what will you do if you caught your boyfriend/girlfriend with someone

me too. i found out that my on/off bf had already a new baby and a baby boy. well the worst of it is that he got the girl pregnant while we were still together. Imagine..i wasnt able to detect it. i just found out about it when his baby is 8 mos old. so stupid of me. well im just glad that im over him.[thank God] but ive been through a lot of hell. just try to move on. theres no harm on trying.

It really hurts a lot especially when I saw my girlfriend having an affair with someone. You love the person very much and then you will just be deceived and cheated. Perhaps, I cannot really accept that fact. I will not take it seriously, as our life is only one. Life must go on and should move on with our life. There are lots of girls out there that you could choose from. There will still be a girl that will truly and faithfully love me with all her heart, same thing here with me. I am not a jealous person when it comes on this matter. I do not want to have an affair with a girl who, in real, does not really like me at all. We should know how to let go a person. If it is indeed reasonable to let her go, then I might liberate her and I am already happy to where she is going to be happy with. God speed!

Sad to hear about this girl, I can feel your pain..because I have been there at your situaion before,not once,not twice but so many times that i thought I have run out of tears for him.. Mine could even be worst because he keeps on coming back to me but then keeps on cheating me too..so I was like holding my life for him..and that was for five yaers.. Finally,I got the courage to move on..and God found me, crushed and broken..and I offered Him all the pains and heartaches. He not only took it away but gifted me with someone to love me the way I have never been loved before. If your boyfriend said he doesn't love you anymore,let him go..I'm sure you deserve someone that will reciprocate the love you are giving. Life is beautiful, yes we do face challenges most of the time but generally life is good,live and enjoy it!

I'd leave him. It shows he does not respect me or the relationship. It shows he's too selfish to have a deep and lasting relationship with someone. I don't want to be with someone who's too scared to get extremely close to someone. There are plenty of people out there who don't cheat, and I don't need to be with one of the scummy people who do!

Hi Michfroi. I am sad to hear that from you. Anyway, what he was doing will be the most silly mistake he had made for not appreciating you, he will regret for sure. Hope you are fine and ok for now. Well, personally I never caught my boyfriend with any other girl - yet. Haha.

I don't know what I'd do if I caught my girlfriend cheating on me. I dont think I would handle it very well... I've seen it happen to my friends and I could tell it was killing them, but it has never happened to me, and I'm thankful for that. However I can't even imagine nor do I want to about that happening or how I'd feel about it. What a difficult question, makes you think about alot of things that you would rather not... and Im sorry about what happened to you, your obviously to good for that clown.

i admire you for very strong. I had also experience being hurt a lot because of that but i never had caught them in my two eyes. Though in a couple of months before he confess i had already a strong instinct that he change and he is doing something fishy. Yes its very painful but what i can do but is to let it go though it really hurts me. My ex-bf cheated on me and he confess with me at the same time ends the relationship. I can really accept it and it really hurt me to the point that i would ended my life because of that. It is very stupid to think of that but its true when your on that stage of very painful situation when you are very inlove. I have to deal with it for almost one year process of healing. Though it make me a better person now because of that painful experience i would never like to be in that situation again. I have forgive him after a year but the fact i know scars is still remain. I have learned to forgive him willingly in my heart for me to completely move on with a new life. now i could say i am a better person and i learned a lot so much with that experience and that ex bf of mine is do have regrets in doing that to me. He actually want to us to come back but its not on my vocabulary. He regret and ask forgiveness. i forgive him but not accept getting back. He ruin the trust that i kept so its hard to get it back. I have a new life and i like to move on with new people and hopefully with the right person.

That's terrible. But for me, I would the same thing as you did.

It is so terrible. It is just so hurtful and I can imagine that. I hate being cheated because I am always single-minded in this aspect. If he did so, I would break up with him and there was no way to change it. A one who loves me shouldn't betray me. So I shouldn't love anyone who betrays me. There is no excuse to explain his behavior.

I caught my boyfriend not only once but 3 times...in different circumstances. First, a girl called me claiming to his wife, it turned out she's the ex who just found out she's pregnant. Right after I received the call, I rushed to my boyfriend's and talked about it calmly, then his mother called and said that's the girl is not my boyfriend's wife at all. It was settled, it's part of his past and so I have no business in that situation. The girl and boyfriend settled it themselves -- my boyfriend shouldered all expenses when she gave birth. My relationship with my boyfriend become stronger. Then after a while, another girl sent me SMS claiming that my boyfriend just broke up with her because of me...oh, well, no doubt its a situation where I was the winner without even fighting for it. The third instance was the worst because my boyfriend became MIA (Missing in Action) for several days so I was prompted to trace out some phone numbers and finally discovered that he went off with his high school girl friend...so in this situation, I was left with no choice but to let him go. I was really hurt but in my heart I was confident that my boyfriend will come back to me. After like four months when I was already healed from the pain, I mailed to him his stuff. But this instance opened the way for us to communicate again. After a couple of months we decided to see each other and give the relationship another start. this has been two years ago. Now, after all that we have been through, I think we have survived the storm and we have grown a lot together and the relationship is far, far better from the first time we tried and failed. I have more confidence that there will be no other girls bothering us in the future.

If i caught my boyfriend with someone, i will ask him who is that person and why so close with her. If he told me that he is truely love this girl, i think i won't ask him anything again. I will let him go but i won't wish them anything. So i will more careful in chosing the guy before he become my bf!!

if it does happen to me, i'll ask my husband to choose between her or me and my daughter. I wouldn't want to live with him knowning his heart belongs to other person anymore. I think it will be better for my daughter also than end up quarelling all the time.

I haven't caught any of my ex boyfriends in the act. But I know one of them fooled around. This instinct thing and some rumors I've heard from other people who have seen my ex-boyfriend out with someone else. Well, my reaction to this thing is just too simple. It's not my lost at all. If I'm gonna leave him for his foolishness, then it's not my lost. I've been so true to him and I'm sure what he has done (his unfaithfulness) would be back to him in the near future because I believe that life is a boomerang. All we have done to others will be back to us at any moment, just like what the golden rule says.

i really dont know what is my reaction when i encounter this maybe i try to be calm..i dont want dramas at all if he doesnt like me at all we can go our own separate ways that's the best way to console your feeling...

What would I do? Well it would depend on a few things actually....First off if I caught them in THIS house messing around I'd beat the everloving crap out of them both but my husband would get a more severe beating....IF however it was somewhere else I'd probably knock him around for not telling me..I dont care if he sleeps wiht someone else...use protection and TELL ME FIRST...I have ZERO tolerance for deceipt and lies...Then I would want to know if he wanted to be with her rather than us (the kids and I) and if he did then fine..i'm not goin to fight or argue over it...If he is happier with someone else then so be it...So long as he's happy ya know...

wow...I could sense the emotions flowing your veins when you wrote these words. Indeed, it is never easy finding our special someone having another one. It is so hurting and quite understandable because the person is now a part of you. Detaching from the person and all the memories shared is like killing that part of you. Nevertheless, I must say you had succeeded in putting up a brave front and made the right decision as far as the relationship is concerned. It is never easy but time will heal all wounds and quite all hearts. Magdasal ka lang...

In fact, you're right but i'd have suggested you let him know that you're hurt though you've decided to let bygones be bygones. may it was just one of those lust and not real love or the inner characters you possess she doesn't have them and your bf will holdback onto you. sometimes pride can let us loss what is our due. it's not good he did that but don't give up on him and he can probably appologise to you for such a human error. so my dear mylot friends talk with your bf and let him know you're the same as that girl.

Its a very good decision on your part. Just always remember TRUST AND RESPECT goes always with LOVE..... Although the decision will cause you pain just pray and move on ... There's someone much better for you,I assure you... take care hope we get along well in the future have a nice day...

you realy great girl, i never had, but im sure i will do the same, i think you deserved a better one, good luck.

IF someone cheated on me, they woulnd't be worth trying to keep, thats the way I see it too. If they love someone else, I'm wasting my time.