i wont give birth to a baby

The people you see on tv usually have never had kids so they act like they think they should. Yes there is pain but 1 there is medicine you can get for pain and 2 when you see your child for the first time you don't care about the pain anymore. I have had 2 kids and I would never say to them that they need to make it upto me. It is not their fault they were concieved and born so why do you have to make it upto your mother? its not your fault she decided to have you. If you want children then you should not base your decision on your mother or the fake stuff you see on tv. Children are a blessing and should not be made to feel guilty for being born.

The sea is very dangerous does that mean none of the fisher man goes to sea,its a great and noble thing to b a mother may be your mother must have thought the way you think

You will change your mind.

Girl,you are looking at the boat from it's rudder.First, a baby was intended by God to be the product of a happy union between a man an woman, not an object of belonging to a independent woman.You relationship is much more important to consider whether you will have a child. When your love for a man goes to a zenith.You will see beyond the pain of childbirth.It should be the one that is a real man,then your pain will be shared and his support will make much of a difference.When I bore my kids I saw hell with the pain bcause I could not get anesthesis for my complication, my husband, though helpless stood there all the time with massage etc and my memory of that goes to solidify my marriage.Most things in life woth getting, comes with pain.Now everytime I discipline my kids, my desire for them to serve God ties in well with the pain I hadto bear them.Take my possessions but give me my kids.You cannot bond to a puppy like this!!!

I don't think you need to make it up to your mother... I have had 2 babies and yes it's painful but it is the quickest pain to forget because of the overwhelming love you feel when you hold yor baby! Also... there are so many forms of pain relief now so childbirth doesn't have to be painful. I think it's a shame to decide not to have kids just because of the pain of childbirth, especially when there are epidurals, caesareans and plenty of other options for pain free childbirth :)

Oh I hope you change your mind. For the memory really does fade for physical pain. You get so much in return. You get to fall in love with your child. See the world all over again brand new. I would take the pain again for the gift I have received, along with teaching me more patience.

when i had my son i was in labor for a while but the pain i had left as soon as i say my son i would do it again if i could he is the best thing that could of happen to me

I think you will probably change your mond later on, I have heard girls say this before but then either they get an overwhelming maternal need or jus become pregnant I don't know, but I think maybe you will change your mind...mind you I never really wanted to have children because I am such a sook, I can't stand needles and such, and I never did have them but I hope you think twice maybe.

Trust me, I have been in way worse pain than having a baby. Be nice to Mom, cause she is your Mom. But forget about TV and pain and go out and have a baby.

Hi colourless! Everyone is entitled for his/her opinion. Like you I am also not very particular that I need to have my own kid. I can as well adopt a child and give him/her a better life than what hey would get otherwise. But my opinion has nothing to do with the pain part. I am of the opinion that as long as I am not ready to handle the responsibilities which comes along with the child and not in a position to give a goodlife to the child I should not even think of having a child.

I hear ya. I hate any kind of pain. I don't want a baby because I don't want to get stretch marks either. I never had a strong desire to have a baby anyway so if I never have that's fine with me. There's also a lot of bad after effects to your body like incontinence (not able to controls your bladder) Stuff down there just doesn't return to normal sometimes. Not everyone will have problems but it's still something to be aware of.

I definitely agree with some of the previous posts. It might be one of the most painful experiences you may ever encounter but it's also very quickly forgotten once you are able to hold your baby. My first statement after I had my first child was "who would ever want to go through that again?" and I just had my second daughter 2 months ago! lol. Becoming a mother was one of the best decisions that I ever made and I hope you don't base your decision on how others feel.

Though it's painful,you'll feel pretty happy afterwards cause you give a life to a baby and that's your own one. Do you think those women who've already given birth to a baby were not afraid before? Of course they were also afraid of the pain,but the thing is,comparing with being a mum,that's not a big deal. So I don't think you need to be too worried about that cause almost every woman can overcome the pain,why can't you? You'll feel much better when you say your own kid after that:-)

Well,though it's painful but afterwards I guess you'll feel very happy cause that's your kid. And take a look at those women who've already given birth to the baby,were they not afraid before? Of course they were also afraid of the pain,but compared with being a mum,that's not a big deal. So I guess you don't need to worry about the pain too much. Since almost every woman could put up with it,why can't you? You'll be all right then:-)

If there is any sort of desire to have a baby please do not take one person's experience (even if it is your mother's)into account. I heard similiar stories before having my first born and felt dread and anxiety before delivery. It was actually a wonderful and fast delivery. I used any sort of pain i felt and put all my energy into the pushing and getting this child out. My husband often comments to people what an easy delivery it was. He usually receives a chastising remark from women who say, "of course that is easy for you to say." But I alaways back him up and confirm it. It was so. But please don't ask me about my second one. All the comments I heard about your first one being difficult and the second being a breeze was absolutely untrue for me.