Birds and the Bees

November 2, 2007 11:58am CST
My daughter started asking me questions about the birds and the bees when she was 5. I was astounded but I guess that's kids today. I avoided the questions and fobbed her off with little white lies and stories. Eventually last year she was asking in a way that I knew she already knew (she was 7!) so I sat down with her and asked her to tell me everything... and yes, she kne it all! Her friend had told her. I then went over things with her and explained it properly. I wander... is it just me that thinks it's crazy that this should come up with kids at such a young age? My friend's daughter is the same age and she was in the same position and answered her daughter honestyly... by me lying to my daughter, I left her open to her finding out from her friends. What do other mothers feel about this?
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6 responses
• United States
2 Nov 07
That is very young, some kids grow up faster than others. Maybe its good to explain it to them young. And then again when they're older. I don't see what the problem would be. It doesnt mean your a bad parent or a better parent, it just means your daughters smart about those things. My daughters almost 3 now and I'm hoping she'll be atleast 11 before I get into that subject but you see how much faster kids are growing up nowadays!
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3 Nov 07
Yeah, my son is older and has never asked most of the questions that his sister has asked. I guess it depends on the child and I suppose it was just unlucky that there was a girl where we lived who felt the need to discuss this with a 7 yr old.
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Its just going to get worse Babyseraph. Kids are being taught this by younger kids and obnoxious preteens/teens. Its that and the message is virtually everywhere on every media in some form or another. Its really sad. I know your daughter might trust you a bit less for not telling her the truth on this, but explain why you did what you did when you get a good chance. Hopefully it was to protect her, that's usually what it is. Not only that, what in the world is a 5, 6, 7 year old going to do with such information? I remember a couple of cases of them acting it out because they knew, heard about it, or saw it somewhere. Can society fail any harder than that!? What's wrong here!!? Sigh... Don't know what else to say, at least for now.
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3 Nov 07
So true, she was told it all by a 12 year old who lived near us. She still comes to me with all her questions and problems so luckily she hasn't taken it badly that I lied when she was younger. Lesson learnt I guess!
@SViswan (12051)
• India
14 Nov 07
You must be honest with children (whatevr the age...you must give honest age-appropriate answers) - I see you have done that already. Doing this at an early stage leaves the channels of communication open which will be what you want when your daughter is grown up. It's better than her getting half-cooked information or wrong information from friends. As the parent, it is your responsibility to teach her how to handle situations before she has one. And the first step in that direction is to be open to kids so that they will confide in you and come to you with their queries/
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
3 Nov 07
My feeling on this is that you should answer the questions honestly and simply as soon as they start asking them. No, it is not unusual for kid's to be curious as a very young age. I began being curious when I was 5 or 6. I was not comfortable talking to my mom but I will tell you that us kids all had our theories....some right, some wrong. I was perhaps 10 when one of my brother's friends told me the graphic, detailed truth. I asked my mother and she responded with,"do you believe everything you hear?" as if i were some idiot. I have 4 girls and I always was very open with them about things and when they got older, they all came to me for help getting set up on birthcontrol, protection etc even knowing that i probably would not be too impressed with their choice of boyfriends. They were all well into highschool and none were promiscuous. Knowledge never hurt anyone....lack of it does.
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@darkaeon (465)
• Portugal
3 Nov 07
hi, i think that kids now a days are more interested in things that about 10 years ago we would only talk when we are grown up i think that its about this generation
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• Egypt
3 Nov 07
I still remember when I was child. I ever ask my mother about same question. My mother didn't answer the real answer. A short time later, I heard the detail answer from my teacher then I told my mother about that answer. My mother seems happy when I explained it. And after that she told me many things those I didn't know before. And now, I'm most realize that my mother very love me.
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