birthday to you hon, and to your mom as well. It's good that the two of you got to spend time together enjoying each other's company. As for you husband....hormones?....I think not! That's a lame excuse if I ever heard one! He needs to learn to keep it in his pants pocket, even if he has to STAPLE the darned thing in to make it stay! I'm thinking that he's not good for your health right now, and he's definitely not helping your blood pressure at all. To be very blunt, if I were in your shoes, I would have castrated the guy the first time it happened. But that's how low a tolerance I have for disrespect to a marriage. But you have to do what you feel is best for you hon. And no matter what you decide, you have my support. He doesn't deserve to have you in his useless life....you're waaayyyy too good for him hon.

Happy Birthday! I hope you had a nice one over all. I just wanted to say that, I know you want to trust and believe in this person, but Im not so sure that its going to be worthwhile. He will do it again, just like Im sure he said he wouldnt do it again the previous time you found out. How many times do you think he hs done it and you just dont know about it? Or does he just come right out and tell you? You dont deserve this kind of deception, especially not from a man you vowed your life to. Get counseling, if he is willing and try and work it out, one more time. You can keep saying that and keep doing that, or move on and actually be happy without him and his hurtful actions. You just do what feels right to you, unless going through this feels right to you. This is your choice, your the one who has to live with this. Wishing you the best of luck. Ive been there, and I moved on to find better things and some one who really does love and appreciate me. Bay Lay Gray xx

happy birthday to you i hope you have a great day and many happy returns keep your chin up ok everything will be alright love your friend hopejordan

Hormones!!! Hormones??? You've got to be kidding. Don't put yourself through another minute of this. I have been married for forty years. Marriage does not equate to cheating. Your husband is proof to the old adage, once a cheater, always a cheater. Love yourself, and if you have children, love them enough to muster up the strength to leave. It may not be easy, make a plan, work the plan and leave. You deserve better.