Is it too insensitive to end a four year relationship?
By kornflakes
@kornflakes (298)
Philippines
November 18, 2007 2:56am CST
If a woman broke up with her boyfriend of four years just because she's tired of him, is she insensitive? If he tries to get back with her, is he pathetic? If he's still trying to work it out and she has a new person in her life, is it inappropriate?
I need ideas. =]
7 responses
@kosykosy (160)
• Ghana
31 Mar 08
Well, is this four year relationship going anywhere, or was this guy just using you to meet his needs? If there has been no talk of marriage and one party is interested in marriage whereas the other party is not, then its a recipe for disaster. If you've found someone who is more serious minded, then good for you!
@kornflakes (298)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
Thank you for sharing that thought, I'll keep that in mind.
To answer your question..NO, I don't believe it's going anywhere. NO, I don't think he's using me to meet his needs; what I think is that he might be a little bit obsessed. There was a talk about marriage but I don't think I want to spend the rest of my life with him.
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
They need to face the reality. It is better to be true than forever lying and pretending that she still love you.
It was not really pathetic because he just show his love and be true.
@kornflakes (298)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
I do agree that they do need to face the reality that a relationship could never work out with only one of them religiously working it out.
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
Well, I can say that if she has a new person in her life then theres no need to work it out. A time of span spent in a relationship is not always a guarantee that the relationship is meant to be. If she feels that she is no longer happy and she did her best to make things work but still nothing happens then what else could she do but finish it or else she would only making her life and his life miserable. It takes two to make things work, both should be willing.
The only thing that I can say is that its better if she really have no plan of going back to him, it would be better to talk to him once and for all and finish things. At least they would go on separate ways in good terms.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
18 Nov 07
They are both pathetic in my opinion. It could be worse. Maybe they could have gotten married and she could have turned him into the starter husband (i.e. 1 year or less divorce). They are better off not being together. I also feel sorry for sap I meant "guy" #2. I'm betting she'll do the same to him.
@akacipher (64)
• India
20 Nov 07
the girl like this is nothing less that a bit** and a who**!! The guy is too good for such a girl....... Its hard to move on but then no matter how much the guy tries the bit** is never gone listen!!! In the end he just has his sobs and loneliness to be with.......
@kornflakes (298)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
Yeah, I totally understand. So he must give up since she's not even giving her love back, right?
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
18 Nov 07
I think that staying with a person when you arent happy is insensitive...If you arent happy, leave rather than staying where you are miserable and preventing both of you from finding that person who DOENST make you miserable or unhappy ya know..If she is with someone new and he is still trying to work it out, somethings not right there..Either he's obsessed or she isnt being straight up with him...
