Why do you request me as your friend?

cyntrow, I requested you as a friend because of your support for the GLBT community. You spark many discussions regarding this community. Being in this community myself, I always appreciate your discussions. While I may not always respond to your discussions regarding the Bible, I always read what you have to say. I have learned much from you about the Bible, as I don't read it very often. You actually had my interest in some parts peaked, so I dusted it off and opened it up and actually read some of the passages. You support some of the things I am passionate about and I always like to read and comment on your topics, as long as I am knowledgable in them. PEACE

This is a very interesting discussion to me. I was wondering the samething due to the fact that I never requested a friend but I have had ppl to ask me to join my friends list. Now I still have some in my list that is pending. The ones that I accepted where ones that give my something I can relate to or vice versa. But I never did request a friend and I am wondering why would you request me as your friend especially if they never responsed to any of my post nor have I responsed to any of their's. I'll be coming back to this post to see some of the response. Because curosity is killing this CAT

That is a very good ? to ask we have a few views in common and I like the way that ya say things is why i asked to be your friend

I generally tend to be a bit picky about requesting friends these days having been a little bit too eager before. I ended up with a lot of people bombarding me with their get rich quick schemes so I ended up deleting them from my list. These days I look at the content of responses and discussions first.

I found what you wrote to be interesting. I thought you would find what I write to be interesting. Was I right? :-)

I accept everybody as a friend because I like giving everyone a chance to BE my friend. In other words, I like giving the benefit of the doubt. Maybe this person will have something good to share with me. Maybe this person has some good ideas or we may have something in common. I'll never know until I accept them. As long as they're decent and respectful, they'll stay on my friends list.

Since I mostly only answer discussions from my friends list, I pick new friends from the way they answer a discussion first. Then, I check out their profile and see if they are close to my age, or close in my interests, or at least have not started any discussions I would consider objectionable. I have, in the past, picked friends just because their star rating was a 10 or a 9 hoping they would "rub off on me". LOL

I make a request to those who I find have something common with me. Either I like their discussions or their replies to my discussions. Normally, I do not reject anyone's request, but if see after few months, that the member on my friends' list is not active, I have no option, but to 'delete' his/her name from my friends list. I feel there is no reason to keep the inactive members in my list for say more than 6 months.

i have to agree with you there, i dont know why a lot of the people that have requested my friendship have done so...i still have about 68 pending...guess i should get busy eh?

Well, Cyn, I requested you as a friend because I'd responded to some of your discussions and you to mine and I could really feel that we had some common interests and beliefs. I requested several friends when I first became active here but now it's usually only when someone really strikes a chord with me. I haven't declined or deleted any friends so far. Some of my friends and I disagree on some issues but that's also true in my offline life so that's not a problem for me, as long as we can have civil discussions and not insult each other. Probably the only reason I'd decline a friend request would be if it were form someone who does get abusive and offensive to me or others, or if they had really wacky opinions and spouted cruelty and violence. Thankfully, I haven't come across that here! By the way, I'm glad you're my friend! Annie

I just sent you a request to be your friend. I always accept others friend request because I think it's better to have more friends here. Usually I tend to respond friends' discussions when I can't think our my own new discussions. And I think most people like to do the same here.

i never decline a frnd...every1 sud b given a chance..v sudnt b choosy in makin frnds....i only try to grow my network of frnds...

I think general thought of people coming here is to communicate with others and becoming a friend is convenient for communicating .In a way ,requesting you as a friend is that like you. Perhaps i am mistake but why don't you give me a chance?

i never decline a friend because nobody didn t add to me hahaha55555555 oh maan why i m like thaat

friends need not have same interests or thoughts.opposite poles attract each other.u dont need any reason to make friends.you have nothing to lose.you only gain if at all anything from it.

I don't ask many to be "friends" but the ones I do ask are the ones who are willing to share what they have learned in life. Or they have responded to a discussion in such a way that I want to help if I can. Some just touch my heart with their discussions and I feel close to them. Friends are like diamonds ...you can never have too many!

Hi Cyntrow, Well I requested you because I had been answering a lot of your discussions and I had thought I already was your friend! LOL I havent sent a whole lot of requests out here at myLot, but the ones I do ask, I ask because I feel that there has been a connection in the comments we have exchanged or that I like their sense of humor. I have some people on my list that I never ansewr too, mainly because their discussions dont appeal to me. And not every discussion that my friends start do either, but thats understandable. I have been wondering this lately, I get an inbox full of so and so started a discussion and I just delete them, so like you, Ive been asking myself "why?" Bay Lay Gray xx

For me, it's because I see something in the person's posts or responses that attracts me to them in a way that I want to be able to communicate with them outside of posted discussions. In order to PM them here, they have to be a friend. Maybe this is what has happened to you.