we shouldn't treat our loved ones like this!
By downaalice
@downaalice (209)
China
November 28, 2007 1:39am CST
i read a story just now ,which goes that one day a lady ran into a stranger as he passed by."i'm sorry"said she.then he said ,"excuse me too...i wasn't even watching for you ."they were very polite.then they went on their ways after saying goodbye.later in the kitchen,as she cooked their meal,her daughter crept up to her,very still.when she turned .she nearly knowed her down."get out of the way!"she barked with a frown.the girl sauntered away,with her little heart broken.she didn't realized how harshly she had spoken.it was not until she found the flowers which her daughter had picked specially for her that she realized that she shouldn't have fussed at her lovely daughter and that it is not to spoil her surprise that her daughter stood there quietly.but she never saw the tears in her little daughter's eyes. by that time she felt sad and small,and tears had begun to fall.i was deeply moved by the story and couldn't control my feeling.i feel
guilty,i always treat my daughter in a similar way to hers.now i realize i shouldn't treat her that way.i should change my way to treat her.she is my favorite and i love her very much.but sometimes i treated her in a wrong way just because of the deepest love.sometimes when i was working and couldn't stand my daughter disturbing me,i always shout to her,'' don't stand in the way! i am busy!"let's imgine that :if you die tomorrow,the company that you are working for could easily replace you in a matter of days.but the family you leave belind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.and come to think of it,we pour ourselves more into our work than into our families---an investment indeed.so we should care our loved ones.
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11 responses
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
28 Nov 07
Little people matter. We need to treat our children as if they are the most precious people in the world to us, because they are. I was not always this passionate about kids. I always loved them, but not with the kind of protection that I do now.
A few years ago, I bought $500.00 worth of Psychology books. As I read, I began to realize that the children in these stories had gone through a lot or similar of the same things that I had gone through. Their adult years mirrored mine so much that it was frightening.
I learned why I was the way that I was and I promised myself that I never wanted to be responsible for a child experiencing my hell because of something that I did. Hold them, love them, cherish them, never disregard them, and if it is important to them, make sure it is important to you to.
Use this rule, before you do something to a child. Ask yourself if you would want this to happen to you. If it has happened to you, think about how it has made you feel. Think about your daughter as the helpless little girl that she is. She has to depend on you for everything. If you are not good to her, who will be?
Maybe, you should sign up for parenting classes in your area or seek counseling. Give your child a chance to be whole and happy. Life is hard enough without having to live down and recover from the trauma of childhood.
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@downaalice (209)
• China
28 Nov 07
thank you rozie.thank you for your reminder.i think what you said is very reasonable.really to the child,we should hold them,love them, chrish them never disregard them.i think it very important to them.indeed,child is hopeless and she has to depend on me for everything.if i am not good to her,she will feel very sad.i feel it my duty to give her a happy childhood.i should learn to control my temper,and be patient to her and try to make her grow happily and healthily.
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
28 Nov 07
Sadly speaking, sometimes I am guilty of that too. I tend to be rude to my parents and brother when I feel irritated and frustrated about life.
I guess the reason why most of us are polite to strangers and friends and rude to our loved ones is because, in front of our friends and strangers, we are afraid of being judged and we tend to put on our best behavior, whereas in front of our loved ones, we take for granted the fact that they will love us no matter how we are like. It's true that our loved ones will love us no matter how we are like, that's why all the more we should love them even more and treat them with TLC (tender loving care).
Thanks for the reminder. I will treat my loved ones the way I want my loved ones to treat me. Do unto others as you would want others to do unto you. =D
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
28 Nov 07
I know exactly where your coming from, no-one knows how long they have, my little saying lately since a friend of mine passed away is " tomorrow may never come" my friend was 45 years old when she just dropped to the floor, I thank God every day that we made up from a quarrel just weeks before she passed away....never leave a loved one in anger...
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
28 Nov 07
What a lovely reminder. Indeed this world would be a much better place if we treat each other with respect and caring. Next to God, my loved ones are my highest priority. I'm not the type who says "I love you" to my parents or siblings, nor do I give them material gifts, but I express my love for them through action. I'm always there for them when they need me.
@downaalice (209)
• China
29 Nov 07
hi wisedragon,glad to see your response.i approve of what you did and what's more i should learn from you.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
28 Nov 07
Hello downnaalicce. You are right that we are supposed to be nice and kind to our loved in every little thing and not get them hurt emotionally because of our harsh words, especially to kids, as they are still so young and are quite influenced by what we parents do to them. Thanks for your discussion, dear friend.
@downaalice (209)
• China
29 Nov 07
hello williamjisir,glad to see your response.thank you for your reminder.i think you must be a kind and considerable father ,thus i should learn from you.yeah,the little children are very easily influenced by what we parents do to them,and our harsh words will always hurt their feeling deeply.i found it in my daughter.so we are supposed to be nice and kind to our loved.thank you again.
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
28 Nov 07
I have to admit once reading this that I fell guilty of the same thing! It is true that we do this sometimes in our lives. Thank you for telling this story as it is a reminder that yes we do have people that love us unconditionally, the good, the bad, and the ugly, but we should be more thoughtful of their feelings and appreciate that we even have that in our lives. Thank you!
@downaalice (209)
• China
29 Nov 07
hi,vicki,glad to see your response.it is my pleasure to remind all of us we should give more love and care to our beloved.i always felt guilty of the same thing.so when i read the passage ,i was really deedly moved by it.especially to my little daughter,i felt guilty.because of being occupied with what i was doing,my daughter was always turned down by me unpatiently,regardless of what kind of requirements she has.now i think about it again,and i guess maybe some are very valuable for her.my words must have hurt her deeply.but she never speak it out,and just bear it silently.it will result in her change in character and misunderstanding between us.so i think we really should be more thoughtful of their feeling and appreciate that we even have that in our lives and learn to care for our loved ones.
@bishu_sinha (1457)
• India
28 Nov 07
Superbe expression. I can't believe it. I pray to God not to expereince further.
@taskata10 (627)
• China
28 Nov 07
Hi!
No matter where you are, being friendly to others is important. Sometimes I shout at my kid, and I always feel guilted. So now no matter what mood I am in, I try my best to be kind to others, especially to my kid. From the early age, I'll ask my kid learn to be kind to others.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
29 Nov 07
it's a truth and real life story that is happening to almost everybody, including me.. No matter how hard we try to control our emotion to our loved ones, we always fail to do so.. because we know that, blood is thicker than water.. no matter wat, our parents or brother or child will forgive us.. but in reality, at the moment when we treat them that way, their heart is deeply hurt.. we do feel guilty but after some time, we tend to do it again.. So i can only think of one thing, that is,,,,,, we have taken them for granted that they will be with us forever..
