Whose in charge at your house..you or your spouse..

We have a partnership marriage too. He cooks and cleans too. He acutally does most of the cooking because he's batter at it, and because he likes it. He takes out the trash, because I have a bad back, not because I think it's a "man's job". We both clean the apartment, myself more than him, because I'm home more often than he is. If he can't get tot he dishes before he goes to his second job, he'll ask me to do it - and I usually do it. We thank each other for helping each other with different things. He'll hang the laundry, if I put it in the washing machine, and fold it when it's dry. But sometimes he'll do it all, or I'll do it all. I think that since we both lived on our own before we got married and had to take care of ourselves, we're both used to having to do all of the chores. Being married and living together, we'd rather just split them up in a way that works for us. I love that we can do this, and we rarely have any problems. Every relationship should be this great!!!

Well as a couple we help each other in all the responsibilities at home...=)

I do the dishes and the cooking, my husband does the fixing up because it is dangerous for me to pick up a hammer and I get the paint over me more than the object to be painted. I also do the ironing, but the other things just happen to overlap. We sometimes help each other make the bed and sometimes when I am away, my husband will cook. He sort of uses more pans than I do. I had the same problem with my dad.

In our house there really isn't 'a man's job' or 'a woman's job'; if something needs to be done one of us just does it. For the most part I do the dishes, but sometimes he just goes in and does them. This past weekend he mopped the kitchen and cleaned the bathroom, while I did other stuff around the house. I've helped him work on our vehicles, I've shoveled snow, mowed the lawn, etc. So, we both pull our weight.

We have a partnership marriage. We share everything. I do more physical things in the summer months on the farm but its mostly equal.

That is a really good question, little! I guess if I am honest with myself I am a little more in charge of daily activities. I keep the calendar and make sure we all get to where we are supposed to be. I balance the checkbook and do the grocery shopping. I get the kids ready for school. My husband is definately more in charge of disipline than I am. He is the provider of the family, though I help him run his business. I don't know that we have "women" or "men" jobs, but we definately each have areas where we are stronger.

I suppose I'm in charge. This means that I'm the one who does the "man's job" of bringing money to the home and my wife the "woman's job" of spending it. :)

I'd like to think I'm in charge...but frankly, that's not the truth. Personally, I feel that there should be no designated job...everyone does their part and takes on someone else's chore when they aren't able to do..no questions asked. I don't believe in a 'man's' job and a woman's job in the house. I do everything at home(including technical stuff)...and don't mind. But my husband considers himself the man of the house and doesn't lift a finger ules it's really really necessary. But I don't intend to bring my sons up that way and the older one has his chores to do.The younger one is too young...but I will start him when he is ready.

we share household responsibility equally.he help me with all the household chores also.but sometimes when i get irritated with the fact that i had to leave my job and baby sit and i get no relaxaton at all.i have to carry him everywhere i go-even to parties.so i long for time when i can spend for my self.i know i am being mean.but i guess i have tothe right to pent out my feeling with u guys!!

The cats are in charge in my house :)

My partner and I share the chores in the house, we don't bother with the deliniations between his and hers anymore, rather we do things as a partnership. Ok, so there are some days when I feel that I am doing all the housework but then he is out at work all day. But generally we do share the jobs between us

Hi littlefranciscan! I think we are both in charge. I used to think that i am the one incharge because i am the one who notices everything in the house and i usually tell him that this needs this and this needs that. But as years passed, i have realized that we are partners in everything, we do help each other in most of the tasks in the house except for electrical repairs. He cooks and cleans and sometimes do the grocery. haha..Take care and have a nice day.

I wouldn't say any one of us is in charge. I guess we have our "reponsibilities" around the house but it just comes naturally. My husband will do all the heavy dirty work while I'll do some of the smaller household chores like cooking and cleaning. I'm lucky that my husband don't mind doing work around the house.

I don't think it's right to say that there should be one specific incharge. Since both of you are in the marriage together, both of you should be incharge. In instances where you do not agree on certain things, there is always such a word as compromise. I would like to think that things in our marriage happen because both of us decided to, not because just one of us did.

Since my husband gives me all of his imcome every month. So I am in charge at my home and I have to deal with all the costs.

i am single, so i have to do everything in my house ,it was so tired!