What do you think when girl with a boyfriend goes out dating with you??
By tines2512
@tines2512 (326)
Philippines
October 24, 2007 9:39pm CST
The story was like this, I like a girl with a boyfriend and I personally tell that to her straight but she told me that she is already commited, but she also stated that if she was not commited maybe we could have the relationship. After telling her what my feelings is, I think that she will stop me from courting her.BUt the thing is she told me that its up to me if I will pursue her, she even get jealous when I am with someone.What do you think?Do you think she likes me more than his boyfriend, in the manner that she was acting like that?she goes out with me? He started to get confuse?so she asked for my advice and now I asked for your advice???Do you think that is fair for the Boyfriend of GIrl?
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6 responses
@slavezero (833)
• Philippines
28 Oct 07
I will never go out for a date with a girl that I know have a boyfriend... and I dont go out of dates with any other girl but my partner. Think about this, if you could date her, then turns out to be your girlfriend, then what if he someday he would be invited for a date with another man? The history will repeat itself? Can you trust her? As a boyfriend how would you feel?
@tines2512 (326)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
thanks for all the advices my friend finally decided that she was not the right gurl for him..
@Stiletto (4579)
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25 Oct 07
What do I think? I think she's playing with you. She knows you like her and she probably enjoys the attention you give her. I wouldn't assume that she likes you more than she likes her boyfriend. If that was the case then why has she not finished with her boyfriend so that she is free to be with you? There again of course maybe she wants to keep her options open. If it doesn't work out with her boyfriend at least she will have you on stand-by!
Of course it's up to you whether you want to let her string you along. Personally I would advise you to find someone better who isn't already attached to someone else.
@shonna (12)
• United States
26 Oct 07
comming from a girl, let me tell you shes testing the waters. You are flirting with disaster here. Something is bound to happen weather it is something small or large that is inapropriate while she is in a relationship and you may put your heart into it and get hurt in the end. She wants to be wanted, by more than her man. and if you get her will you ever be able to trust her?? If she cheats on her man with you how can you base a relationship with that? Put your foot down, no dating or FRIEND dates unless shes single.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
25 Oct 07
It is not fair to the BOYFRIEND.
When someone confess to you that she has a current BF and yet she dates with you or lets you think whether to pursue on courting her or not....I say, she is a TYPICAL and INDECISIVE girl. In short, she is not the right girl for you. A girl who is seriously committed to someone even though she likes other guy won't let that guy choose. It is either she will follow her heart and break up with her BF and choose the new one or tell the other guy to stop and stay be friends - that's the serious and more rightful girl.
What I meant with the above is that If the girl you like lets you choose, she is selfish. Because either ways benefits her. If you pursue to court her, then what will she do with her BF? If you don't pursue, nothing won't change because she still have her BF.
For me, I would advice you to find other likable girl or would-be girlfriend not that girl? Know why? There will be a tendency that she would do the same if in case she finds some other guys and she would ditch you like what she does to her present one. Let her mature... Make her realize that LOVE is not a game.
@sunchild2000 (511)
• Romania
25 Oct 07
It's not. As a guy I speak to you like a brother to a brother if I were in your situation than I would hold my emotions and let those two lovers alone. But if she likes you more than her boyfriend that something has to be done because at the end 2 will get hurt but one will be crushed to ashes. Let time decide your relationship with hey, for now be just friends, maybe one day their path will separate and yours will cross her. For now keep distance it's better for her and for him and at the end your sacrifice will be rewarded.
@TravisE (440)
• United States
25 Oct 07
Don't be a cheater. What you are doing is totally inappropriate and unfair to the third person involved. If she wants to be with you more than him, she should leave the relationship with him first. If she is unsure, then she should at least let her boyfriend know that her feelings are no longer 100% uncertain and she might like to "shop around." At least that way no one is being lied to, and if something has gone sour in their relationship they have the option to honestly address it.
@brookehaun (233)
• United States
25 Oct 07
I think the boyfriend could do better!! Once a cheater always a cheater in my book, and anyone who will run around isn't worth staying with!! And what makes you think she wouldn't do the same thing to you eventually? I always told my husband that if I want to be with someone else I would at least be desent enough to end my relationship with him first rather than be shady, and I would expect the same from him!! Honesty is the best policy :)