Describe your first or one of your first boyfriends or girlfriends

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What was your first boyfriend or girlfriend like? INSIDE AND OUT. What was he like? What drew you to him? Did you discuss marrraige and the future at all? The first guy who asked me to marry him wasn't actually my boyfriend but someone twelve years older. I met him in Praia, Cape Verde where I was tagging along with my mom on a business trip. Prai was an island off the west coast of Africa that was in drought and looked like a moonscape. Klauss was there as a Danish hydrologist. He tried to convince me after two weeks to marry him or at least go with him on his travels, he was going to MAlawi next. I told him I hadn't known him long enough, so he came visiting to the states a year later to ask me again. My first boyfriend was older too (as opposed to my second who was much younger). He was a financial advisor. Its funny, at a temp job I was told by a girl who'd just met me on that particular job that this boyfriend who ocassionally met me at work, that he didn't look like someone I would go out with. I looked like someone who would go out with an artist or a musician. I've been stopped a lot and asked if I was an artist, especally then. Looks can be deceiving though - not in my case, but his. Before he donned the expensive suits and went for all those initials behind his name (CFA, CFP) that aren't easy to come by, he had had long hair and was a bit of an altie. Alternative guy. He was everything I could want in a boyfriend, he could've been an honorary lesbian the way he liked to process things. He liked to talk, and when he had a problem he took my questions to him seriously and would perculate on things I said and asked for days, and come to me with problems solved, or reframed and could clearly explain the process he took, (and liked to) from my insights or questions to the final solution. He could have long intelligent monologues on random things - playing with words - combining the silly with the insightful. A master of words - just what I'd always wanted. And he understood mine and sought them, wanting to read my work - both written for him and not. He was affectionate and thoughtful. And fun. We went on weekend adventures to Marin, Carmel and other places. Lotsov hiking. However my relationship was too crowded. Mr Hyde butted in at the most inopportune times, so that I found myself walking on eggshells or climbing half dome when I was reeling from the altitude, quite literally throwing up the whole way. But Mr Hyde, instead of being solicitious, as Dr Jekyl would be, was pissed because he had wanted to share the event. So that was my first, and my second. He spend a year trying to get me to come back across country again. Finding all the right words to say until I gave in. When, if I were watching the victim channel, Lifetime, I would yell at the girl to not be so naive! STay put where she had it made. Nice house. No screwing over friends/roomates who needed the third share of rent. The second time I left, despite his visit to me, I didn't speak to him as much. When I did He'd promised marraige and a house in Sausalito. Then he said, but we'll keep the engagement secret. His friends didn't want tme too as he spent far to much time in fetal position crying. I felt sorry for Dr Jekyll but felt relieved to be rid of Dr Hyde. What about your first boyfriend? What was he like? What drew you to him? Did you discuss marraige and the future at all?