racism

When you get so upset about what others say it gives power to their words; your child is learning more from how you react to these actions than from all those lousy, miserable kids. I come from a mixed family and then married and raised a mixed family. Tender loving reassurance with positive reinforcement of your child's self-esteem will do far more to help him through this rough period. He will always be the thumb on the hand of life but that doesn't mean he has to settle or buy into what others say or think about him. It is your job to try to guide him through these early years, helping him to build a firm and sure foundation with a positive image of self. Positive reinforcement and love willl payoff in the long run. Quit trying to stop the hurt because you are inadvertantly causing more hurt. Help him find something he excels in and then put your energy there. If you hug him and tell him he's great just as God made him-and mean it, he will believe you. Nurture his power within and you both will do fine. Buckle in for a bumpy road, but know that there is smoother sailing ahead.

Hi how are U this evening? U can explain to your son that its ok to be the odd one out sometime. He doesn't have to be like everyone and look like everyone. God made him special. He is perfect just the way he is. He shouldn't feel bad. Also explain to him that when people use the N word as a way to degrade and put people down to make people of color feel inferior. Just because they say that to him, it doesn't define who he is as an individual. People who use that word are ignorant. Let him know that he will come across people who are mean and say cruel things. He should know that people who call him names are insecure and don't like who they are. Which is why they want to make his life miserable. Teach him to stand tall and be proud of who is he is, and to love himself. U said that U are not going to be around always. U need to teach him how to show some restraint in the future too come when dealing with racism. He should know that there will be times when your son will want to loose his cool and punch the person who is calling him out of his name. It is better to walk away rather than feed into the negativity that is around him. Some dont know the use of the that word can cause some serious ramifications. I know for a fact there were people who were called that, and they lost their tempers. Some people know what it means to people of color. They do it on purpose. Some just dont know, they say it cause they heard someone else say it. He has to be on his guard all the times. He needs to beware of people that. He will encounter people like that in his life. The important thing for him remember is to not give them the satisfaction of know what they said hurt him. I hope what i said made some sense and helped with your situation. God bless

Its a common problem ..childern face in their school.But they need to learn that...this is a meaningless subjet and the parents are the only one to make them understood.Let ur child mix with other childrens of their kind...and never make them feel upset or depressed...always talk to them and don't leave ur child alone for longer time..because whenever they are alone such ..ideas crop up in their mind like why other students in my school ignore me...make them engage in whatever way u can.

Don't protect your son from such ignorance. Rather you should teach him to rise above it.

leeb75, see the world isn't just black and white; we are a wonderful rainbow linked together in harmony and love. You are a good mom and your child is great too. Believe it and Live it! Know that the rest of your rainbow has your back. We cannot exist without one another. Love and Hugs to all the rest of the rainbow for the support you've shown leeb75.

Tell your son that people are all different they have different skin tone hair n eye colour but were all the same underneath, try n explain to him that these kids are school just dont understand different races such as his and its only a form of arrogance and ignorance also try having a talk with his teachers at school mabye they could introduce teaching the kids that were all the same underneath good luck and i hope you find a way of helping your son realise that these are just ignorant childeren