Live for Yourself and not for others

It is a waste of time to live your life for anyone who doesn't do the same for you. In other words if someone is not worth your time for any reason or they don't treat you the way you should be, don't waste your time. Life is too short to live for others especially when they are not worth it.

hmmmmmmmmm thats really a nice and sensible saying. But i guess it applies to only one person at a time who is treating US as their option. In general we cannot decide who will come into our life or go out of it anytime. I guess we just got to take life as it comes but yes we always need to look after ourself.

Thank you for bringing this up. I like that quote. I am learning to do this myself recently. We cannot make everyone happy and we have to live with ourselves. I have to tell myself that and keep that in mind.

Hmm... sounds like you are living with some one who does not cherish you for who you are. I hope everything is panning out for you. Your quote is quite meaningful. Many a times, people do not really cherish those around them. And they only feel the loss when that person no longer put you as their priority. Sad, isn't it?

Such a timely discussion for me! Since my daughter has been newly single I am basically living my life to babysit for her. A couple of times we have made plans for me to stay at her apartment or her at mine and she ends up using that time to go out for the night. Granted, I don't really have a life of my own and have nothing but time but she knows I do appreciate my own space and have come to like being alone. Over the past almost year now she HAS become a priority in my live and I'm the option in hers. My whole family has been telling me to put my foot down but I have a hard time doing that.

actually we need to maintain a balance between others and your work........ you need not work for others completely, but rather you can help them doing their work....... unity is the ultimate lesson to strengthen your progress and it will help you in the future...... be broadminded in thoughts......

well ofcourse you should not live for those who dont love you,but you must take care of those who loves you otherwise your life would turn out to be an utter waste

It might seem selfish for some but we must live mostly for ourselves/ We have to love and appreciate ourselves before we can love another. Our goal in life should be to reach self realization. And that is not to say that we must disregard all other people in our lives, we should love and care for them also. But in the end, we should put our priorities first and foremost.

I can understand you perfectly. I have been like that all my life and I am finally thinking that I have to start thinking about my self more and sometimes even first. I have left what I needed behind to be able to do things for others and although I still think it's fine to do it in certain cases, I am setting my priorities. It's my time. The time to think about me and put myself first at least in certain things:)

It is not for us to decide who's worthy of it and who's not. We must always do our best service to the society. And once when it is done, and if not respected, then we must leave and move on. But we must continue to do service which would benefit the welfare of others. But service and love must be the highest motive. I don't know if you have heard about Sai Baba. He is a saint who has continued to live for others. Maybe it looks like he lives in a huge palace, but he came from a very poor family, and he did a lot of service, and people out of love constructed a place for him to live. But, he didn't become selfish, but continued to construct hospitals where they do free surgery and medical treatment, and he has also constructed schools and colleges. In many places, he created water supply and changed the whole topography of villages and towns. And he also recently, was involved in a water project in Mexico. Inspite of all this, people continued to talk ill of him and called him a child abuser, homosexual and also tried instigating him of murder. People always talk ill of him. But he just chooses to keep quiet and continues to give love, and serve mankind. It's a true example. So keep serving, keep giving. But the ones who deserve will benefit and the ones who don't, it's their bad karma. :)

T first let me tell you how good this discussion is.I hear something liek this too, we should be number one and then the other people can come.And i think it is really true.You know I am so much caring about my friends and when I talk to them on the phone they hardly ask me how i am.So are those really good friends and are they worth to care about then myself?No they are not, but it is sad, becuase I like to help people, but somebody need to care abotu me too.

E1 i m of the same kind.I tend to think of others more rather than myself...n end up in drastic circumstances...nice discussion that u acquaited me to myslf...I agree to ur statement.....Wen others jus think u as an option to fulfill their task why u need to care of them n take them as a priority in ur life...but doing everything for oneself turns out to be selfishness so see to it that u dont fall pray to it n keep the task of helping others goin but that to in limit...

Yeah you're right. There are persons who just use or take advantage of you. Persons you help but abuses you. In the end you will not be happy. Although we cannot choose persons to help we can start to those persons whom we know will not abuse us. We may not expect anything in return but a thank you would be sufficient. There is joy in helping others rather than being selfish. We should be wise in helping those persons who really deserve such time and resources, otherwise it will be a lost.

Of course we should live for ourselves. Life is given to you and handled by yourself, you choose to live in what way. Living for yourself means concerning what you want and what you need, so that you can lead a happy life. While living for others, you must take so much into consideration, sometimes you even have to sacrifice, like the sea princess of the famous fairy tale. I'd rather not suffer so much.

Hi Poohgal. Yes, I am agree with the statement. However, I will live for others more than I live for myself. I mean it's the most natural thing for me. It is mainly because we are not live alone here, we live as a group and as a family. So everything we are doing right now will influent the people around us. So, I will try to make them stay happy always so I will live for them.

I agree with the quote for the most part. But, if someone has been in my life in anyway I always try to remain open to them needing me at a certain time. For example, I know some people who I am definately more of an option in their lives than a priority. But, if they fell into a crisis I would still be there for them, just because that is who I am. I hope that makes sense.