Do you think that the older you get, the harder it is to make TRUE friends?

Yes, poohgal, it seems that way indeed. I've seen the pattern in my friends' lives as well. They've found lots of acquaintances and colleagues and friends to hang out with, but not real friends that they can share EVERYTHING with. That kind of friends I've met in my school days, as well (Junior High and High School). It seems kinda funny indeed...but maybe it's also because people are getting busy and busy and most people already have their cliques of close friends and they're not really looking for other closest friends. Maybe only after retirement then people have enough time to bond with new people. I don't know yet 'coz I'm not that old, but your observation is valid enough IMO.

I think so.. because thats what is happening to me.. i only have friends who were there right from school.. Some others at work too.. But they are not very close as the prev ones..

I think that you can find true friends in any age. It is just about finding the person who has a lot of in common and who can understand you and share your interest.

To my mind, perhaps it is. To be sure, you may be very much correct in saying that it's relatively easier for you to make true friends when you were younger, given your personal experience. If I were to make a guess, what could probably account for this is the idea that when you're still younger, you're more carefree and idealistic. Since you have not been really exposed yet to the evils or the negative things in the world, you perhaps tend to easily trust others and actually develop true friendships with them, and such friendships get cemented with the natural passage of time. Also, when you're still younger, you're just in the stage of your life where you could not be totally independent yet, since you're just starting to explore different things around you, you're not yet mature, and financially stable. As a result, you tend to develop friendships, if only to have reliable people around you in this exploratory stage of your life. As you become older, though, you perhaps naturally tend to be more secure with yourself and you perhaps feel that you're already complete as a person, for whatever reason/s you may have. In this particular case, you would probably find it quite hard to look for true friends perhaps because you think that you do not need true friends anymore because you've reached self-actualization already. Further, as you grow older, you perhaps become more critical and doubtful about a lot of things and of people probably because of your past experiences, which could have gravely hurt you. So, to insulate yourself from the kind of pain you've endured before, you just opt to shy away from people who could potentially become your true friends, since you perhaps fear that they would only hurt you eventually, obviously assuming that you've been hurt by your so called "true friends" before. It goes without saying, though, that the possible reasons I've given are not the only plausible reasons why some people truly find it hard to easily develop true friendships as they grow older. Happy myLotting, poohgal! ;)

I read somewhere that the friends we keep are those friends that we make when we are younger. And I guess it is true. The true friends that I have now are the friends that I made when I was in college and in my early years at work. We have kept in touch through all these years and the friendship has not waned so far.

i think I agree with you. it is really difficult to find the truest friend if one gets older. The same case as yours, most of my true friends that i have right now are those that i knew way back my high school years. Though, im not saying that i dont have true friends in my work, i do, but they're selected. I work with them professionally, no personal attachment, but when we get off from work, thats where friendship comes in. There are really people who is hard to build trust with. My friends that i have right now (I am referring to the ones I met at work), are good people. I wouldnt say they're true but as far thing are going within the friendship, everything is okay. I havent tested how true they are to the frienship, but i think it doesnt need to go through some test as long as i know that i am true to them. I just believe in the thought that if you want others to be true to you, you need to be true to them first, especially to yourself. Have a great day pooh!

hello there poo..happy day to yea..i say its been deff much easier and better as i am getting older..when i was younger..there was soo much drama..and pettiness..i was backstabbed and used all the time..because we were so immature i guess..and as i have grown i have learned many things..what to look for in friends and they have grown too..and i have found wonderful friends that i woulkd do anything for..and they for me..i love them soo much..to me they are just ppart of my family:)

yes, i agree.. When in school, everybody is still young and innocent so it's quite easy to make true frenz.. However when we are in the working world, everything changes.. ple will back stab u in order to get wat they want.. so it's really very hard to make true frenz as we grow older..

yea u r absolutely rite....e1 i remember of my best friends belonging to the schooling days...i dont remember of any BEST FRIENDS dat i have in my college times..its really hard i dont e1 remember their names..oops!!well i believe as u grow older many other matters do creep into ur minds other than jus beign friend...probably dat mite b the reason why v dnt have many friends now...basically at schooling times..v all r innocent our minds jus as simple as a white cloth which doesnt believe in any sort of negativity...n now u tend to take worldly matters more seriously...hence the problem arises which results in lack of friendships n friends....

I've found that as I get older it's more difficult to make friends because I'm pretty picky about the time I spend with people. Some individuals are such lousy listeners and mutual communication is a must have. Some of my friendships I've made at work, but most of my friends I've found through volunteering. You're very fortunate to have kept the wonderful friends you made at school. These kind of friendships are priceless (:

I think so too. Well, I personally haven't go to work for now. But hearing from people experiences, I guess that's 100% true (for me though). My best friends are from high school and from my college. They are all nice, but some are already loss contact with me. So,I just keep what I got for now!! I'll be going on holiday with my friends tomorrow!! :) They are our treasure of Life,right pooh?

I don't think so! If you're friendly, surely you will friends. Maybe you just have less time to find friends or probably contented with the friends that you have or more particular in friends that you need now than you were much younger. Before you might be looking for outgoing friends but now you're looking for more mature and friends that will stick with you to the end.

i think its true. cause when u get older u dont trust easily. and the older the person the bigger his/her skeletons in the closet. and u just cant tell new friends what youve been through.

I'm not that old.I'm just a high school student.But I agree that as you are growing old,it's harder for you to trust others. But in my opinion,in spite of age.You can never expect others to know you so well or be your ideal" true friend".It needs luck,a suitable time and occasion and opportunity. However i think it is easy to develop good friendships in workplace because you are together fighting for sth just as comrades in arms are likely to become good friends :)

I found it hard to make true friends when I was a boy too. I don't know why. There was a change of place when I was a boy and when I moved to a new school, I found it difficult to make new friends. And the life of the city for me was different from a town. And, guys would make friends only with those guys who had fancy pens, stickers, stamps and stuff. I had none of those, so they wouldn't befriend me. So, I've been a loner most of my life and even now I am much of a loner. I have very few friends and sometimes I feel better to be alone than have friends who are very artificial. And I realised that people come into our lives for a reason and then once the reason is accomplished they leave. But apart from that, there are certain soul friends who are soul mate friends. And they can come into your life at any point of time. And they stay forever. I've had certain friends like that, but they are very rare. Only one in a million do you find them. But, you need to be in tune with your heart to attract soul friends. But I agree with you, priorities change as we grow and people get busy with their lives, and the mind is so preoccupied with other things they are not able to give time to friendship. That's the only reason. It's hard to make true friends as you grow old but not difficult.

The reason may be that we become more matured and have developed the analysing skills and have in us the bad experiences,that had developed because of betrayals by the close relatives/friends. So, when we become old, we will not easily/ take it for granted a person as a true friend,whereas it is not the case when we are young. Mostly during childhood days we believe what we see, and trust everyone during those days.

yes thats exactly right, after a point it becomes very difficult to make good friends. By good friends i mean those friends who would drop by just to say hi, and for no particular reason. Those friends are very rare to find. On the other hand there are lot of friendships which happen as a matter of convinence, and you can make such kinda of friendships almost at any stage of your life, but these people wont stick.... once there is no mutuality of interest it will be hard to keep "frinedship of conveniance"

as i got older i found it easier for me to get along with more people but harder for me to really become close friends with them. i have become very picky through the years, compared to my schooling days where i'd be friends with all my classmates and with a lot of people in campus. i guess it's a good thing to be picky too, because you cannot just trust anybody out there. plus sometimes you just have to keep a certain amount of distance between you and your colleagues so that you can both be professional at work.