Do you really think a woman can change a man?

"Do you really think a woman can change a man?" /facepalm ... ... ... /rubs temples a bit... ... ... /facepalm Sad part is, plenty of women think they can and some succeed. I've heard of women changing partime/basement band rockers into yuppies. I've heard of women transforming urban living men into suburb living clowns. I've heard of women turning their guys to vegetarians. I've heard of women making a man drop all of his friends, that changes him too. I've even heard of women getting their men to drop some or all of their hobbies. I'll admit some people change due to falling in love by themselves as more of a natural event. But more often I keep hearing and seeing instances of changing like I described above. It even happened to me a few times in supposed relationships. At first I was changing a bit myself (being a bit more loving, bit more sharing, etc). But then there were real and very uncomfortable attempts at trying to change me (making me drop specific hobbies, etc). And here's something to consider. I've seen multiple cases and instances where a woman does change a man, but she gets bored of what he becomes. Then she either cheats on him or leaves him for another guy. Sometimes she then repeats the process. Does anyone pay attention to this?! Oh and I barely hear of a man changing a woman in the relationship. The last time I heard of it was Taming of the Shrew. If it needs to be counted, abuse[physical/emotional/social/verbal] does happen, but both genders try to change their "mate" through those means too (hence why I laid out the abuse in the block aside). However without this, I see much more talk and items about changing the man/husband and not the woman (i.e. marriage counseling, tv talk shows...ugh..., and so forth)

hi there well this question is very nice, well i think that their is no limit of good people that the person must be girl or boy both can change to each other if the two person are living togather the both will adopt their activities from each other and this will create simalarty between them they will live happy well girl also can change your mind but realy heart about the boys chang the girls

I have. I made (with God's help of course!) my Porky do a total 180-degree turn! From smoker and drinker, that man has gone from one who drinks every weekend to one who only drinks like less than once a month! A man who used to be a bit of a womanizer, he is now a Bible-reading man who resists even MY advances because we still can't get married yet! so have i been a factor to all these changes in him? Indeedy-oh!

I have to say no way! A woman can't change a man and a man can't change a woman. People don't change because of others changing them. People change because they choose to change. I would be very nervous about someone that was so adamant about remaining single then suddenly deciding to become a committed couple. That whole "fell in love" thing is just a tempory feeling. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying there is no such thing as having genuine love for someone. However, I don't buy the whole "falling" part. I think you choose to love and you choose to grow into it. That's how people are able to grow out of it. We've all seen it happen time and time again. The whole Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty thing is exactly what it is, fairy tailes. I think we have done our girls a serious injustise by pushing those stories. They are cute and fluffy but we need to teach them them the reality too.

I don't think any woman can successfully change a man. It is a fact that men will show some changes in their manners and behavior when he is trying to win the heart of a girl, but I dont think that change will be permanent.the ultimate intention of the temporary change in the man was to win the girl's heart and when he has accomplished that , he would be his old self again.But some men who really want longevity for their marriage or relationship will be ready for compromises and such men will not show a reversal in them.But I don't think any woman can change a man !

I believe woman ca change a man! hehe... There are situations when a laid back guy who will never get married as he enjoys as being a bachelor. These guys usually fall into what they think wont happen. They get tamed by a girl and suddenly they change. I know it only happens in the moives or stories but it can be real sometimes. Just like my guy friend ahaha.. never expected he would get married so soon for fear that he might lose the love of her life.. He was once a playboy...lolz

I think that women and men should both find partners they are happy with in the first place, instead of settling for someone they aren't happy with and then trying to change that person. I was one of those people who was never going to settle down and then did, but it happened because of changes in my own life and ways of looking at things, not because my husband "changed me". It is true that a good relationship can cause you to grow and blossom in many ways, but those changes should be ones that are natural and not pushed upon you by your partner.

I heard of women trying to change their men more than the other way around.I think that being in love can change what a person wants.But a person's core stays the same.You can't change a person who doesn't want to change.And they can try to change but it may not work.

Hello lorelai, I wanted you to rely on this 'In the success of every man, a woman will behind him'.You just go and ask any successfull family known to you, the man will tell you that he was able be successfull because of the co-operation of his wife. I am not interested in discussing about young people who fall in the word of love( which is atrificial,in my opinion),to cover up infatuation. As far as my experience is concerned, without my wife's moral support I would have not made my children study highest degrees and paved the way for their way to be in abroad for their work. She has sacrificied so many things in her life to ensure my success in my family.

well i think its true.but i guess its not just with a man.both of them change for each other and i think if one some habiut which really needs to be changed for the betterment than he or she should do.me and my partner both changed a lot after marriage.and we really dont repent for it.every relation that we make demands some change.there are many firends of mine who said they just want to think aobut their career only and will never get married,however after falling in love they completely changed.but all for good.

my boyfriend has cheated on me, sadly enough. after 3 years though he still doesn't want to be my boyfriend. we're still "seeing each other." it's dumb. i'm ready to settle down with a relationship but i see more and more that he definitely isn't. i can't imagine why. he's 33 years old! oh well, i guess some people are just like that. he's the only boy i know that's like that though.

I agree with the title "Do you really think a woman can change a man?" Women can change men.. But the bad news, I have seen women change men in all ways. There are some ladies who try to improve men's life, by brnging positive changes in them. But I have also seen women who try to manipulate their boyfriends so that he does whatever she wants. Yet she says that she was helping him. After some time, she leaves him saying that he has changed a lot, and so she doesn't like him.. Nevertheless, there are women with true hearts in this world. A woman neednot be a lover to change a man's life. I have friends who are more like sisters to me, who have brought many changes(good changes) in me. Well as they say, Yin + yang = Balance.

I believe that when we love people we change, whether that is a woman or a man or our friends. We change. However, changing someone else is a different matter. We can't change someone, unless they want to a change. We can't make someone want to settle down, he or she has to make that decision on their own. We can love, but we can't force someone. It does happen that people who were never going to get married, do. Or people who were never going to settle down,do. But it has to be something they decide. No matter what we do, we can't make them do it.

Ya , a women changed man.Because every man direct or indirected relate a women.And i think every man changed after marriage.

There is power of a woman-in the bible stories, you may have heard about Dhelila and Samsom. He fell in love with a spy, she was so beautiful that whatever she asked from the unwitty Samson she got and she managed to hand him over to his enemies even when we know Samson who was a very strongman capable of killing 1000 men with one lethal blow using a piece of bone. In real situations, my wife came to my life and changed everything in me. We are a cross culture marraiage, when we married, she was a secretary and a music lover who played a guiter. The first thing she did was to make me love these things, today I play a guiter and type reasonably well. She also taught me her language, and we speak it quite alot in the house-she is aware of her influence on me as my wife, but leaves me to handle the children according to my way. So our kids dont know her language but speak my mother tongue. We sing a lot in the House and the children too like singing and playing guiter-yes a woman can change a man in many serious ways lorlai

I believe a woman can change a man, but only if the man wants to change for the woman. I don't think change should be forced upon anyone, because first and foremost you should always be true to yourself. That being said, if a man wants to change for a woman, then yes, a woman can change him. But that really wouldn't be her doing, it would be his! I do think that when you fall in love you become a different person. Not all the way, but you do settle down. You will eventually have shared interests with that person and you develop a routine together. Does this always change your personality? No. But you do change at least some. My husband happens to be one of those who everyone said would never settle down. Well 8.5 years later, 5 of those being married... he is more settled than ever. And I didn't force it, he is who is he and I love him for being himself!

Exactly. A woman can change a Man and vice versa. There are many instances where a good woman have changed their husband's bad habits. But there should be love and devotion. Without devotion we can't change any one. In case of love, it all depends upon the situation and individual thinking.

yes, a women can really change a man. and behind every strong man there should be a women.

yes i think if the women is good enough ...to change the man ...she might succeed Regards Harry

I don't think these adaptations and the compromises can be accounted to the changes a woman brings in a man , these compromises are made to keep the relationship intact.