Are Mothers Made or Born?
By jayger04
@jayger04 (64)
Australia
October 22, 2007 8:59am CST
My belief is that there are some women who are meant to be mothers, and some that learn to be mothers. Being a mother covers such a whole spectrum of roles and a massive learning experience for all involved. New mums grow with their children, if they have had a terrible experience from the birth they can become negative. Towards their children and negative in their lives and relationships. Those that say they were born to be mums it seems everything comes naturally to them.
Is it all based on your own childhood experiences? I don't think it is because my mother wasn't a fantastic tumble on the floor type of person, but she paid the bills, we never wanted for anything, but I'll say she wasn't born to be a mum.
What are your thought on this?
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6 responses
@Euphrosyne (139)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
I believe mothers are made. When I was single I didnt want to have a family because I don't like responsiblity esp raising children. I couldnt even imagine myself beign a mother. But when I had my own I never felt as fulfilled. We become mothers when we choose to be. It isnt just about having children. It's about giving them love, taking care of them, raising them to become good men. And it sure is not an easy job.
@gwendovere (1279)
• United States
22 Oct 07
Both. Some people just shouldn't have children. And some people are naturally good parents. And then there are some who we wouldn't *expect* to be good parents, but they come to a quick realization upon having kids & shape up their lives to provide the best possible environment for them. I was the last. I'm bipolar & my life was a mess when I got pregnant. But I'd always wanted to have kids & I made some drastic changes in my life to provide for my son the best I could. I've never regretted it.
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
22 Oct 07
I think learn to be mothers. Women give birth to their children and naturally they are expected to care for them. But that does not make them a mother yet because they are first time mother where they need to learn how to take care of their babies. They will do this by asking their own mothers and so were their mother who learn to be mothers themselves by asking their mother also. For those who have mother instinct, they are also in a learning process to become one. Some women who don't want to learn to a mother and that is why sometimes we hear about child abuse.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
23 Oct 07
Heres something to think about...... every Mother in the world was born by a Woman with an unbroken lineage of Mothers bearing children all the way back to the First Woman who ever lived.
This is Mind boggling, if you take a moment to think of the (going on for ever) quality of it all!
Theres is no doubt! Mothers are Born!
@shovmama (31)
• United States
23 Oct 07
I don't think that all women are meant to be mothers, but I also think that childhood has a lot to do with it. When I was just barely 9, I was taking care of 2 newborns full time because my aunt was one that should not have had kids. She wasn't a "bad" mother, but she didn't like it, and couldn't cope. Now, I know women that no possible way could they take care of 2 infants, but I had no choice at 9! So when my son was born, everytime he cried, I instantly reverted back to that little girl sitting in a rocking chair with a crying baby in each arm, and crying right along with them. There are definately women out there that should not have children, but who knows how much of it is because of past experience?
