Why there are people like this...

People love the belief that there is nothing wrong with them, so they tell themselves that after a break-up to soften the blow.

"Why there are people who thinks they're the best but the truth its... they're sucks.. what i mean is this..."-[/quote] Alright...lets see what you've got. "1.when a girl breakup with boyfriend, the boyfriend will say... " so what!!!its her lost, not mine". But, dont they realize that if it happens more than twice, its not normal... it means the problem is not with those girls who broke up with him but with him (or vice versa)...or they just can't admit that there is a big problem to them..."-[/quote] Ever stop to think the person might actually be right and the girls he's dated are indeed the screwy ones. I've been through it. Friends have been through it. Other online friends and acquaintances have been through it and worse. In my case, I did look inside a lot of the time for "what went wrong" especially since media and social mindsets required it. Of course they don't really require the same for women in most cases, the man is always the one at fault despite what really happened. -_- It wasn't until I really talked with a family member and his friends, and then followed some very different cases online that I looked at it differently. Some women can be quite overcritical (too bad I was slow to see it), so it could be the guy does give an honest try and really steps up, but the girl still doesn't recognize it or she wants the impossible. And there are other issues too, so I'd still say leave a break up open to interpretation. She could be correct that he's unfit, she could also be lying, that happens. He could be incorrect and actually have a problem, or he could be correct and he's just encountered one too many unfit relationships. You could be correct that some guys that have been through your said situation could be screwed up. However, do not omit the possibility that the girls dated were indeed the problem "or 2.a guy/girl is totally kind, sweet loving, doest want arguments, open minded, soft spoken, doesn't get jealous, who always wanted to talk about s*x, who always want to be hear out, and when you talk, its like he/shes not interested on what you are talking about...what do u think is wrong with him/her if he/she is your boyfriend/girlfriend? Isn't it boring that you always talk about s*x? Ins't it irritating that he/she always talk about him/her and never want to listen to u?Isn't it boring that most of the time he/she is quiet? What do u think?"-[/quote] I'm glad you at least switched it up into a more gender neutral argument, but I'm not fully believing that aspect of it. No matter. I'll agree with this, plenty of people are narcissistic especially in relationships. "or 3.isn't it irritating that he/she still communicate with his/her ex gf/bf? and oftentimes he always talks about them? and when you get annoy and ask him/her he/she will say... "they're still my friends"."-[/quote] It can be slightly irritating, but I'd lay a ground rule down. You can communicate with him all you want, but if I find his undies near the bed or if you bring home his kid, don't bother coming back. And yes I would be concerned if she were very constantly talking to an ex (or two...). Its natural. "Isnt sucks?"-[/quote] Comes with the territory. I've found its better to not even play the game.

I know what you mean, I've been with those types of people and dealt with them face to face as well. It seems that it's their instinct, a sort of "defensive mechanism" to divert their or other's attention to the one who they've been with. But for men, I know it's gonna be hard, but I admit that it's because we are men and believe that it's part of our MACHISMO!LoL It's not that I do this, but I know how it feels since it also occured to me..