how to deal with infidelity
@ethereal_flower (124)
Philippines
November 1, 2007 11:42am CST
I had a very interesting discussion with two of my friends. one broke up with her boyfriend because her boyfriend had other girls. the other friend also lost her boyfriend because this time, this other friend cheated on her boyfriend. so in that conversation we had the two sides of the coin speaking. maybe it was because of the distance, or because they missed each other so badly, or because they got bored that they ended up cheating with someone else. somehow we deduced that when we get in a relationship, infidelity and unfaithfulness is something that we just have to anticipate at one point or another. has anyone of you been in either side? how did you deal with the situation? do share.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
1 Nov 07
I found my bf and one of my friends having "fun" in our bed, in our house. I kicked both of them out and hasnt spoken to either of them... Biggest betrayal of my life. Not only did I loose a boyfriend - but i also lost a friend and the trust i had for people!
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@ethereal_flower (124)
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
i'm so sorry to hear that. that must be really aweful. i can't imagine how i would react if i found the two people i trust most in the world cheating on me. i know it may be difficult to trust people again, that's what my friend told me. because she got back with her boyfriend who cheated on her. but things were never the same between them because she said that she couldn't help but doubt him. even if he had been completely honest with her after that incident, she just couldn't be sure about him anymore.
@talisman (1300)
• United States
1 Nov 07
I strongly disagree. When you're in a relationship, you should never be expecting unfaithfulness at any point. If you're going to go into every relationship thinking that, you should never be in a relationship to begin with, because that would mean that you don't trust the person you're with. A relationship can't survive without trust and you should never be in a relationship when you don't trust the person you're with. Would you ever cheat on a person that you're with? If no, then your theory is wrong. I know I would never cheat on my husband, regardless of the circumstances, again proving your theory wrong. Not everyone is a cheater. There are cheaters, yes, but just because you know of 2 of them, doesn't make everyone else one.
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@ethereal_flower (124)
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
thanks for your input. i wish i shared your optimism because i agree with you when you say that relationship is something that's built on trust. i trust myself that i won't cheat on anyone. i just don't know if i could bring myself to trust that my partner will be forever loyal to me. i guess it's just that i've become so jaded with everything that my cheating friends have told me and somehow i have this notion that eventually a couple will be put to that test and not everyone is able to pass that test with flying colors. maybe if i met people like you who are faithful then i would be able to believe that it's really possible for two people to never cheat on each other. thanks for posting!
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