Marry him...Or NOT....

We've been almost 13 years as boyfriend and girlfriend. And I never experienced to have other guy in my life. My world goes round with him only. I'm only thinking about the future of my daughter. I don't want her to grow without having a family. We lived together for 6months after i gave birth, but we separated when his family is always meddling our relationship. As of now he's out of the country, he didn't give any money, aside from when his family borrowed my daughter for 5 days, when they returned my daughter they gave me 1 can of milk, 1 pack of diapers (20 pcs) and $15 only. that's all....

this is so wrong if you think you are gonna do this for your daughter. Your daughter will grow and when she will see her mummy not happy where is that sence to have complete family? The kids are not stupid, they know very well, what is going on around them. and why you want married him? It looks like he doesn't care if you have something to give eat to your daughter or if you two are starving. And his family. Than can of milk , box of diapers and $15, what they think for how long you will have that??

when i decided to separate him, i told him to provide a financial support for my daughter but he refused to give..since i'll be living with my family side, he told me he that i just used the money to sustain the needs of my family..that's why he don't to support my daughter...

Some of the most influentioal people and succseful people come up with no family....family or not that isnt ganna scar her for life...as long as she has you shes safe...and you never know u might fins a hottie somday who wants to be a real dad and provide for you and youe daughter.

Ohh how i wish i have time to look around and find another guy...i'm too busy in my work...I'm working 16 hours just to support my daughter

i am thinking what's the best for my daughter..and that is to have a complete family when she grow old..it just that maybe we just have lack of communication because he always said time will comes...time will tell..but i can't wait any longer..i want to get married soon..im not getting any younger.. thanks for your comment..

Well if you are worried about your daughter not having her father around please make sure you do not shut him out of her life, like I've seen in several cases. Some fathers want to be involved in their childrens lives even if they are not married or they are divorced. They can still be there, and they can parent! I will bring up the other side though, if you do let him in and you are open, there is still the possibility of him not wanting to be in his daughter's life. That happens too and its unfortunate. Even with that, he still has the obligation of child support. Again, I say this needs more communication and you should plead your case for your daughter to her father, not just your case.

well, i think you still let your daughter's father do his responsibility as her father..it doesn't mean that because he's not with you and your daughter that he can't be a good father...

If i will not marry him, what will happen to my daughter? She will grow old without the presence of her father?

Thanks,,that's what I'm wishing for...but for now, i am happily and contented in my life..of course having my daughter around...

We've been together for almost 13 years..he's my first bf ever since..never tried anyone..and now it's more complicated becoz i can't move on because of our daughter.

I'm afraid i can't shoulder all the expenses of my daughter.. He want me to convert to his religion, make peace to his family, lived his family, forget my family and other conditions... But still I'm hurting everytime i think that he will be on the other woman hand..

thanks for the comments..