Do you let people know if it's okay to flirt with you?

I have told people online/offline that it is not okay to flirt with myself nor my gf.The online people that have fashioned their conversations in this way, have been not so kosher, and therefore I get rid of them.Actual friends/acquaintances, we don't get any of that type of behaviour from.

I am wondering how you flirt online? Am I stuck too far back in the stone age? Please forward me your manual concerning top-notch flirting. Thanks. Cheers

Ya its kind of fine with me to have a healthy flirt, I mean I can flirt with any one until its healthy and not cheap, and bit witty. I like making my mind work and people who can make me do it. I have had friends, I mean girls who go with very safe flirts, but it doesn't offend me or my girlfriend either. Its quite fine for us. I myslef have never disatisfied them with my answers, but I never go raunchy in my flirts. I let people know when it ok to flirt and how its ok. Take care GOD Bless YOU

no it does not bother me if woman flirts with , actually i like it and take it as a compliment,as i am 62yro.

Well I would let them know but seems nobody really wants too. I feel so neglected,,, maybe thats why I compensate with my big spear. Now where's that bear?

I don't mind flirting online at all. I mean you can't really act on it anyways so it is all in good fun is the way I see it. However when it is in the "real world" I tend to not care for it more. Usually because it is creepy old drunks that scare me anyways. I live in a small area and it would be very easy to find me. If I flirt my man is sure to hear about it and doesn't care for it at all. He thinks everyone wants to bed me. I still do flirt but not in a super noticeable way so I can deny I did if confronted. LOL If I do get uncomfortable with the flirting I would probable laugh it off like they are joking and keep bringing up my man, my man, my man. So they know I am not interested at all.

Lecanis, I realize that you have never been anything but honest with me and when I just now saw this discussion I feel so ashamed that I now must tell you the truth. All along I have been telling you that I am an overweight, older woman. I have been doing this just so I could have a chance to be close to you in these messages - just to get you to open up to me - just to get you to want and need me. Yes, dear Lecanis, I do flirt, and now it's out in the open.....I have been quietly flirting with you all along. I hope that you can forgive me for this deceit. I am now adding my true picture. I would have picked one with my face, but I am just too embarrassed to do that right now. If you will only say that you forgive me, I will send you another one later.~Donna

Flirting is harmless fun and I get a kick out of it. I must admit I get into more trouble offline when I flirt with people while their sig others are around. Some people don't get that flirting is not a come on. It's just play. Which is also the reason that I won't flirt with people who don't know me. I wouldn't want to give them the wrong idea.

I don't mind innocent (and not so innocent) flirting among friends, especially if it's kept online. In real life it really depends on the person. My ex-hubby flirts and it's cute because we've known each other since we were 5 years old...he's ALWAYS flirted with me. But then there's the guy that wanted me to buy his car...his flirting was NOT welcome even though we had been friends up to that point.

As long as the person flirting with me is female with a pulse, I'm all for it! It's flattering. There's a great line in the Beatles song, "Hey Jude," that goes, "It's a fool who plays it cool by making his world a little colder." I like to make my world a little warmer by accepting flirtation from any woman -- no matter what she looks like or how old she is. I personally would never flirt with anyone unless I sensed that it was OK to do so. If I miscalculate and end up flirting with someone and the flirtation turns out to be unwanted, then I would respect that and never flirt with her again. Thanks for a great discussion topic.

Flirting has been a big issue for me for many years. I can be a flirt sometimes. But I have this invisible line in the sand, apparently. I enjoy joking around and having a good time. I like feeling attractive to others and I like to make others feel attractive. But, I don't like it to go "too" far. I try to keep it at a joking/banter level. When I see that the other person is misunderstanding and thinking that I have more serious intentions, I usually start to distance myself. I have found (from experience) that if I try to have a direct conversation about it and explain that I don't have any serious intentions, the person will somehow take that the wrong way too. They will either pretend that they weren't flirting or they will see my clarifying the fact that I am not interested as a challenge. I flirt less and less as I get older, but it's a hard thing to quit entirely because sometimes "flirting" can be confused with being friendly or joking around. Sometimes I'm not sure where that line is.

You know this is an interesting topic. I don't know if I have ever really specifically told someone that it wasn't okay to flirt with me. For the most part I see flirting as completely harmless. However, if someone did or does flirt with and it is unwanted or makes me feel uncomfortable, I'd probably continually steer them away from the area and be sure that I don't lead them on in anyway. But, honestly I don't think I have ever told them to stop. Matter of fact, I think I did once and the person's response was- oh relax, I'm just flirting with you its not like I want to marry you. So, ever since then I just don't make a big deal about it. If it makes me really really uncomfortable then I just stop talking to them.

it depends on. offline, it is immoral. online, whatever!

Hmmm. If I had to tell someone it was ok for them to flirt with me, it might take away all the fun. And if I was flirting with someone who told me they preferred that I didn't, I don't know that I would really want to continue the friendship... I would feel too constrained and rigid to really enjoy the exchange.

Hello lecanis,Thanks for your interesting post.Yes I support healthy intelligent flirting within restrictions without hurting anybodies feelings and I avoid to do it with strangers cause it sometimes creates misunderstanding, may be I am too good or too bad as a flirt but for some reasons I have restricted myself of my own to avoid unwanted complications in life.Thanks

On the contrary, I always let people know it is not OK to flirt with me. Perhaps I am a serious person. I don't want to joke or fool around in this aspect. I am always earnest to it.

I don't really tend to have a problem with a bit of harmless flirtation, but I wouldn't hesitate to let someone know if they were coming on a bit strong - I'd just try to keep it lighthearted, so they knew I wasn't angry at them, or anything, I just think it's important to know the boundaries of any relationship, online or off, before one of you gets the wrong idea, or feels uncomfortable - in the same way, I'd expect to be told if I was making someone else uncomfortable, too.

I don't say anything to a person that's flirting with me unless I am already in a relationship. In that case, I would say something like," Oh I have a boyfriend.." when the person starts to obviously flirt.

The thing is, I will only know that he is flirting if I feel like flirting with him. Weird. I mean, not until if the guy has an effect on me that shall i notice the flirting part.

hi lecanis.i also used to flirt at lot with other friends of mine being it online or offline but later i started feeling that some friends have started taking me for granted.so after that i frankly tell anyone that i donot like to either flirt or being flirted. keeping mum according to my experience is not at all good.in that case many a times some exceed their limit as well.