women should focus on work or stay home look after babies?

For me if I really had enough money that can sustain the family then i would prefer staying at home and take care of my kids till they reach a certain age but now that it is not possible, i have to go to work and bring money to supliment in the house and then hire a babysitter to take care of the kids only during day time. Every mother could like to be home and see her kids grow but now we are forced to work and cater for the bills.

That is a tough question to answer. I'm 25 going through my qualification and in a few years when i'm about 30 I want to have children. I guess I would have to stay at home to look after children but I don't want my qualifications to go to waste. I would prefer to focus on work but circumstances probably won't allow that at all.

I think it's impossible to do everything properly. You need help from your husband ...lots of it. It's just not possible to give 100% to a job and 100% to young children. Being a good Mum and wife is a difficult thing to do at times. At best you can be a good mother only half the time and focus on doing well at work only half the time. Things are always cropping up with little ones and the job has to come second. Similarly, there will be times when the children will suffer because of work responsibilities. Even if you make the choice to do one or the other, no-one is perfect so mistakes will be made and there will be error in decisions. That's life.

I chose to have both in life, although not at the same time. Well, if you can have someone to help you take care of the children, then maybe you can work during the first few years of your family life. This is what I did when my children were still small. I worked for several years in order to augment our financial needs. When my eldest daughter turned 14, our family business started, and it was then I had the chance to give more attention to my family. Now, I am able to care for my family, our business, and myself as well.

I think this concept of women staying at work to look after babies is already passe... society and the world at large have evolved so much since long ago and men and women largely have equal rights. If a lady wants to stay at home and be a full-time mother, that should be strictly by her choice. You need to decide for yourself what you truly want - a career? Spending time with your children? Once you know what you want, then the path will hopefully be clear to you. =)

Woman of today is not less than a man. She is not stronger than a man, but she is wiser enough. She could not only give the birth of babies. She could become her house hold and can also work out door of the home. You are highly qualified so you should utilize your qualification. You should concentrate on your skills and abilities. Look after the babies is one of your duties. You should also manage it with the help of your husband, nurse, or school teacher.

I feel that balancing between the family and work is the most challenging thing which a woman faces in life. I too went through this and managed to sail through. I have two children and quit job for sometime till my elder daughter was responsible enough to handle herself. I prepare food for them before moving out and they know how to manage themselves now. She is nine and is taking care of her younger sister too. If a person gets support from inlaws the balancing act would be much more easier but as far i have seen this help does not come handy. I am currenty attempting to be both an earner as well as a good mother to my children.

I think for an higly educated woman with profesional degree staying at home will be injustice. Still there are children at home. Better try to find someone who can take care of your children.

i think when children are young,when they need their mom around especially at young age its better to stay at home if there isnt balance between home and work... Work can be continued later when they have grown up little bit because its really become difficult to handle both the things when babies are around..

Women should be allowed to live their lives and make the choices they want. I hope they are positive choices, but yes, women should have choice to live as they want. I have no preference since the three main paths are reserved to individual choice and preference.

we need to be practical. nowadays even both parents are working we still struggle. as for me, if given a chance to have a family, i prefer to work so if incase something happen to my husband i have my own money to take care for my family. though its tough since i have to jeopardize my role as a mom but one person has to be practical. its matter of how you explain to your kids why you are doing what you are doing. beautiful topic by the way.

I personally feel that if it is possible then mothers should stay at home with their children. I would love to be able to stay at home when my child is born and not have to work but that is just not possible. I think being able to be a stay at home mom is wonderful for both the child and the parent.

well I guess I prefer not to choose among the two choices. For me women should not just stay at home to take care for the family, they must also work if they want to or if they need some additional income. Anyway, career and family can still be put into balance. You just have to manage your time and manage yourself as well. If a woman has nothing to worry about at home that somebody can do the house chores and can take care of the babies, then she can work but she must not just rely on the helper or nanny only. She still has to give some time to her babies after work to make sure that the babies are alright.

Well, I once debated on a such topic while at school and I couldn't find any better solution, idea, opinion or advice from any one. it is 50/50. So, I think that it is personal or it depends on your household financial conditions. But some moms hate to stay home for sure no matter what!

As a husband and man of the house, I would definitely leave the decision to her. Like what you said, one has to keep and maintain balance to focus for the family. I prefer our child to have someone to look up to, one between us parents. If she prefers to work, then I must be the one left in our house to tend for our children's needs and guide them in becoming a better adult someday. It is important for me to guide our child personally and have hands on knowledge of what they are doing through activities, education and social responsibilities.

That is a very difficult choice. I think it's still better for a woman to look after babies. Because woman seems to be much more talent than man in this aspect. However, I don't think it means that you have to give up your job. Sometimes only one income is not so enough for a family nowadays. It is not bad for a couple to work. You can just try to balance it. When your child is old enough to go to the kindergarten, perhaps you can have a break and find a job that it won't be so busy for you.

FIrst of...you say "i HAD a high education". You still DO. There is the idea that women "can do it all" or "should have it all." That they should and are entitled to be the perfect mom, the best boss or employee, an innovater, and an award winner all at once. In a nutshell, you are expected to or think you can be wonderwoman. But that is really a mistruth. Women CAN "have it all" but they can't have it "all at once." and feel satisfied/do everything well. (and no one, man or woman, truly can. There are not enough hours in the day). If you look at men and women who seem to have "done it all" in their life - you will notice they were not doing it all at once. They did each thing very well, though. There are times in your life where your career will be number one, or there are times when you will decide raising your children or following another pursuit will be number one. There can be a number two but not everything can be a number one all at once. So it appears that now you are focusing on raising your two little ones. So do it well. Keep your social connections for when you do decide to go back to a career, but be the best mom you can be to them right now. There will never be another time when they are little, and you will remember it always and its when they need you the most. And don't you think someone with a high education has a lot to offer their children in knowledge and perhaps wisdom too? More so than a babysitter can, as they are not their children.

i think when the child are too young , you should stay home and take care of them . when they can look after themselves you can focus on your job. i don't mean woman have to do so. but as a mother , if you stay home when the child was yong , they will be much happy, and get more care. mother's love is the best.