What would you do if you were to find your loved one in bed with your friend?

First I will see if they want to explain anything. If there don't have anything to explain, then I will leave the scene and think about what had happened between us which resulted to this kind of things happening. Whether it's my fault or not, I think I will forgive them and remain friends with them. I believe the girl will realize one day that she had made a mistake and will still love me even though such love may only can be hidden deep down inside her heart.

i will leave from tht place and will go in my own way

is it just a one off or a relationship? I forgave my friend and ex-partner for a one off, this didn't help as he saw it as permission do do as he wanted and several one night stands later he realised i just didn't care as long as he was happy so he stopped doing it. It hurt like hell though. We eventually split for other reasons and I drifted away from my friend but we all still speak.

Depends on who the freind is... might just want to join in!

It depends. I will have to ask my self why first. then decide. Can't imagine it happening to me. Think you should quetsion the suitation first. If its a reason of your fault then I guess you can forgive, if not then forgive and forget about the realationship, but don't forget about the suituation. Let it be a lesson that you must learn. Remebr we must learn from our mistakes and try not to repeat them.

Knowing what I know now, I would part ways with both. It is impossible to rebuild a relationship torn apart by cheating. Maybe it can be done with counseling. In my case, I was engaged and my fiancee slept with another man. She begged me for another chance and I was so infatuated at the time I gave her another chance. I was never able to let go of the fact that she had been with someone else and it affected me in the bedroom so she started seeing him again while she was with me. I finally grew mentally and emotionally tired of fighting for this relationship and kicked her to the curb. Another thing I learned from this is that the old saying "If they cheat with you, They'll cheat on you" is so very true. A year later I got a letter from my ex saying that the guy she cheated on me with had cheated on her!!!! Did I take her back again??? Hell no, I learned my lesson.

Part ways. you don't need a partner that will cheat on a drop of a dime and you don't need a friend that will break your heart and wreck your home.

its a very hard question. but i think at first u have give urself a breather and have sometime to think what is far more important to u. if u can live w/o both of them or u cant. if u think u cant forget what they've done then better part ways with both. if u can forgive thats good, anyway everyone deserves a second chance.

this is a hard question... Hopefully I could compose myself and not react to my feelings. In other words try not to hurt the milk man... because really its more your partners fault then the person she/he cheats with

get rid of both of them, the one thing you have with your partner that no one else has should be intimacy, the friend, well they are not really a friend are they. trust will be gone, and can you really forget? i think my first reaction would be.... kickin butt.

Get rid of your dishonest lover and get new one. If you want to retain the new one for long, you have to be obviously honest in relationships.

you ask yourself WHY this would happen in the first place then u deal with it as u see fit for some couples this is a crossroads... for some it is THE END but if it´s a friend it´s a double betrayal so maybe that´s harder to forgive... personally i can´t see it happening to me but i suppose we ALL think that...

Had it happen with my sister. Hard to disown a sister