When must you say, I LOVE YOU.....?
By UNPINOY
@UNPINOY (361)
Philippines
October 22, 2007 4:30am CST
Big words, some find it hard to say, to others, too easy, and too often. I put much care into loving someone special, i value every word i utter, i time my every romantic move. I make that person like there's no one else in this world. Tell me, when do you say these beautiful words to someone you love most?
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@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
29 Oct 07
SOmetimes it is not easy to say. It is easier to hug and kiss the person we love. I do not know why, though in my mother tongue I can say it with one word, not with three. "szeretlek"
We feel ourselves naked from this word. When we say, it is important for us, but we are afraid, what if it is not important for that person. A son or daughter takes it naturally, it is not a question for them.
I am very glad when my son says to me this word. On saturday evening both he and me lied in our own bed in our own bedroom. It was alredy dark in the flat, the doors were open. My son said loudly: "Mom!" "Yes, honey?!" "I loveyou!" "I loveyou too honey!" He was so cute. At the evenings one of my last words is always this word.
The other person I must say this word to, is my boyfriend. I see, that if I say it too often he does not believe me.
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@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
You are true saying the words I LOVE YOU exposes us. We always try to be on guard with our feelings. Various reasons, cultural, some maybe afraid, others not used to it and would rather or best express in actions. Whatever way we express, it is always that genuine thought to the words. You story of you kid makes me really feel good. Coming from a child, you know he meant, coming from his little heart. And that's a good start for you little boy, genuine expression. You are one lucky mom.
Another, it is always timing, good timing when we say the words especially to a special someone....they always hear, some tend to take it forgranted or not believe...But i'm when people say "Nah, i don't believe you" they actually are happy deep within (especially men. COntinue sharing your kind of love, thanks so much for sharing. Take care always, Perry
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@lionceak (65)
• Moldova
11 Mar 08
i think that these words shouldnt be played with . they have too much power in them , they can make a person's life the most beautiful sunny garden or it can destroy one's life depending on the sincerity of these words . but different situations different circumstances and you'll get alot of different answers but as in general i stick to the fact that these words should be spoken only if really they are meant
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Mar 08
I like the way you said that I love you has to be sincere to warm the others heart otherwiseit comes over like a cold stone.
@menctomas (278)
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
I am not naturally "malambing" but I make it a point now to show my feelings to the people I love. I've learnt that everyone is different when it comes to needs. some people don't like saying I love you. They find it corny. others, well they can't help it. I say I love you to my children when I wake them up in the morning and when I say goodnight. WIth my husband, he is usually the one to wake me up with I love you's. men c",)
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@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
I can understand and relate to what you are saying. I didn't grow up in a family which says I LOVE YOU. Our way of expressing it was through actions and gift giving. But having seen many families being expressive of their love to each one, I learned to reinvent myself, and say the words, no matter what the reaction of the person infront of me is. We have so little time in the world, that I don't wish to be again in any situation that it is too late to say these wonderful words. I say the words as I feel it. Thanks for sharing my friend, continue spreading the love. Take care, perry
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@menctomas (278)
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
My mission now is to infect people with goodness Perry, so with that I must change to being more expressive! People around me are rather surprised about this, they are taken aback when i say i love you to them (i only say it to those i really love though lol) anyways, wish you more love!
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
12 Feb 08
I think the more important is how do you say these magic word. I say it not in English but in French: Je t'aime. And I got positif response from her :-)
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@sashuangqingfeng (103)
• China
12 Mar 08
good question!
I have also thought about it before,and I got no exact answer.Because everyone has differnt situations,there is no right and same time to say 'I LOVE YOU'to your lovers.Yes,it is indeed a big word.However,it is really neccessary to do so in the daily life although it is hard to speak out sometimes,for example,in the celebarating dating day,you abosolutely should own it.
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
I say I LOVE YOU to people I love most as often as I can. I want them to know how much they mean to me before its too late for them to hear those wonderful sweet words. Everytime i send an sms to my boyfriend, it always ended with those three words and i always end my day saying it to him either through phone call or sms. I dont want to sleep with any hold back because every day is a blessing from God to share, love and enjoy life. We dont know when our hearts stop to beat, thus it would be best to express our love as often as we can.
@cikedo (3483)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I only say it when I mean it. Those words are supposed to be special and reserved for those most special in your life. If you tell just any girl or guy your dating that you love them the words become easier to say and don't mean as much. I say those words only when I'm sure that it really is love and not just infatuation. Saying I love you isn't the most important thing to me though. Actions speak louder than words. If a guy wants to show how much he loves and cares for me I want him to show it. Words can become to easy to say and may start to sound like lies if they say it too much.
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@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
Oh yes, words become easy. The I LOVE YOU's become lies. Sad when people, use such special words. We all got to put care in saying these words, say it when we mean it, say it to that person we truly love. Not using the words to get what we want. And of course, best expressed with actions. From these actions, we find out how deep that love is....how genuine the I LOVE YOUS's are....thanks for sharing, spread the love, perry
@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
22 Oct 07
As often as I can. I don't mind telling someone that I really love, how I feel about them. My boyfriend and I say "I love you" to each other pretty much every day. I think it's very important. Of course, you need to back up those words with actions, but it's nice to hear too.
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@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
Yes...say I LOVE YOU a often as you can to each other. I has a binding effect, everyday, every hour, every minute, every second...say I LOVE YOU. It always gives a nice feeling, ecstatic....coupled with loving actions. Thanks for sharing, spread the love, perry
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
22 Oct 07
There is no need to hide our feelings towards our loved when we do love each other in our life. Just let her know that you love her inviting her to somewhere that you think would offer you more romantic ideas and pleasure.
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@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
YES!!!! No hiding of the feelings....say I LOVE YOU now, everyday, every moment you can. Sometimes, when you have that feeling that is so intense....word than words can express it. Umm, romantic moves are always the best, it can also me like doing something truly special like surprising the object of you affection with a surprise visit. This can prove that the love is so strong the heart can lead you anywhere you love is. Nice to talk to you my friend. Thank you and, spread the love, perry
@favefive (178)
• United States
22 Oct 07
If you are saying it for the first time to the one you love, it may be nerve-wrecking. The moment and mood should call for it. The right time will come, no matter how you plan it...it will just blurt out if the moment is right. :)
@bizmom (515)
• United States
22 Oct 07
WOW!
I would think ONLY when u truely deeply FEEL IT!
Theres no other way to say something that *should* mean so much!
I agree there is WAYS too many people saying WAY too early and way too SOON! :(
Wait on how u FEEL Liking someone EMENSLY isnt love its close but not love - caring for them isnt love!
When u can see urself WITH that person NOMATTER what - good bad ugly and very ugly times AND u care for them AND u LIKE them as a PERSON even!! Then yes!! i would think thats LOVE!
Good Luck
XX
@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
I totally agree, when you have that immense feelings towards the object of your affection, say the words I LOVE YOU....in whatever way you can. And very true, you say these not only on beautiful moments but even on the worst of circumstances, that's is really true love. Thanks for sharing, spread the love, perry
@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
22 Oct 07
Now I have my husband and kids. So that precious words will definitely goes and belongs to them, But I still remember when I was young, on that time, people always committed with that words. Nowadays I think people just simply say that words as a common greeting words.
Maybe time has changed, where something special and so special does not give deep beholden on that words. Not a serious saying right now...I think.
@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
Yes, saying I LOVE YOU to you children works wonders. The words comes as an assurance to them, that we as parents will always be here on their side, to guide and and to see them through life. The words now give a sense of security.
I believe, that many people should really ponder on the words....serious words, special words....meant spoken or shown with all sincerity. Thanks for sharing, spread the love....perry
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@Amberina (1541)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I say I love you when I feel like saying it I also say it after my fiance tells it to me or my kids, my family also. When I say it first to someone I don't exspect them to say it back to validate me saying it to them I say it to them to show my feelings for them. If they don't say it back then it's ok I want them to say it back when they mean it not because they feel they have to to be nice or polite. -Amber
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@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
You got a great point there. Say I LOVE YOU whenever you feel it, and not expect anything just for mere validation. It is the power of giving, you give what you can, what you give is theirs now. The return may not be now, tomorrow it may, but that giving person in me makes you truly lovable. And people around you notice this, and know this. Thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts, continue spreading the love, perry
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
im not an expressive person so i find it difficult to say what i truly feel. and im also kinda shy too when it comes to things like that. ^__^;; it would actually be a rare and precious moment when someone would make me say those words. LOL but when i say those words, i really mean it. for me those are very sensitive words which one should say only when they really mean it because those words would either make someone happy or hurt.
that is why i tend to be annoyed to guys who easily say those words without even thinking about it. i mean, those that i just met and would already say those words even though he only knows my name, age and location. ^.^ a big duh for them.
@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
Having revealed to me your sensitivity when it comes to expression of love, that person whom will bestow these loving words is the luckiest in the world. Your I LOVE YOUs would truly coming out from your big heart. Thanks for sharing, take care of your beautiful heart, and spread the love, Perry
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
29 Oct 07
well i believe you only say those words if you really mean them,these words are very strong words and i just cant say them if i dont believe i do love someone.but i knew the first week dating my husband that i was in love with him not just loving him.there is such a difference with what those words really mean,you can love someone but not really be in love with that person,but i am in love with my hubby and it will be 4 years marriage this november and what a strong true love we share.but i also say i love you to my family and friends as well,especially if they share a great part in my life.wow love is so beautiful.take care.pattie
@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
hey pattie....wow, four years, congratulations and my best wishes, more years of blissful marriage and happiness for your whole family. i am sure it feels like a lifetime if you are with someone you truly, genuinely love and loves you the same way. I LOVE YOU....yes, strong words, indeed, that we must keep special, spoken or shown only when we deeply love a person. anyone who are great parts of our lives are worth our I LOVE YOU's. Yes, we live in a wonderful world, full of love....love is beautiful, that is wonderful my friend. spread the love, take care too, perry
@miaocecilia (80)
• China
23 Oct 07
i usually say it to my parents,they love to hear it,hahah! i do say it at few special moment that spending with my bf~
@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
That's a good child, continue showing love to you parents, respect them always. Say I LOVE YOU to them as often as you can. Your mom and dad deserve all the love you have for them. Ummmm, as to your boyfriend, it's okay, say I LOVE YOU to him whenever you mean it. Take care. Thanks for sharing, spread the love, perry
@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
Umm.....very interesting thoughts. Definitely goes true to everyone. What you described is the one true love for me. The lover pursuing the object of love....affection, to share the wonderful feeling....desire, to share the beautiful moments. Pride realizes is has no place in love. Great thoughts, thanks for sharing, and spread the love, perry
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Mar 08
I saved the I love yous for my husband and my son after too many second and third cousins gushed their I love yous at me and really could not have cared less.It was just the thing to do. there was no feeling there more like have a nice day. right. so when I said I love you to my husband I meant it, it is you that I love only you. when at times I said I love you to my son it meant I love only you for you are my son and a veryspecial person. Tholse cousins have long gone on to other more expensive pursuits and I notice neither of them ever wrote. I Love Yous said too often and too carelessly mean nothing at all. The cousin I Love Yous were just like their air kisses. ugh.lol
@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
It is a real beautiful feeling when i receive comments such as yours. Taking meaning of words to heart, saying and expressing it when meant, directing the words only to the right persons in our lives, the special people. The "Ilove you's" when said or expressed in other ways has innate powers that can change lives and the world. Certainly, we must use this in all positive intents.
