My sister doesnt like me!!!

My sister and I have had a love/hate relationship our entire lives. I adore her, but she drives me nuts and I want to strangle her. She loves me but I drive her nuts and she wants to strangle me. I know that she was angry that I got married before her since she had been with her guy for like 6 years. I got married two weeks before she did. She got jealous when I got pregnant and had a baby first. She still doesn't have one and is having IVF to try to have one. She tries to impress me with how much financially better off she is, but then it drives her mad that I don't seem to really care. It is just they way of sisters. She was my maid of honor in my wedding and I was her matron of honor in hers. She is my son's guardian if anything were to happen to me and my hubby. I trust her with my life and the life of my child. When she needs me, no matter what our current relationship is like, I am there for her. Same goes for her, she is there for me. Have her in your wedding. You will regret it if you don't.

Usually elderly sisters will have moderthly feeling towards brothers. Sisters like brothers very much. Strange in your case. Why do you remember the childhood days memories. YOu have been a naughty then and received the punishment. I have not one , 4 sisters, I like all of them and they like me too. They have 4 brothers to like and it all depends on how we look at them - that reciprocates. Just blaming each other will not take you long. A change in the attitude is required, as it looks. Who has to change? I just cannot figure it out.

While I sympathise with you wholeheartedly, I must also be frank with you. It is seldom that we find our own faults and recognize them. each one of us think that we are perfect but what we forget is that even the most boisterous children can be good while the most quiet types can be very bad. I am not categorizing you as I don’t know you personally but please try to analyse all your actions since childhood and maybe somewhere you will find a ray of an answer. Another thing (though this is no fault of yours) pls try to understand a child’s psychology. You came into this world when your sis was 6yrs old. Till then she was the center of attraction of her parents. Then you came and the attention shifted to you leaving her bitter towards you and life in general. Bullying you was her way of re-enforcing her right over everything which she thought that she had lost to you. Jealousy was also natural due to the same reasons. Now with maturity and motherhood, she seems to have realized her mistakes but the bitterness inside alongwith the mortification of actually owning up to someone younger is stopping her maybe. Why don’t you make the first move? Tell her that you adore her as an elder sister and that you would love to have her as the maid of honour. I am sure she will understand and reciprocate positively. After all blood is thicker than water.

Hello kwenge. I think that it is not because your sister doesn't like you. You know, when we were kids, there would be some fights between us siblings and it is very natural and normal. I think that your elder sister will be happy to be your maid of honor at your wedding day.

emh i didn't understood..she's married with two boys oficially?is it legal?eheeh..

my mother used to be abused by my aunt when she was young. one reason is that she was jealous of my mother's good school marks and my mother used to be fraised in front of the whole family. i thought that abusing in some way can be understood. and for you,there was absolutely a reason for what your sister had done to you.now, you say your sister is kind of jealous towards you,you should be more considerate towards her and let her know you love her and want her to be better, and welcome her to be your maid of honor. i believe even a stranger might be touched by you not to say your sister. good luck for you and good luck for your sister!