What do you think about marriage?

well, i'm with the guy i know i want to be with forever. i have never felt this comfortable around another guy before - especially not this fast. it's been great. i love him so much and we're quite good together. we plan on getting married once we are able to get the money together - it's horrible that MONEY is what's keeping us from marriage.. but anyway, haha. marriage is something that should be forever. it's sad how high the divorce rate is now. people used to stick it out in marriages because they're a commitment. forever. but now people get divorced over the pettiest things. i completely support people getting divorced for GOOD reasons such as thier spouse cheated or abuses them.. but divorcing because you realized you aren't as good together as originally thought? horrible. you obviously weren't together as long as you should've been before getting married if you didn't discover that before marriage.

I can see what is happening in society with high divorce rates and all. However, from my perspective my marriage is a blessing I am thankful for every day. We are life and business partners and have been together for over 17 years. Our bond is strong because we've never given up on each other or our commitment to each other. My hubs and I are self-employed and have to work through a lot of 'feast and famine' financially. In recent years my Sweetie had a lot of health problems and prior to that I did. Through it all we've been there for each other and plan to be for the rest of our lives. We work as life coaches and group leaders and find that when relationships get tough...instead of facing it many people walk away. Sooner or later we all have to face ourselves and our part in creating conflicts and resolve things. Marriage requires us to grow up and get over ourselves. We cannot change others and often there is an expectation that it will happen AFTER the marriage takes place. So often we hear women say...oh I can't stand this or that about him...but I will straighten him out after I get his ring on my finger. Sorry...wrong answer. Lasting love involves mutual commitment, a willingness to speak in openness without judgment and to make loving choices in our day by day experiences. Whether it is marriage, friendship, family or work we all have to be accountable for our thoughts, words and behaviors. When in partnerships with others some prefer to blame rather than change. To me that is the larger problem in society today...and it is showing up in higher divorce rates...and in many other areas as well. Anyway my friend marriage is working for me and we renew our vows every five years because we are as much in love today...and even more than we were when we met. So there are some happy marriages out there. Hope you find Mr. Right when the timing is right for you to do so. Cheers, Raia

I am someone who is currently married and this is my second time around. I come from a family background where my parents divorced as well. In my first marriage I was convinced wholeheartedly that I would not follow the path of my parents but I unfortunately did. I am now married for a second time and very happy. It is a union that has to be worked at constantly and it involves compromise and respect f\with and for each other. For every marriage that fails there are countless that do not. A marriage is what you make of it. In my opinion the whole concept of marriage is just not as respected or consecrated as it once was and this is the issue. A small joke I can relate to is the young lady comforting her mother when she was about to get married; the mother was sad that her daughter had grown up. The daughter said to her mother - " Don't cry Ma; it's not as if marriage i forever or anything!". This is what I believe is the issue today. We all get caught up in the novelty of it and the bad stories surrounding it rather than appreciating and respecting what it actually is. You will know when you find Mr Right as you will not be able to imagine your life without him. When you think about waking up to this person day in and day out your feelings will be ones of happiness and not fear or indecision. Yes we can all live together and not marry. It's just a piece of paper right? To me it is an acknowledgment and respect to each other in that you are committing formally to spend your lives together as one. Marry, don't marry.... We all have the choice. I just wish more people married for the right reasons. Good luck.

you are righ. marriage for me is living with the person you love with a social status. But i have seen in my country, people are forced to marry even if they don't find their love. I think in most of these cases, people are not happy. you just can't live your life with a person whom you don't love.

I'm sorry to hear about your friends. But I still believe in marriage. I'm okay with a live-in arrangement, but that should only be temporary. Eventually I would want to decide whether to progress to marriage or to declare the relationship a failure. I wouldn't want us to grow old as just a live-in couple.

hi mirrorzy.welcome to mylot.i think marriages are made in heaven and we all at one or the other time life,needs a partner.yes its true that divorce rates are high now and the prime reason for this EGO creaping in between the couples and no respect for each other's feeling.i am married and i am really thankful to god who has made suc a wondeful pair of ours.my partner loves me a lot.marriages are can be successful if both of them care for each other and love a lot

when u r prepared, this question will never come to ur mind

I think marriage is one important part for everybody's life. There is happiness or sadness in the marriage, it depends on how you deal with it. You can see there are still more successful marriages. Keep the faith:)

Some people make marriage work and they are really happy. Others are engaged. Then there are those who live together outside of marriage. And some people remain single. Now I've seen cases where some of the happiness and stability of couples (especially marriage) isn't really all it seems. There are cases and stories of people really being destroyed by a bad relationship or a bitter divorce (and of course this depends on who you and your spouse are, where you are, laws, circumstances, etc). And to fix this, people need to take marriage more seriously and really understand the benefits and challenges of the life. More and more people are entering it with too many selfish reasons and do not work to make the marriage stable.

Hi,there! I do think marriage is an important thing in one's life.In order not to suffer but enjoy the marriage,we gotta do a lot of things before and during the marriage. When we're having a relationship,we should find out whether we're really suitable for each other and whether we'd like to share our whole life with the other one. It's pretty necessary to be clear about the love and the relationship but not be implusive.We also need to know that marriage is not only a relationship but also a family.There're many things we need to communicate and share as well as tolerate.Choose the right person,marry at the right time so that we can have the right marriage:) Thanks for the discussion and have a nice weekend^_^

Dinkers? I prefer to let everyone do what they want to make themselves happy. If it involves marraige -- fine. If it doesn't, fine.

Hi, First of all I am extending a warm welcom to MyLot... There may be the graph of Divorce is on the top. but if you like the number or successful married life much higher than the divorced. If you want to live with your partner without marry him, I think there is nothing to lost. Marriage is nothing it is a surety and a symbol of dedication, care and love between two. If you have all this without marriage then you can live with your partner without marriage. If you married and you don't have these dedication, love and care then there is no use of marriage and all. In my opinion marriage is second, first we need care, love, dedication to our partners.

I think that marrige is more then just a peice of paper and vows. It is a proclamation of love and you basically pronoucing that you will be thier for eachother through thick and thin. I dont mean to knock people who dont marry it is just to me it is important.

Before ma business succeed,I don't want to marry.When you get married,you must put your heart in your family,then you have little energy in your work.And I will get full prepare to be married.

Hi mirrory! Yea marriage is really a good thing. It has to do with two people coming together under one agreement to live the whole of their life as one. Eventhough making decissions to get married is really a difficult thing nowadays because you find it so difficult to meet a faithful and honest person. Thanks and have yourself a great weekend.

the marriage is a very nice relationship between a man and woman today if we look around in some countries the same genders are doing marriage do they produce baby? so, i still can't understand what the hell thay are doing do you think they are doing nice thing if yes how

I still view marriage as a sacred union of two souls. I still want to get married someday. I still believe there are still a few men out there who are willing to settle down with one woman whom they will share their life with and give their unconditional love and support. I have found mine. Hope you find your's. We are hoping to tie the knot very soon.

I must say that living together doesn't make the relationship easier. There will still be fights and breakups are just as likely to happen. So, if one is living with their loved one with the idea that it will protect them from the pain of divorce, it won't work. I think there are several reasons marriages don't make it today. One of them is that it is a lot of work and it is easier to let go then to work on making a good marriage, especially if a lot of time has gone by. There are ways to work through that. Working on friendship with your spouse all the time can help. As can making your marriage a priority. No matter what, it's a lot of work!

FOR ME MARRIAGE IS A DIVINE THING one of the most purest things in the world for a marriage to be successful i guess u must feed into ursystem the basic values of sacrifice respect adjustability being more responsible i hear starnge thimgs happening in europe and USA people divorce for the pettiest of things in india we consider our mate in the form of GOD i hope that culture stays

I haven't been married yet. But, its something I plan on doing. I have been with my sole mate for the last 6 years almost and we have to wonder full children together. Its just been hard trying to make everything work and make all the ends meet to do so. I've have heard some pretty bad stories about how people ended up getting divores for some many different reason and how they lost everything from it happening.I've also been told by most of them that they would do it again. But that hasn't change the way I feel. I believe in that you should get married. Exspecial when It comes to children. As long as there not the only reason your getting married.Because I don't believe in marring any or staying married to anyone just because you have children together thats not a good reason.