Someone has a crush on me and i don't like it!
By secretbear
@secretbear (19448)
Philippines
November 15, 2007 7:22am CST
Well, this is the half-truth of it. ^__^;;
the situation was this, i have an officemate who is rumored to be gay but he is a good friend of mine, and a lot of our officemates are teasing him that he has a crush on me. i don't take it seriously because i know its not true and it's never gonna happen because we treat each other as brothers and sisters. ^__^
anyway.. i did experience this kind of situation back at school when someone from our class, rumored to be gay, had a crush on me. well at least that's what my classmates were telling me. now, i don't have anything against gay people, in fact, i do admire them because they are so much fun and talented and i have a few gay friends who i love so much. ^__^
now this person was only rumored to be gay because he seems to act like one. duh. LOL anyway, everytime my friends teased me about it i just get super embarrassed and i would actually get pissed and at some point i got so angry with that person! especially when it turned out that the rumor that he had a crush on me was true!!!! i couldn't really accept it. i just don't like "soft men". LOL
anyway, something like this happened to you??
PS: i am sorry if i offended anyone! *peace*
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26 responses
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Almost identical situation. Then he sent me flowers almost everyday for weeks. I got so embarassed when I saw the florist I would hurry off to the bathroom! I knew it was something that would never be and the more I tried to disway him the harder he tried. He did eventually give up and ended up moving to the other side of the country. But he took one of my best rings with him!
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
15 Nov 07
I have to add this. So now he can tell himself, "at least i got the ring" :)
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
LOL that's funny LittleMel! ^__^ what ring was that jill?
i remember back in college when there was this retarded-looking guy classmate of ours who gave me flowers and tried to confess his crush on me, i gave the flowers to another classmate and i started avoiding the guy! ^__^;;
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
16 Nov 07
Well if he has a crush on you, then he probably is not gay at all. Although, stanger things have happened. I think that if you are secure enough with yourself as a woman, it should not matter if the guy is a little sensitive.
Sensitive guys are pretty cool. They can anticipate your every need. They are kind gentle and considerate. Without all that macho crap getting in the way.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
15 Nov 07
Some gay guys get a facination with girls, I have a few gay friends and one of them has had very strong feelings for girls and prefers to be in the company of girls but physically he only likes to be with boys, strange but that is the way he is, its nice if he thinks of you like this take it as a compliment.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
i have gay friends and for sure they like my company, a girl's company because the think like a girl. and yeah, they only like boys. but liking my company and having a crush on me are two different things. ^__^;;
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
15 Nov 07
I think everyone is different and I don't see why a gay guy cant have a crush on a girl, I know a gay guy who really falls in love with girls but physically only likes males, confusing I know, I was confused about him for a long time but I just came to the conclusion we are all individuals and not everyone fits into the few catagories they tend to slot people, we are all different.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
well, yeah. i do get your point. reminds me, one of my gay friends told me a long time ago that he had a crush on a girl. but he lost the interest eventually and focused on guys. ^__^;;
maybe the excuse i can say is, i was still immatured and didn't understand things when i was still in school so i got mad at that classmate of mine. ^__^;; but now i'm open minded. but i still can't avoid being embarrassed when i'm teased to a gay person. .
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
15 Nov 07
Honestly hun I think the best thing to do is to tell him how you feel. Try and be as nice, sweet, and sincere as possible though because if you don't feel the same as he does for you his feelings will be hurt. Are you sure you don't like him?
Luv & Hugzz, Your Friend, PurpleTeddyBear.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
hi purple!! ^__^
well, that happened a long time ago back at school. its all history now. ^__^
about this officemate, i treat him as a brother and a friend and i know he knows it and he can feel it so i doubt he would ever gonna have a crush on me. ^__^
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@gwendovere (1279)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Yes, but I've learned from my mistakes. I no longer have relationships with people I work with. At one point, a guy kept asking me out & I kept telling him no because we worked together. ... Eventually, he quit that job & went to work somewhere else, so I went out with him for a short time. But it still didn't work out! Rumors fly at work & I want no part of that!
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
a guy from work, and he is totally not gay, tried to court me when i was new at work. but things didn't turn out nice so i don't pay attention to him anymore.
@raychill (6525)
• United States
15 Nov 07
So I had this boyfriend in high school. This little ninth grader seemed to eye up my boyfriend a lot and I thought it was kinda funny and cute that some girl had a crush on my boyfriend. (She was in 9th, I was in 12th, boyfriend in 11th) My boyfriend, on the other hand, simply hated this girl because of it. I thought it was silly because why hate someone because they like you?
I mean he was my boyfriend and she was crushing on him and I didn't even care. so that's just silly.
anyway, eventually I became friends with this girl casue she was pretty awesome actually and my boyfriend hated it. He told me I wasn't allowed to talk to her when we were together and I laughed and still did that stuff.
Eventually we broke up and I always told my friend that it was all her fault. Jokingly of course.
I'm glad I had my friend, rather than that boyfriend.
I think it's idiotic to say the least to dislike someone just cause they have a crush.
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
15 Nov 07
Wow! You weren't "allowed" to talk to her when he was there? That's crazy!
Then guys have the nerve to say that the theory of boys taking longer to mature then girls is far fetched! I think not lol!
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
how cute! ^__^
anyway, your ex-bf was really weird for hating that girl who had a crush on him. but his situation was different than mine because, the person who had a crush on me was not just a guy, he was rumored to be gay and people believed so. if he was obviously straight i wouldn't have any problem with it. i just felt so embarrassed. maybe because i was teased.
@raychill (6525)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Ha ha exactly! I mean, it was High school and we were teenagers. But once when we were leaving school (he drove us to and from) she waved to me and said hi and I said hi out the window to her and he honestly yelled at me for talking to her in HIS truck. I just laughed. I thought it was absolutely ridiculous. While, my friend wasn't the reason we broke up, we did break up during this time... and maturity differences had a lot to do with it.
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@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
20 Nov 07
Just inform him politely that he has crushed on the wrong rock, the wrong hard surface, and he will neither break your heart not feel you! LOL
@babiixgiirl (258)
•
17 Nov 07
Well, I can't really comment on the whole 'soft men' thing, I have to admit, I do have a bit of a soft spot for the rough n tough sort of guy, lolz. But, anyways, I did have a similar situation, in that a friend I had a few years ago admitted he had a crush on me - he was my best friend for a few years, and then we decided to date - it actually worked really well, because we knew everything about each other, and we got engaged. Then he cheated on me and broke my heart, but that's not the point, lolz.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
20 Nov 07
haha.. weather he's gay or not, wat matters is do u feel anything for him?? if no, den just make it straight and right for everybody to know that rumour is just rumour and that u dun feel any for him :)
@qradav (154)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
a lot, I mean a lot of straight men will pretend to be gay (or at least act more feminine) to be close to women. I know a couple of men who do it all the time, although I will point out that I haven't done this. The closest I did was get along with a group of women and join them every now and then to be close to the girl I like (which I think, men do commonly). But I didn't act gay or soft hahaha
Don't think just because a person acts "soft" he is harmless. Its quite the opposite, these people are the more dangerous ones.
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@mengchuijie (324)
• South Korea
30 Nov 07
haha,you are not in luck that kind of guy had a crush on you. cheer up! An excellent man will have a crush on you at last.
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@Sungolian (377)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Just tell him how you really feel about this. Don't offend or hurt him, and certainly don't encourage him, but it's better that he know right away you are not interested. This way neither of you need to waste any more time, and he won't be mislead about your feelings.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
LOL that happened a long time ago! as far as i can remember, he felt i didn't like him having a crush on me so he stayed away. ^.^
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
You know, i understand you. There is someone who had a crushed on me too now. He is not a soft, but i don't like him because i don't like him that is why i get pissed whenever our friend teased us. I don't like him and i don't like him. Our reaction which is also your reaction is like that because we don't like the person. I just wished she looks for another girl na ka level niya noh!Kainis.grrr.
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@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
16 Nov 07
Truth or otherwise, nowadays people form their judgment based on perception. People base their perception on what they see and hear, so while you may regard your male colleague only like a brother to you, your other colleagues may view things differently. You should ask your colleagues who tease you why they consider that this person is having a crush on you. Or are they teasing you because this person acts like a gay, which gives them reason to tease you even more? In an office environment, relationships are bound to attract attention and sometimes gossip, so if you are feeling uncomfortable with all the teasing, perhaps you should hear more from your colleagues about what they actually perceive and keep a little distance from this person so that your intentions of treating him like a brother won't be misunderstood.
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@peanutjar (5198)
• Canada
16 Nov 07
Hi,yes it has happened to me in high school one time,didnt bother me at all.I found it exhilerating that someone of the other kind found "me" attractive.I only though that they liked their own kind and i liked that i attracted the other kind,it made me feel good,haha.Well put it this way,if you can attract any kind of sexuality that means your super sexy!!Hehe!
Peanutjar:):)Take care secretbear:)
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
16 Nov 07
LOL. if he does have a crush on you, then that is flattering. As for him being soft, he might only be that way at work. I thought my husband was a meek, mild timid man, until he made a rather rude joke about my red hair! That certainly changed my perception of him. If you want to stay friends, then that's upto you, but never close that door entirely. Who knows? He could be the perfect man! lol. Even if we are in love with someone, we can find ourselves attracted to other people, male and female, this is different to being in love, but you can still love them. Confused yet! lol. Your reaction of getting angry would suggest that you like this guy too. Remember back to your school days and see if it was the same back then! lol.
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