what do you value most in other people

@bhappy2 (327)
Australia
October 15, 2007 2:32am CST
The thing i value most in others is honesty. I admire generosity and kindness and all those things but if someone lies to me I can never trust them again. What do you think? What do you amire most in someone?
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• Philippines
15 Oct 07
I value most the integrity, honesty, and trustworthy components of a person. It is important that you have these trustworthy and honesty with each other. Anything will flow well and your relationship will go smoothly. I am so grateful that I have friends who have these good characteristics. I am just hoping that our relationship will continuously go on with these qualities. God speed!
@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
16 Oct 07
I agree. I think when we choose our friends even though we don't consciously tick off their assets we are friends with them because of these characteristics that we admire.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
15 Oct 07
Hi bhappy2! Oh, I feel the same way about people lying to me because I feel hurt and betrayed with such behavior. As for the thing I value most in others, it is honesty and sincerity. I wish people will be honest and sincere with me because I am too trusting and when trust is broken, it is so hard to mend it somehow. Take care and have a nice day.
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@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
16 Oct 07
My Grandfather always said that when people lie to you they are treating you like a fool that is too stupid to know it is a lie. I have met quite a few people who tell lies that are outrageous and then expect you to believe them.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
16 Oct 07
Your grandfather is right.
@biggerb (2024)
• India
15 Oct 07
For me too ,honesty is what I value in a person.They may have many other good qualities in them but if they are not honest I would never trust that person.
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@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
16 Oct 07
I feel exactly the same way, after all, if they lie why would they worry about stealing?
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@gwendovere (1279)
• United States
15 Oct 07
Loyalty. I want to have friends who will never intentionally do anything to hurt me or embarrass me. Little white lies are okay -- if they're trying to protect my feelings. And I don't need to know all their personal "stuff." I just want friends who are loyal to me & won't try to play mind games with me -- or worse yet, gossip about me behind my back.
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@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
16 Oct 07
I once read something that said "you can tell who your friends are. A friend will bail you out when you get arrested but a true friend will beside you in the cell saying 'Wow, didn't we have a great time?'"
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@surajpkn (582)
• India
15 Oct 07
The first most thing i value in others in honesty. I think it is the most important character a person must have in life. I also value punctuality. it is not a character but it defines a lot of things about that person. If someone is not punctual, we can infer a lot of things about that person through it. Moreover, generosity , that is, the tendency to help is something that i also admire and value in others. In this present world, not too many are like that and to see a generous person is a real treat for eyes.
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@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
16 Oct 07
I think if a person is honest then other good character traits follow. They are considerate so are usually punctual and if they are late they will tell you they will be late. If I ask someone to do something for me I would much rather they said no than to say yes and then feel put upon. Once again it comes back to honesty.
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• Philippines
15 Oct 07
Like you, I also value honesty a lot. A lie is always a lie and it always lead to cheating. When a person is honest, he or she is already considered a trustworthy person. I admire it most when a person is true to himself/herself. I believe that if a person kept on pretending to be somebody else, he/she is not proud of his/her own self.
@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
16 Oct 07
yes, lying destroys any trust I may have had in that person and I think it is because I can't help feeling that if they can be dishonest in one way they can be dishonest in every way. I agree that a person needs to be true to themselves. Too many people are not.
@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
18 Oct 07
I mostly value in others is their attitude towards TRUE TO SELF! I mean by this is very simple: Who ever is really true to self I not only respect but I value the person and the deed of the person with so much respects! One can admire for so many things but one can not value so many persons if they have not such catagory and value in themselves!
@kaplya (1578)
• India
16 Oct 07
i value frankness of behaviour most! here frankness doesn't mean somebody rude or anything like that it's just to have on mouth what you have in your mind/heart!:) also honesty is the quality which i value very much in others.
@cobradene (1171)
• India
31 Oct 07
I admire honesty and integrity in others. It's a must that people should be honest and they shouldn't lie. I don't like people lying to me. And I always prefer people who are direct and speak at heart. They should be frank if they are uncomfortable about anything and clear things out, rather say things on my back. I hate back biting.
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
16 Oct 07
Honesty above all else...Just don't lie to me and everything will be fine...I value all the others as well but honesty is number 1...I admire courage and kindness. I also admire someone who can say, "they were wrong."
• Canada
31 Oct 07
Hi and congratulations on making your first hundred credits...you will be up to 500 before you know it! Anyway what do I value most in other people? Honesty and integrity are big ones for me to. I also value people who walk their talk and say what they mean...and do what they say. I value people with compassion and who do not see themselves as the center of the Universe and expect everyone else to view them the same way. Those who care of the environment and concern themselves about wildlife are valuable traits I admire. I value people who give their time and energy unconditionally with a desire to make the world a better place are held in my high esteem. I also respect and admire sensitive, thoughtful, polite people who have an attitude of gratitude and express appreciation to others in genuine ways. I could go on and on...but that is enough for now Raia
• Canada
18 Oct 07
Hi...and congratulations on reaching 100 credits...and getting your star. The qualities I value in others are: ...Honesty...because I live with the idea that in openness there is trust and in trust there is love. Without trust it is pretty hard to truly have loving relationships with anyone. ...Integrity...I value those who walk their talk. ...Respect for differences ...I value those who look for commonalities and attempt to unify rather than divided and conquer ...Compassion, understaning... ...Those who are concerned about the environment, animals and do something about it. ...I value those who are big enough to say I am sorry and accountable for the cause and effect of their choices Raia
• India
6 Jan 13
Hi friend, i too like honesty in others and give importance to it. I like kindness, helping tendency and friendly moment from other persons and reciprocate the same to them
@Shavkat (139937)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
If you have the will to help, it should not ask for someting in return. The people will perceived that good will for being an actor in the society. I had seen some lead actors in the government system to be in such visibility. They were taking the credit for being pleasant to solicit for votes. It is an old culture practice gaining the favor from the people in the community.