Divorce

i shall never differentiate them instead of loving.

My husband has two children and I have one. They are all older and not living with us. All of them get along expect for his son. He is a real problem. He lived with us for a while until it got so bad that we had to have him go and live with his mother. He is 24 and just decided that he didn't like me and was not gonna listen to anything I told him. It got really bad. So now of course he blames me for everything that goes wrong in his life. He definitely need to grow up. In the meantime I let my husband deal with him.

This has to be hard. I understand how you feel. Have you ever tried to talk to your ex about your step children ask her if it is okay to send cards or to call on occasion. She may shoot you down but it is worth a try. Maybe when they are adults you can have a relationship with them. It is really what is in the best intrest for the kids. If having you remain in their life would make things hard for them and their mother as harrd as it may be you may have to step away. Communication wroks best.

Its very difficult, I was told to stay away from my stepchildren by their moter and though now they are adults we get on fine I don't feel that I am in any poistion to say or do anything that might influence their lives. Its impotant to make them know they are welcome in your home though no matter how rarely you see them