Do You Take it Personal?

Well if someone tries to demonize me, tries to spin me or tries any other nonsense it won't go over well with me. Its happened before and on several topics. Plus its also part of my oh so "fair" star that's sitting next to my username. Sometimes I do take things to heart and can get heated but its expected, it happens to everyone especially if its a subject very tied to their heart (or agenda if some of you want to be not so fuzzy about it). You're lucky Annie, you do get support for your opinions. I don't. Even if its rational, reasonable and presented in some logical fashion. Paints a funny picture of how things really are doesn't it...

It all depends on timing.If we are friends, which means we have something in common already,then I just agree to disagree. But if I am not a friend of yours and our views are so opposite on a hot topic, then I would respect your views but we couldn't become friends unless we can find something that we can agree on.

people shouldn't take things that are said on mylot way too personal. the whole point and concept of mylot is to share thoughts and opinions while having some fun with it. no reason to give yourself an ulcer. just good plain old fun

We try to assume that everyone on Mylot is mature enough to handle a hot button dicussion. But that is not always true. I love to debate and bring out points that may have been overlooked. I know that there are many people in this world who will get highly upset if you do not take their word as law and dare to have an opinion of your own. I will say what I need to to these people and then walk away.

Everyone has their own opinions, anniepa, and, as such, are entitled to them. This is a forum where many controversial topics are discussed, and nobody needs to take offense when someone else's opinion differs from theirs. I have often been the target of someone's anger simply because I voice my opinion on a certain matter. If someone disagrees with me, that's OK. All people are not mature enough, however, to let it go when it is time to move on. I can agree to disagree and still remain friends with everyone. I wouldn't like to believe that anyone would dislike me simply because I feel differently about something than they do.

sometimes it will seem to cease to be friends anymore in such controversial topics like this one. But,its something that we shoud share, you know.That is what mylot is all about.Yes, i see this topic is one which most will respond in different ways, depending on what kind of social,economic and spiritual background each individual is brought up.it would be fine if you can debate with me on this topic. i will still accept you as my friend.but, not forgeting i still believe the bible as humans manual on earth.

I have no problem with people disagreeing with me IF they do it politely. What I don't like is rudeness and unfortunately some people don't have the intelligence to agree to disagree. Instead they have to resort to name-calling and nastiness. Generally though I don't take it personally because, to be honest, why should it really matter what someone thinks of you on here? So I don't get upset or angry - maybe sometimes mildly irritated lol! There are a few people on here that I really dislike but that's not because of the views they have, I dislike them because of the way they express those views. However I do have friends on here that have completely different views to mine on a number of controversial issues. It's fine - if we all thought the same way the world would be pretty dull.

It bothers me some if I start a discussion or reply to one and someone doesn't understand or takes it the wrong way and criticizes or judges me. I don't let it affect a friendship if there is one. I will even go to see if they have any discussions that I may be interested in just to try to show that there are no hard feelings, even if my feelings got wounded. I try not to argue about it, especially if I think they just didn't understand what I was trying to say, sometimes, it's hard to respond without offending some people. I just think that people shouldn't "judge" others, as I've had happen to me and seen happen to others. An opinion is just that, and everyone is entitled to their own and that's what this site is about, discussions. So, I try not take it personal even though sometimes people aren't so nice. I try to treat others as I want to be treated. I hope that made sense.

I try very hard not to take things personally, but once in a while I can't help it. =p I love a good debate, but on some topics after a while it can start to feel like people are personally attacking me or my loved ones, especially when people start saying things like "Gay people are evil" or whatever. I try to keep a cool head, and be calm and polite, but it just gets hard when people are slinging around things like that. I can agree to disagree and still be friends as long as people are respectful though. In fact, many of my friends on mylot have some very different views from me!

I always agree to disagree. After all, everyone is different. We are not supposed to think the same. I always state my opinion in a respectful way and hope for the best. But you are right. There are some people who don't give you respect back no matter what. I don't even respond to people like that and I don't stoop down to their level. I try to be the better person.

I know what I know and can back up what I say. So if someone wants to argue my facts I drop it and purposely let 'em remain ignorant. It's not my yob to edjamacate 'em...I'm sure the heck not getting paid enuff here to do so. So folks take what I say or don't. Someone else can come along and correct their misconceptions later..I can't be bothered with fools. :-) Arrogant of me? Yes, but life's too short and I've got places to be and people to annoy!

Nothing wrong in a heated discussion about something you're passionate about. But resorting to name calling shows the weakness of your thinking and/or your vocabulary. And some people appear to be rage-aholics here. It's difficult not to take insults personally. Heck, I'm even sensitive to a little sarcasm. But I try to ignore it. Best not to stoop to the level of others. My general principle is, if I take it personally, don't show it in my posts.

I don't think that anyone should post a controversial topic unless they know how NOT to take things personally. But far too many people do take these things completely personally and I just think that sucks. I'm a very opinionated person and very set in my ways but I also understand that it's just an opinion and not fact. So I can respect all who have different opinions. I don't even take offense when someone gets all personal calling me names and such because I think that just proves to me that they're fairly low people to have to result to name calling. I just laugh it off.

I take it personally most of the time because I am atheist, pro-abortion, and pro-gay relations and religious people tend to come off as very naive to me so its more like its just frustrating because they refuse to try and see things your way. Its just an annoyance. Everyone can make their own decisions in life and what they choose to follow but dont push it on other people.

Hi anniepa, I feel, conversation or a discussion includes both agreeing and disagreeing. Infact by refuting or disposing a different viewpoint altogether has always helped us to grow. We learn new things and new discoveries happen thus. I never judge a friend on basis of his/her consent with mine. As long as he/she is decent, tolerant and have the ability to argue constructively he/she is my friend. Smiles...

I have also been in some "heated" discussions, but I try to keep them in context. Some people think that thier opinion is FACT and have a hard time with other people not agreeing with them. I know that we all have different views and I don't try to sway someone else to mine, but I do like to know that the person has at least heard my views.