Are you a trusting person? Do you trust to easily? Do you know why or why not?
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
October 20, 2007 10:04am CST
Did you see this discussion coming? lol...
I have to admit that I've always trusted to easily and this morning I've been reading articles online about the subject and think I have found out the answer...for me anyway.
Growing up I never had to worry about trusting anyone. My parents were always there for me no matter what. One time when I was only 12 (actually I just thought of another instance just like this but on to this one..lol)...I fell and cut my leg when I was having a picnic with a bunch of kids my age. We weren't chaperoned so one of them found an adult who called an ambulance. When I got to the hospital since I was so young they asked who they should call and I immediatly said my Dad who was at work. I knew he would get there as fast as he could (my mom didn't drive) and he was there before I knew it. Like I said there are quite a few stories like this where I trusted that my Dad would be there and he always was.
I can't think of a single time that I was let down by my parents or anyone else in my life back then. I guess the world was a better place to live and people were much different than they are now.
Are you the type of person who trusts immediately or are you the type who has to think about it first?
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14 responses
@areweine (33)
• United States
20 Oct 07
Yep, that's me. I think it's because I always want to see the best in those around me and for the most part I do. I think it's because I feel like if you expect the best from those around you you're more likely to get it. Although every once in a while even I find that one who is just a lost cause. How about u?
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
10 Nov 07
Unfortunately althought I want to see only the best in those around me it's not usually there and I get disappointed time and time again!
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
20 Oct 07
Hello there. I feel that I used to be a very trusting person. I trust whatever people tell me. After a few painful experiences of being cheated, I learned not to be so trusting of people (especially people you do not know well). Of course, I am still very trusting of people like my family members and good friends. As for acquaintances and colleagues, I learned not to take their words prima facie. I learned to think through the facts first before putting my trust in.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
20 Oct 07
Of course I trust my family and friends but my problem is because I am honest I think everyone else is and their not always.
@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
25 Oct 07
I don't want to be as trusting as I am--a little naively so...
@bestisyettocome (1531)
• United States
25 Oct 07
I AM the person who immediately trusts. It has gotten me into so much trouble, being this way. I truly give people the benefit of the doubt for sure. I have gotten screwed over so many times, I can't count. But, I guess that is my nature. And I can tell you, once someone screws me over, I do have an attitude, and find making up a no way situation. I am bad. I hold a grudge.
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
20 Oct 07
I think it's better to have learned early NOT to trust everybody we meet. I wouldn't have all the problems I have today if I weren't so trusting.
@fab315 (1231)
• Philippines
31 Oct 07
Hello!
I'm a kind of a person who easily trust someone especially if its a friend of mine or someone I know of and it had became my problem. I easily trust people, open up to them, to me being my friend means I trust you. But I had quite a few bad experiences with being so trusting, it led to arguments and broken friendships. I had been betrayed and been hurt of people I trusted and i've realized that being so trusting won't do good to you at all.
I know my own family is an exemption, I know I can trust them, proven and tested. I trust my family especially my parents, I trust them with my life, I know they'll always be there for me and will never let me down and I would do the same to them.
Now, I don't trust a person immediately anymore, I think about it first and know the person very well. I choose the person who I can trust now and I got plenty of them. *smile*
ciao! c",)
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
20 Oct 07
I don't trust people too easily but I don't mis trust too soon either.when I was young , I was so shy that I would stick to my mom and dad.Now I am leery of some things but as much new people.
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@cdv102 (132)
• United States
20 Oct 07
You've been really lucky and blessed with a great, trustworthy family. I, too, could always count on my parents too. But I definitely don't trust everyone. You just can't, unfortunately. I've been let down by people I trusted more than once, or been the target of scam artists, and once that happens to you, you learn to protect yourself. Not that you should never trust anyone, but you can blindly trust everyone who tells you to.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
20 Oct 07
When I was younger I trusted people too much, ctry, and I was repaid by often being treated badly. We all want to feel that everyone is basically honest and will do the right thing, but life teaches us that this is not always the case. I grew up with loving, caring people around me and I quickly learned to depend on them. Once I ventured out into the real world I found that people can be deceptive and not always have your best interest in mind.
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@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
20 Oct 07
I'm not really all that trusting myself. I grew up in a little of a harsher life then most so you always had to keep an eye out. My mom was great and did everything she could but it was all the other people around us we couldn't trust. Now as being an adult I still find it hard right out to trust someone because it can do a lot of damage to me and everything around me so I stay safe and keep an eye open until I feel comfortable enough to let someone in to trust.
@missbdoll (1165)
• Australia
21 Oct 07
I used to be very trusting but a few years ago I was very badly betrayed by someone I thought was a very close freind.Its sad now I find it very hard to trust.
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@andyliuzn (1029)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Oct 07
Well, it depends on where I am. In the place I work, I don't always trust some people some easily, I need to investigate before I come to a mind. In the real life, I come to easily trust my best friends and my family.
Andy
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@isaiah12 (416)
• United States
21 Oct 07
Trust is a very important thing to me. And I do not trust very many people. I especially have trouble trusting men. Right now the only men I trust is my father, my uncle, my cousin and my two daughters husband and boyfriend.
I have had people in my past who I have trusted, opened up to. And they misused my trust. Now I am very careful with people until I feel I can trust them. And if they do anything to lose my trust. It is very hard for them to regain it.
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@machikaiser (15)
• Mexico
20 Oct 07
Trust...
if you are regarding trusting people immediatly in any social surroundings, then in general, my answer would be NO
i learnt that ppl only think of their own gainings, and i learnt it the hardway which is the best coz its incribe into your memory like a sound resonance everytime you meet new ppl
Specially once you enter the world of business, FRIENDS does not exist, only alliance and partnership.. each with their own gains and benefits, now adays no-one will actually sacrifice for others, back then HUMAN VIRTUE was the most important thing, now its MONEY..
When ppl approach me with new suggestions about business first i will try to pinpoint their maingoal, their prioritary benefit, then my own, if both works out then its a deal
but if ppl approach me for friendship.. that would be much more complex, i would test them as they test me
the Human can not live in loneliness, one always seek to live in society
