I Need Help

only u can drive sense into him

I would gather the whole family around the kitchen table . Say this is what it takes to run this house. To keep it nice and tidy.Divide the chores according to age level on the children . Than you and your spouse divide up among yourselves whats left over to complete. This way becomes fair not unbalance to everyone.

remind your husband of the vows he took when you got married. you are one and everthing is suppose to be 50/50 there is no womans job or mans job. and if that doesnt work then let him know that if you have to do things he is suppose to be helping with then you might as well be by yourself or find a man that will be proud to help.

Hello lovemygirls2503,Just tell your husband with soft emotions that you love him and the kids but you are getting fatigue mentally and physically due to over load of household famaly duties all the time and you really cant alone handle all household jobs as you are a humanbeing too and needs your own time of leisure and breaks and expect an assistant hand to help you in the household either you expect his active cooperations or you need a maid servent as your helper,but before approaching to your husband just take a pen and paper yourself and write it down where and how you wants his help and if he really has the time or efficiency to do that as a helper, analyse yourself, you dont need to show the paper to your husband, just go toyour husband and place this topic at appropriate time and Iam sure your problem will be solved as your husband too loves you and the famaly.Thanks.

How traht can be possible. Your husband must now undertsnad that he is just not there to do those things, as you are working 3 days a week, he needs to help you also.You must sit with him and speak franly in this regard.

Every man has a big ego. You hurt it and you pay for it. So, remember to be always polite to your husband. Be loving and he'll do anything for you.

Welcome to the world! I went thru the same thing when my children were little, but I worked 5 days a week. I spent every evening with my kids and every Saturday morning cleaning house. Time for myself was non-existent. My husband was still old-school enough to feel his role didn't include child care in any form. Sorry to say, but I lived through it, and I know you will, too. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get busy!

I saw your profile and I see that you are living in usa... and it surprises me that how come your hubby has this asian thinking, as I have always heard that as per western culture man and women equally share all housework. If your husband is not ready to help then what can you do. If you take strong steps like not cooking for him, or not doing any of his work, then this will spoil you relationship and that will indirectly effect the future of your children. It is said that if things don't work out with force then they can work out with love. If you request him to help, may be his man ego will melt a bit.....give it a try.......request him humbly, as if he is your only god.......lol I will never do that........it is difficult to bring yourself to such a low diginity.....I don't think I can really help you.....I am sorry.

I would personally not do anything for a while, no food ready for him not laundry no cleaning and then when he asks where his food is, or why is it so dirty, say well, im soo busy with the children, being a full time babysitter to my kids and i had so much other stuff to do that i didnt have time next day do the same then next day you can cook and clean just dont do anything for a few times a week . See what he says. and just say I have no time , unless you want to help mewith OUR children. another IDEA if you dont want to do the first one is...... thing you can do is NOT go to work OUTSIDE THE HOUSE at a job AND WHEN HE SAYS WHY DID YOU QUIT WE NEED THE MONEY, SAY IM A WOMAN NOT A MAN-- A MAN IS SUPPOSED TO WORK AND PROVIDE FOR THE FAMILY NOT ME

At this child's age with working parents in the home . The parents divide up house chores together . Team work as one or the other does'nt become over burden or over whelmed . To keep a nice tidy home together. Its call marriage teamwork working together to build a strong marriage that last through the years .