Have you ever said, 'I don't love him anymore'.

I agree there totally. Love is not like a movie that you pick and choose and then abort!! Love is something divine and beautiful, love is life, love is myself. It's not like one moment we like it and then we don't! I feel, when we love someone we accept him/ her with the positives and negatives, in totality. So, there is no question of throwing him/ her. ppl who do not have their values right do that. Thanks.

No, I have never said those words before and I never will say them. No, love is not a thing that can just be switched on and off like a light bulb. You either love someone or you don't, plain and simple. When people say things like that, it means they never loved that person in the first place. They may have thought that they loved the person, but it was more than likely infatuation or lust. True love withstands the test of time, it doesn't just wear off. I think it's awful how many people just throw around the words "I love you" without truly thinking about what it means and what they're saying. Then, once things go wrong, they don't "love" them and the next person they're with for 5 minutes is the one they really love. It's all very sad.

When I feel bad or pissed off with my girlfriend that's the time I tell her I don't love you anymore it's more on anger still when she ask for sorry or she apologize everything turns to normal.Love is very broad to understand. I think it's more on feelings and emotions.

love is a feeling,when you run out of this feeling,you will not love this person any more,so you should say,'i don't love him anymore'.this's love.

I've never said those words before, but love fluctuates. I've seen some people grown cold of each other. I think during the relationship, they grow separately and they haven't really talked to each other deeply anymore or something...at least that's what I've seen in one relationship. They had a relationship for 3 years but then slowly but sure, the girl felt nothing more to the guy and finally broke it off. I think one reason is that they grow to different directions, thus there's this huge gap created between them...and since they don't talk about it, the gap keeps on becoming bigger and bigger and soon there's no more bridge between them...they become alienated from each other...and love is gone. This may be one cause of the loss of love IMO.

I personally have never said these words, love to me is a very strong and sacred emotion. But recently i have been betrayed by a girl who suddenly stopped loving me at least thats what i think. Betrayal is something no one should experience at the level of strong love. It has been over a month and a half and i cannot seem to lose the pain. All of the energy i have put into loving and believing that i am being truly loved back has turned the love in my heart into pure hatred i cannot sleep properly i wake up angry and I dont think anyone should feel the way I feel, I hate this feeling its disgusting.

When a person loves someone (on an intimate level) it IS very possible to fall out of love with them...Look at domestic abuse victims...They started off head over heels in love with that person...but after the abuse begins and continues on could YOU still love someone like that? I know I didnt!! Then there are times when ppl just grow apart...life changes, things happen and the love just dwindles...There isnt anything UNnatural about it at all in fact I think its just the opposite..its very natural and what would be UNnatural IMO is if a person remained in love with someone who beat them daily or treated them like garbage etc...

Unfortunately it works both ways, my ex husband said he didn't love me anymore. These things happen, and to be honest we had been together for a lot of years and gradually grown further and further apart. Perhaps I might be a bit cynical here but my rose tinted glasses were broken a very long time ago and the reality seems to be radically different from the ideal of perfection we all harbour inside.

I feel that way about my ex-girlfriend. I mean, I still care about her and want her to be happy. I don't know if you consider that love. But I'm certainly no longer "in love" with her. Maybe that's the thing - you have to differentiate between caring for the person and actually being "in love" with the person.

You're right. We can't just switch love on and off. It's not something that appears suddenly so it can't just dissapear in an instant. I guess most women say it because they want to impose it to themselves...maybe... Or maybe they don't understand love in it's entire meaning and they don't realize how deep real love is. I'm sure I could never say that because no matter what happens, I know my love for him cannot fade, not to mention dissapearing.

women and men "i didn't love you anymore" is totally different. on men side, the word is a final decision, even though going back to the relationship itself, takes so long times to heal, and it's rare that they will get in back to the relationship. on women side, the word is not a final decision. It means temporarily emotion cliche. it's brought from the nature of how women release their stress, by talking out what inside their heart. But sometimes they did not know. They needs time to think before they get back to think what they said about. Worst, when women said this to men, men will accept it as a final decision. And else, when women hear this from men, when she thought what she said to him, she thought he will love her back later, she waits but none love more from the guy. each other has to understand how they use their nature. because men and women had many different way or method that needs together in communicating and knowing how each opposite side react and look at a perspective. If each persists of its perception, it will only trigger a bomb to widen the gap in the relationship.

I have said this to my husband before! we had been through some tough times and just pushed one another away to the point I didn't even want to see him! Our marriage was obviously falling apart! But we went to counseling and it helped a lot! we've been together for so long (since i was in 8th grade) that i didn't want to be alone, but we made it through!!

yes i think it is not good ,i ever said to my boyfriend :i donot want to see you anymore "i was very angry with him then ,but now i can not forget him ,i often write email to him ,or give him sms ,otherwise i love him ,he is my part of my life ,so i will wait for him still .

Hiya! Yes i have said 'I dont love you anymore', to my husband at the time. It was an awful realisation for myself and him. We were very much in love at the start of the relationship and could never imagine being apart but once we got married (after 4 years of living together), our expectations of each other changed and our vast differences in opinions of what our roles should be drove us apart. Feelings are fluid but you cannot 'switch' love off, it happens over time. In my marriage i lost respect for my husband because of his abuse and i eventually realised i didnt like him very much as a person and thats when i knew the love was gone. x

i did hear them before...i dont understand it either...love doesnt vanish just like that...maybe,i say maybe,if the partner betrays you in such a way that when you look at him you see a stranger,and then you can say i dont love you anymore,i dont love what you've become,i love the person that i have fallen in love with,and that is not you... on other hand,i think feelings can dissapear,little by little,if they are not shared...and if you dont feel as loved as you want...and one day ,after frustrations and anger,you analyse yourself and u say you dont love the person next to you anymore..i think it could happen,if you are not happy

Hi kishusia! Oh yes Ive said those words alot. But I only say it when Im mad at my husband. I know I shouldnt but I do.Its the only way I can realise my tensions.

Yes, I have said those words. Just recently I've said those words. I believe you can fall out of love with someone. Sometimes two people can drift apart and begin to not understand the person they are with. I just broke up with my boyfriend and I told him it was becuase I didn't love him anymore. We had been living together but we were fighting all the time. We ended up going our own seperate ways. PART of me will always love him but I no longer need him or want him. I've lost that feeling of butterflies whenever he and I are together. SO yes, I believe you can fall out of love with someone.

I have never said these words even before my husband and me were together. I would get mad at him for whatever reason but never said that I don't love him any more. I think it is very hard to say that you don't love them any more just all of a sudden. I think that maybe those feelings had slowly slipped away or went away but I don't think it is something that can happen like a switch. I think you can be so upset or mad at someone that you may feel that you don't love them or want to be around them but I think that is just from anger not what the true feeling is.

Hi Kishusia. I said that before. I said that when I wish to break up with my bf. I said it and I mean I will not care every single thing of his anymore. If he still want to act and hurt me, I will just ignore because I won't love him anymore. To me, love is kind of caring and feeling to protect and understand him well. So, when I said I don't love him anymore, which mean I will never care of him anymore.

I think if someone is able to say these words then they never knew what love was to begin with. You can't just fall out of love with someone it's impossible. If you truly grasp the concept of love and feel that love for someone it will always be there no matter what.