First Timer

First of all relax and enjoy! Get a couple of good pregnancy and baby books which should give you a lot of good information. Don't listen to women and their horror stories. I had two c-sections and they weren't that bad. Talk to your doctor about your feelings.Good Luck!

Hi hun...... you will be a terrific mum! It's the same old cliche "it comes natural". I had my little boy 4 months ago and before he was due I felt exactly the same way and I was so scared!! But once your baby is in your arms it's like you've had him/her forever and you just know what the baby needs. It's so funny how your baby could be in another room with 20 other babies yet you would recognise his cry from miles away. I found this strange when i was having lunch - when i heard a baby crying next door in the ward i knew that it wasn't my cameron! Congratulations hunni.....keep us posted on how you get on! Take Care, Jules x

First of all. congradulations to you guys, best of luck:) We are never ready for kids. Much of it will come naturaly to you, even if you don't realize that it is, lol. You will feel awkward, unready, unable, inadequit, overwhelmed and under-apreciated......and love ever minute of it. This is all perfectly normal. There is no set means or method, ou'll find what works for you, and learn the rest along the way just as the rest of us did. Don't bother giving too much credit to books on parenting, kids and babies, the babies haven't read the books and don't know they are suposed to do what the book says they do. Go with our guts and do what you see working for you. You are going to make mistakes, don't let it get to you, if we were all perfect parents the world would be a perfect place. Don't worry too much if your child isn't talking, walking, doing that cute little trick, etc by a certain age. One 12 year old does not walk better than another 12 year old because they learned to walk a few months earlier. ou don't talk any better or worse than another 20 year old because you learned to talk before or after a certain age. Like I said, kids never read the book. Avoid comparrisons, kids are unique individuals and will do what they do, when they are ready to do it. Kids get sick, it's not your fault. Gets get bumps, bruises, cuts, scrapes and broken things, again, it's not your fault, it's what they do, they'r kids. you can't sterilize, sanitize and bubble their world from everything, you can't possibly prevent or anticipate accident, illness, mis-step or adventure. Ive only scratched the surface but you get the idea. The short of it is enjoy them because they are gone, grown and posting in a forum about their own first child before you know it. Take pride and joy in the little things, the unexpected flower, laugh or quiet moment on the couch with them. The first discover of their toes and other "parts, the school play or good grade on a test, they are done before ou realize it.....enjoy, enjoy, enjoy and most important, love them unconditionaly because they will do the same.

Most of it does come naturally and when you have questions, ask your pediatrician who will be very willing to help. Be confident and trust in your instincts, though, and you'll do just fine. Congratulations on your pink bundle of joy-to-be!