A question for stay at home wives
By wooitsmolly
@wooitsmolly (3613)
United States
December 2, 2007 11:02am CST
If you are a stay at home wife/mother, do you enjoy it? Do you wish you had made a different decision? Do you get along with your husband? Did you get a higher education/do you have a degree? Do you work at home? I want to know about personal experiences, anything you want to say about it.
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23 responses
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
3 Dec 07
I am fairly happy with being a stay at home mom. I keep pretty busy. I am currently taking college courses, involved in our Family Readiness Group for the military wives, I volunteer at my church, attend service, help my daughter with her homework and projects, clean, cook, laundry, take care of the cat and so on. However, sometimes I really do miss working outside of the home. I miss the structure that I had, and since I haven't been working I have been more prone to procrastinate as I ddin't before when I worked full time.
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@jeanbug23 (992)
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
I am a stay at home mom but before I fully decide to become one, I first work at a reputable company with big salaries. At first, I regret being at home because I sacrificed my career at the expense of my children who are all girls. Our company where I worked with will be transferred to a city far from my daughters, and my husband doesn't want me to be relocated either. Now, I don't regret being a full time housewife because I'm here watching my children grow, everytime they get sick, I'm always at their side with nothing to worry about leaves of absences at work. I can go where I want to when I have done with household chores, and when my children are all in school. I can see them always and learn how to value each and everyone's time.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I actually like being at home. I ended up staying at home because of being put on disability by my doctor. But it has actually given me the time I need to get my medical billing degree (still working at it), and spend more time with my kids. For the most part I get along with my hubby, as long as he's not home on vacation, as he spends too much time lazing around on the couch. LOL! I'm hoping to actually be able to work from home once I get my medical billing degree. But that's a little way down the road.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
2 Dec 07
I am a stay at home wife, but my mothering days are behind me since my kids are big now.No i do not wish i had made different decisions, I enjoy my life just the way it is.My husband and i get along fine, we never argue, i go any place i desire, he may or may not go, his choice, but i do..I have a high school dipolmia, and one year of College with 33 college hours, and i also have a degree in cosmetology, and i worked as long as i wanted too, now i just do a few customers ..I sometimes work at home and sometimes i go to their homes.I was never a person that liked working for the other guy, I always liked to do my own thing.i get along well with others but i like to control my own life.i supposs you could say I am independant,but i was not always this way..i use to be a dependant little scared girl, but one day i just woke up and i wanted to do it my way..I love art and i am a good artist, i like to paint with oils, pencils, etc...I enjoy all types of crafts.If i had picked any other profession it would have been interior decorating or maybe a social worker, but i am well satisfied with what i chose..
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
14 Dec 07
Whenever I fill out a form it is confusing, because they have choices like homemaker or unemployed. They don't always have "retired" as a choice. I got along with my husband when I worked separately from him, when we worked together, and very well, too, now while we are both retired, but for the latter, it was necessary to set some ground rules. As you know, most guys tend to take over if you let them. Or, more to the point, they want to contribute unnecessary and generally unwanted advice as to how YOU should do the things YOU had been doing pretty much unnoticed for a long time before they were "underfoot." They just tend, often, to be lacking in self direction, so I solved that problem by assigning a few tasks and telling him how I wanted them done. Not being an idiot, he pretty quickly caught on that it is no fun being told how to do something, so now we divide up the housework pretty equitably, with each doing what s/he is best at.
I work a bit at home, too, but not to the extent that it gets in the way of my most important occupation which is being retired and having much-deserved fun.
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@MakinMoney129 (231)
• United States
2 Dec 07
I'm a stay at home mom, and I'm not married...but I do have a wonderful boyfriend :o) I never had much of a choice in my decision, since the father of my baby decided it was a good idea to throw me out when I told him I was pregnant. I came home to my parents from there, and now I stay at home here to take care of Evan, thankfully with some help from my boyfriend, who is perfectly happy to help me with Evan and be his "replacement" dad LOL...I love doing it, but sometimes I do get a little bored and wish I had at least a part time job or something to keep a little busy during the day. It's a lot of work, and they always need you...but sometimes you need to have a conversation with a real adult!
@GardenGerty (159754)
• United States
3 Dec 07
I was an at home mom and wife for quite a few years. I felt out of control, and that I was not contributing anything. I ran a home daycare, for awhile. I also worked positions within the school once my kids were school age, and my money was basically "extra money". When my husband became an over the road trucker, I resented it for awhile, but if I had really had to work for us to survive, it would have killed his self esteem. It took me a long while to see that we were actually partners in the family, and that he trusted me with everything he earned, and our two most valuable possessions, our kids. I have an associates degree, I also have various certificates from college level trade type courses.Nursing Assistant, Medication Administration, Social Services Designee, Activities Director. I wish I had a bachelors of anything, because it is not how much you know, how smart you are, or what kind of experience you have, you still must have an alphabet after your name to get your foot in the door. I have found a site for online tutoring. My daughter says, when I suggest it to her, "Why don't you try it? You are as smart or smarter than I am." and I have to tell her, "You have a degree, I do not." At least not one that anyone considers worth anything. I would still love to be a stay at home wife. I have a terrific husband, but I work two jobs, because I cannot get one that pays what I am truly worth. The plus side of being a stay at home wire/mother for me was that I had time to do lots of very creative things, and that gave me tons of satisfaction.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
3 Dec 07
I was a stay at home mom and after the kids got big enough I would have liked to gone to work I felt like I wasnt doing my share of putting money into the house then they were gone I went to work And worked at alot of differnt jobs alot of ddiffernt places we moved to 2 I reall y like one I made theatrical makeup and some of it was took to MAdison Square Garden for the wrestlers to put on there faces
then the last job I had was building the towers for Computers butt he LIne I worked on was a big project THe computer weighed 96 pounds with out the drives in them. but it was a great job and I would stilll be there but they moved the company to Colorado.
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
3 Dec 07
I am a stay at home mom. I watch a few other kids in my home also to bring in a little extra money. I enjoy being at home. I actually went to school for computers but I never got a job working with them after college. I'm sure I could get a work at home computer job if I wanted to but I enjoy just spending time with my son since he is still very young. I know I'll never get these times back so I'm happy that I'm able to stay here with him and not have to work an outside job. And the good thing about the kids that I watch is that I can up and take them somewhere if I want to because their parent's don't mind. If I want to take them to lunch or to the park or something their parent's are fine with that so at least I don't feel like I'm home 24/7.
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
3 Dec 07
Hi molly,
I am a stay at home mom, and I LOVE my job! The only thing that stinks about it is the pay lol. I have a degree, and I feel I am pretty well educated, and once my daughter starts going to school I'm sure I will look for part time work just to make some extra money. I am thankful that my hubby works his butt off so I can stay home with my daughter. I haven't missed any of her firsts and I am so glad about that!
Luv & Hugzz, PurpleTeddyBear.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
Hi, I'm a stay at home mom and I'm happy to be, even I'm a single mom I don't have a regret in my life now. At first of course maybe all of us felt it that when your down and helpless sometimes you regret everything that happened to you and you will just thought that if I can get back the time. But as time you passed all the problems you got strength and learn a lesson from it, and when you saw your children have a happy smile and get older everyday with good health you will be thankful that you been a good mom to them. I reach my third year in college with a commerce degree but unfortunately I never graduated from it. I wish to have a job now but I don't think I can spent more time with my kids if I worked. That's hwy I'm just contented here earning some little money anyway my ex-husband provide the needs of my children exchange of not neglecting them when I work.
@nkhanna (922)
• India
3 Dec 07
well i am not sure wether i should answer this question or not.since i am part time worker.after my marriage i left my job.however after sometimes the abvove feeling started coming in my mind as well.and because of that i thought to work.but i also wanted ot give more time to my partner.so i finally decided to go for a part time job of 4hrs.it has served obth my purpose.however i enjoy being at home as well.i have done my MBA.i tried finding a reliable work that i could do from home but because of the scams, i really could not find one apart from mylot.how about you ?
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@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
3 Dec 07
I only do myLot and a few other sites like Treasure Trooper, but besides that most things are scams and I don't have time for them.
@aidenofthetower (1814)
• United States
3 Dec 07
I am a stay at home wife and mother. Most of the time I enjoy it. However I don't have a car and often feel trapped here. I don't wish I made a different decision and I enjoy working at growing my income. Last month I made 311.54 (USD) and this month I should make more then that!
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@smwilliams (647)
• United States
3 Dec 07
First off Im a 25 year old mother of 3 kids. I have 2 girls 7yrs and 4yrs, and a son who is 8 months old. I have my LPN and am going back to school for web design and business management. I am a stay at home mom for the first time in my life and to be honest I have very mixed emotions on it. I love being home with my kids, but I discovered that I really miss working. Working is almost a vacation away from home and family that you get paid for! lol...My husband and I get along great and he will respect any decision that I decide which I appreciate. I love being at home watching my son grow up. And the cost of daycare is horrible these days. It doesnt make any sense why I should go to work to pay high daycare cost when I can afford to stay home withthe kids. Not that finances arent tight, but we manage somehow and maybe after my son turns one i will go back to work, in the meantime I play online, do school work and talk to other stay at home Mom's to keep my sanity!
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
3 Dec 07
When we moved to Houston in 1999 my husband was making enough money so that I did not have to work. I really enjoyed not working. I had worked on and on for 30 years. Now I have to find some parttime work because my husband had to take a paycut last year. This caused us to have to move out of the nice house we were renting into a tiny two bedroom townhouse. I have been looking for a year for some kind of parttime work preferably from home. I have applied at some local businesses and gotten nothing and have not been very happy with what I have found online because there always seems to be some extra costs or conditions which would keep me out of the race. I hope my luck will change soon, I dont really want to work but I will have to.
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@youless (112358)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Dec 07
I am not a stay at home mom. But if one day I will be a stay at home mom, I think I will enjoy it. Although I will probaby feel pressure because of one income from my husband only. Now at least we have two incomes because I also work. I think I will stay at home and find something interesting to do. Especially I will spend more time on my online store and hopefully I can get more business and therefore our living stardard won't change.
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
3 Dec 07
Hi,
It is the matter of gender my mother was working women and no in our family has any problems and moreover she managed it very well. We also helped in kitchen works and other. It is peace and happiness that matters more in home. If wives going out or working out hurts the home elements it is better to avoid it. Hope it is our family worths more than work. In other side the scarcity of money also a major part why wives have to work. Hence it is more better if the home is in happy way. The management skill is another part on this. Over the husbands support and cooperation. All these are elements effected when wives go for jobs. Still I hope wives are to be jobs may it is better to be homely jobs.
@Sillychick (3275)
• United States
3 Dec 07
I am a sahm and it is the best thing I have ever done. I am so lucky to be able to stay home with my son. I have been home now for almost 15 months, and am thinking about returning to work soon, mainly for financial reasons. I would be miserable if I had to go back to work right after he was born, and am not happy about it now, either, but I have to do what I have to do. Once you get used to the financial situation of living on one income, it gets easier. At first it can be tough and you have to make some serious adjustments to the budget to make it work, but any sacrifices I've made have been worth it.
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@momlaine (5)
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
I am a home body person, even when I way a teenager. So I guess that is why I choose to be a stay at home mom. For me family is more important than anything else. I have work before when I was single, since I have a bachelor degree, and I work for 8 years. I was happy working but I was not really happy because daily life is a routine and at the end of the month I have few money left. I am a single mom and I need to a job to pay for expenses since my ex-husband never give any support for our daughter. I tempted to work but I cannot 100% truss a nanny to care for my daughter. I am looking for a way to work in the internet. If I never found a way to work at home using the internet I will open a small store business when my daughter is a bit older. Work at home is still my first choice to be able to take care of my daughter. I won't be happy if I'm my daughter will be neglected. I'm happy to stay home.
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@myloveforyou87 (29)
• United States
3 Dec 07
I love my decision to stay at home. I actually work from home, so its not quite the same, but trust me working online and managing your family isn't easy. Fortuantely, I have a wonderful husband who helps out so that really means alot! There are times that I need to get out of the house and get away but hey who doesn't need a break once in a while?
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