If your man tells you he doesn't like to be asked questions, what do you do?

Ok you have dated for six months, which is not too long yet because things are so new, steps are cautiously taken in disclosing how much trust should be given and understood how much will be received. Opening up is not a common problem in new relationships and wanting to know everything is not wrong, but 'patience is a virtue' when seeding a future garden with your mate is the task at hand. Cultivation of wonderful things take time, much time and discussion and comfort in knowing the other person is not judgmental, and that talking is confidential. So far the confidentiality part has been breached, you are discussing your concerns on an internet group, which is fine if he thinks its fine. If not, that could be one of your problems. Privacy for men is taken very seriously by men, they are shyer than women and it is so okay but annoying for women who are less shy and more receptive to personal disclosure. Take your time, show him you want to be his friend, his lover and his partner in everything that simply begins with everything in front of us to decide further on where and how to proceed 'in love' . . . Hope I helped a little bit for this is what I do and I love seeing unions solidify !!! sharing the light and happy holidays, Miss Erica Hidvegi, the Enlightenment_Advisor, B.A. Psych/M.A. Transpersonal Studies- Cnslng/Author, Artist, Photographer, Entrepreneur & Freelance extraordinaire

it can be understoood that he has some problem in his past, he is little reluctant to talk. Now see love can't be forced on anyone. If you love him, he must also love you to fulfil from both side. Look at his behaviour towards you. If he realy loves you, then he should open up. Otherwise you just can't force him to love.

Give him time and don't ask him anything. That's how my and man started off but now we're good. I gave him space and stopped asking him questions and once he ask me something I just did'nt answer it until he is ready to get to know me just as I was him. He didn't last long because he couldn't stand the fact that I started off by asking him a million questions and then just stopped.

How long have you been together? I am one that has been hurt in the past and it takes me a bit to open up to a new person in my life. It just takes time and truthfully that isn't so bad. If someone pushes me, I tend to back off. It takes time to get comfortable and trust someone

I am also like you, I love to ask questions more each day because I also believe that in that way I will be able to know and fully understand my husband. My husband is open to questions but he is the type of person that needs to be push or you need to know which button to press so he will open up or tell you what you want to know. I usually ask him questions leading to another and I also explore how and when to ask him... in some relationships, it could be a matter of time until each party will be open with everything... just try to study his behavior and know what are the buttons that you need to press when you want to know this or that...I sort of study or explore his personality and it works really good to us...right now, I can know anything I want to know...just my idea here...

well how long have you been living with your partner?normally people donot open themselves so quickly to anyone.and since he has been hurted in the past so its quite acceptable for him.i think you sould give him sometime to open up to you.dont lose patience.rather iwould suggest you that you should talk to him as much as you can so that sometimes or other he also starts saring with you.it can also be that your partner does not like to speak a lot.but in all cases i think what you need to do is to bring him to a comfort level.

Let sleeping dogs lie tazpromote, you wake them up, they bite you. Leave your man's past alone until you see those women in his past creep into his current life then you can push for questions as to why they are showing up-if you insist you are going to spoil things completely in your marriage.

Play him at his own game.When he questions you tell him to get stuffed

I guess you just have to hang out with him and not ask questions. He will open up when he is ready and he may not open all the way up but being around him. you will get to know him.

If your relationship is young, give him time. After a while if he still doesn't open up, leave him. You can't be in a relationship with a man you know nothing about.

You have to earn his trust. This is serious Taz. Its not something that'll be rushed. In time he may open up to you. But you also have to be honest with him, even if his answers are honest and not exactly what you want to hear. If you two can come to terms with this, you'll both be that much better for it. Truth be told I'm with Sid on this one, and its something getting backstabbed, garotted and eviscerated by some of the opposite gender. I also have to agree with another poster on here. The answers to some of your questions may not be pretty. I can attest to that with some of what's been done to me on mylot when reacting to some relationship/marriage threads.

I will always think maybe he is hiding something from me.. the great form of a conversation is to ASK! You ask because you want to know this and that if he refuses or not want to hear questions then you will start to suspect there is something happening behind the scenes

What questions are you trying to ask him? General life questions such as what is your mother's name and how many siblings do you have, or more personal questions such as why did your last relationship end or did you ever cheat on her? Depending on what type of question, you may have a problem. There are a lot of people who clam up and won't talk, but I don't know if I could be with someone who didn't want me to know anything about him.

i guess that your man was hurt terribly by some women ago,so he donot want to open up to anyone.he dont want to be hurt again,but i think that he likes you indeed. good luck!

Doesn't he know that you must have communication in a relationship ? Through an open line of communication every thing else falls into place. You can't get to know him if you can't ask him any questions. We have all been hurt one way or another in life; he's not the only one. Telling you what you should do is a very hard one. I would say give him some time but it all depends on how much time you've given him already.Seems like he's taking the hurt he got from some one else out on you.I know what I wouldn't do is to hold back the word called love. Don't let him know that you love him this way it won't hurt so bad.If you're sharing with him and not getting anything back in return.