How much/how little do you help your child with his/her homework and projects?

I think you are right. Each child learns differently. I was always pretty good in math but my sister wasn't. My dad would sit down with her until she understood it. I think its good to be involved as long as you let them learn it by doing as much as they can themselves. I always felt a rush when I figured something out that I was struggling with.

You are absolutely correct miami, I've raised all my brothers, and sisters, cousins, and kids from two different marriages, me being the oldest of all of them,you can't expect any of them to be the same! They all learn different, they all behave different,they all react different, and you have to know and be ready for this , or else you will run into problems! Some of them you had to help along, others never needed that much guidance! I was in the military, and even in the military discipline, you have to be able to recognize, the limits, and boundaries, of each individual!

I agree that it depends on each child's ability. But I like to be involved even if I am not helping (when they are capable of doing it themselves). I have two kids - only one goes to school...he's 7 and usually does projects on his own. But we like to discuss it and form a plan before he gets down to doing it. I like that and I am involved with his school projects. When it comes to homework, he prefers doing it on his own. I just check it once he is done or when he gets stuck and asks me for help. I don't see why you have to help a child who is capable of doing a project/homework themselves. That's the whole point, isn't it? I always loved doing my projects in school and enjoy being involved especially because I think the projects should be age appropriate too and I might tend to put in my adult viewpoint to it.

I believe that parents should let their children do as much as possible on their own. It builds good character and work efforts. I would check on them to make sure that they are doing all right and make sure to let them know you'll be there for them if they need some help. With CJ having Autism he needs quite a bit of help right now. I let him do what he can on his own and make sure he stays-on-task. I'm praying that one day soon he'll be able to feel confident in doing more on his own but I will still be there for him.

I only helped with the stuff they could not do, such as things that required hot stuff or acids or cooking. If they were nervous about doing something I would help, like my daughter hated touching strange things...lol. My sons were not good spellers so I checked that for them. But I made them do as much as they could and even had them try doing some of the things that they were not sure of because sometimes they do surprise themselves with their own abilities.

Yes I agree with you it depends on their ability like mine they ask me how to do it and they did it them selves but we need to help them also to encourage them. Sometimes children needs us as inpiration.

Hey I am always there when my kids need me. I will help them in anyway I can. There my kids and that is what I there for. They are still my babys.

I like helping my child with all his homework and projects. We love doing the work together every evening. That way I stay connected with him on a meaningful level and he knows that he has to sit with his studies every evening and be thorough with it, coz mummy would be watching every now and then.

I was in the same boat as you. My oldest pretty much whizzed through school and my youngest struggled. My oldest would help his brother out a lot too.

I agree with you. Each of my kids had different abilities and styles. One never really needed much help. The other two usually needed a lot more depending on what they had to do.

Well, i don't think children need the same amount of help as they get older & start getting homework etc. If 1 child is doing well, coping with school & not needing the help because they can do it themself then you don't need to butt in. If a child is struggling & they ask or you can see they need help then you can offer it to them. I guess i'll wait & see what happens when our daughter gets older & if we have others but i think if 1 child needs more help than the other with school work then you can help them - but only as much as they need!

We're not there yet, since our little one is only 13 months old, but we're planning on homeschooling him, so I'm thinking I'll be pretty involved in the whole homework, projects thing...at least for a while.

Let them try their on way........Dont help them

children love being helped with there homework its a good time for bonding

never did this myself but its their project so dont think I would have much to do with it. bit make sugjestions of what to do thrrow it out to them and let them pick it up. Not fair to the kid if you put more into it than they do!

I am also in agreement that every child is different. However, if the project seems to be beyond your child's ability, then perhaps there's a discussion with his/her teacher needed. Most of the time, though, teachers don't assign projects that are beyond their students' scope of ability. I refuse to do my girls' homework for them. They seem to have the most trouble answering chapter questions, where they have to look up the answers in the book, and that drives me insane! LOL They try to act like they are incapable of looking in the book for the answers! Of course, now that they are in the sixth grade, they know better than to ask me, because I just look at them and say,"It's not my homework." That might sound mean, but I would rather they do it themselves than for me to always give them the answers, or always show them where to find the answers, when life doesn't work that way. They will be grown and calling me for answers to their problems, and what happens then? LOL Now, if the homework seems to be unfair or unusually difficult for them, I might read it over or try to help, but for sure, they are beginning to get beyond what I know, especially in math! LOL Now, I know I had this stuff in school, but that was 20 years or better ago! And another problem I have, the difference in the way the teacher is teaching something, and the way I might do the same thing. That just confuses them, and my girls will argue with me too, that's not the way the teacher does it, mom! Sometimes they get mad at me or I get mad at them, and that's not good for anybody, and so I end up telling them to do it themselves. Good luck with your children and their education!