Back to the ex

Im sorry to hear that...but I sensed from your previous post that she really isn't in love with you -- she's just using you to, probably make her ex-bf jealous..and now that she got what she wanted, time to say goodbye. Anyway, life doesn't end there. Just continue living and loving =)

Dang sf-you know what I think you may wear your heart on your sleeve. I know I'll probably get some criticism for saying this but sometimes you've gotta be mean-not like cruel but just hard b/c it'll make the girl respect you. It sorta goes back to little girls & their daddies-you have to show that you are in charge or you'll keep getting your heart broken. :hugs: ps she lost out on a great thing b/c you have shown yourself to be a great,caring person-(just don't be too nice all the time) |:)

I feel with you. I am sorry that she made you sad. All you can do is to be careful with making new relationship too fast. When I wanted a real love, first I boiled my man for a few weeks. :) One is the hunter and the other is the prey. If the hunter get the prey too fast, it will not be worthy for him/her. Be smart.

I am sorry you got disappointed yet again. Unfortunately there are many people out there that use the word "love" very loosely. They are confused and have not a clue as to what love and caring are all about. You sound like a decent guy with a few ethics and morals. Be patient and don't settle for less than what you are worth. I too have been in some very disappointing relationships. I no longer set my sites on "forever". I just appreciate the good times while they last knowing there are no guarantees. I make sure that I am not bitter or jealous or controlling or any of the things that are sure to kill a relationship. I don't cheat and do my best to be considerate. If things don't work out, then I know that at least I tried and move on...usually on friendly terms. I am 51 and am currently dating a man that hadn't dated in 5 years just holding out. I hadn't dated in a year and prior to that 4 years. I was just tired of it all. The funny part is that he had asked me out 2 weeks before I started seeing him and I told him that i was seeing someone....a lie. i just didn't want to see anyone. he continued to come into my workplace and sort of flirt and one day he came in and said, " could I please have your phone?". I thought he said phone # and so I gave it to him. I thought he KNEW i had lied to him. So far so good. Time will tell. No expectations...no disappointments. One day at a time. If it all goes to h...l tomorrow, I will at least have some fun memories. don't give up.

Why are you sad when that girl used you as a test of her love for her ex? You will find your missing piece of love sometime when it is right. Love comes to its own time and its own season. The more you search the more you confuse. So don't search just let it comes to you. Do you believe in fate?

I will tell you what I have been saying to my youth group for years. When the time is right you will meet the one for you. Enjoy yourself as you look for that one person, but if things don't work out as you hoped, keep on keeping on. The right one will come and when they do you will know. - mjfdesigns

Just hang in there, friend. It is not the end of the world yet. You will find another woman soon that will love you for you. Just remember not to date women that just got out of a relationship because they are still hurting and usually not over their exes yet.

I am sorry. She wasn't the right woman for you. The right one will love You and you alone.She is out there. I know you will find her.

so sorry to hear that friend..i'm sure she's only using you, so that the pain she felt will be lessen from her break up with her ex..i know the hurt that you felt..but she's not worthy for you love..and i'm sure you can find a right one for you..good luck..

This is a classic case of rebound love. Next time be wary of people who are fresh from a breakup. They may say they love you but they really don't. Much of what they do is just a reaction to their previous relationship.

It sucks how people do that. They just toy with your emotions by pretending to have genuine feelings. I'm in a similar situation. Part of it is my good sense telling me there's no way this guy really loves me, and then there's the matter of trust as well. It's really frustrating because more than anything I want to put my faith in him, but I can't.

That really hurts a lot on your part. It seems that she does not really love you and she is still in love with her ex-boyfriend as what you have described above. As for the moment, you have to move on and go on with your life. I know it is very hard for you to accept that, but we cannot do anything for it. We cannot please her to go back again with you. I encourage you to look for another woman that will truly and faithfully love you with all her heart. Have a nice day and God speed!

I am sorry to hear something liek that, but i think you have nothing to be sad about.It seems liek the girl didn't take the relationship so seriously when she is swtching from one boy to another and I think you deserve somethign better.To me this girl don't know what she want and she is not good for you.Don't worry you will find someone who would love you soon, love is out there for each of us, we just have to wait for right time.

I have the same all my life, I am 41. This relationship I am in know is only 10 months old. Only I have it with men. So there is no difference with experience. Whether a man or a women. I used to think only men were bad, so to speak. But once I reached 30 I realized it has nothing to do with man or women. You either found the right person or you did not. In your case, is it possible this bestfriend who told you about your girlfriend being back with her ex, was jealous? Have you asked your girlfriend, if this is true? Did you talk about it, if not , give her a call and ask for an explaination. You should at least get one. If she is back with her ex, does not mean she did not love you. She probly did at that moment, only the love for this ex might still be stronger. Anyway, lots of fish in the sea. I am 41, always say I am going to stay by myself, and somehow , somewhere there is someone else that helps me through life. So don´t be sad. You had a good time. Many more will come, if not with her, then with someone else. Take care.