can a woman ask a man to marry her?

i didn't mean it that way. i didn't mean that women should succumb to slavery... i mean it's not the role of the women to make the first move and lead the relationship, because men should be the initiators. women accept and submit only to the man of their CHOICE. i didn't mean that women should always accept and submit to a man whom they don't like... if a man leads a woman to a direction he likes, it is up to the woman if she WANTS to accept the proposal. if a man tells what he wishes, it is up the woman if she WANTS to submit to his wishes.. that's what i mean by a woman's ROLE... she's not the initiator of the relationship. my idea here is that no matter how a woman may already want to marry, she should wait until the man proposes.. if the man still doesn't propose, the woman can bring the idea or talk about marriage - but she doesn't propose because that's the man's job. if the idea appeals to the man, he'll find his way into proposing to the woman he fancies to marry.. hehe.. well, that's my own opinion of it. have a nice day.

a woman submits... Does that mean that the woman does whatever the man wants? I don't agree! A marriage is about 2 people working together. The woman needs to have their life too and that means have their say. If that means rejecting what the man is saying because it is against your values then you reject it on those grounds. A woman should never be forced to be a slave to a man. I am not a feminist but I see marriage being 2 people that compliment eachother but are equal. Sure, compromise is important in making things work but submitting is a totally different game!

It's not odd. If she has "the idea" first, then what's the problem? If you look at it as a tradition, yes... it wouldn't be nice for a woman to ask the man to marry her, but if you treat it as a PROOF OF LOVE, then it's one of the best things to do. Asking a man to marry you the first time it's surprise; the second time is conviction; the third time is persuasion...and so on...and finally, the last time he'll do it!

hehe....i'm so sorry that it seems I made some mistakes on typing this response above last night. i think that"you can ask him" should be corrected to"you can be asked by him".hehehe.....sorry,my friend. then,what i mean is that it's not odd as a tradition and as a proof of love.but i also don't think it's a must for female to ask male to marry her since it has been the 21 century now. when it come to what you said ,buddy, i make full sense of your mean.yes,when the first time she does it,you feel surprise and sweet,but if the action is overmuch,then it will become so boring without attraction. yes, i agree with you,buddy.

Sorry saiwailaozei ... this actually was a post to the main topic :)...it was my first time here and i put a comment to the last response instead of putting a response :) See ya...by the way...thanks you agreed somehow!