What would you do if you do not agree with a loved ones wishes as to interment

A lot of people think just because I am a Christian that I am religious this is not true. I am spiritual, but I believe no matter what your religion it is what happens after that matters most. I personally cannot understand why you should be dictated to by your religion God gave us free will it is not for man to say what you can or cannot do that is wrong. You should do what your heart tells you to do. If your husband wanted requested a burial then this is what you should do, but only if it is what you want. If your friends and religious leaders cannot understand this you should ask yourself if this is really a religion of love or dictatorship. It is at the end of the day your choice and nobody elses apart from God's who you should pray to. If it feels right in your heart then maybe that is God telling you something.

I'd do what I believed was right. I'd do what I'd have to do for me. If someone loves another person, than they should grant them the respect to accept their choices. I'd hope a person would make their choice based on what felt best to them, not what their church, religion, friends, or family expected of them. I'd expect my friends and family to accept my decision because they love ME. Everyone is different and everyone's beliefs are different, that isn't wrong, it's a choice and a lifestyle. I have many friends that believe in different things, but thats not what matters to me. What matters is that they are genuinely good people with good hearts and good friends. I'll support my friends and family in their decisions, because they are entitled to that. To me, if I requested someone change their values, beliefs, or lifestyle simply because it was different than my own... well, that would be selfish and ignorant. Stick with your beliefs, your views, your lifestyle. Follow your heart. It's not wrong to take the road less walked upon... it's individuality and we would all be in A LOT of trouble if everyone was the same.

I would talk to thenm about it first but if I thought it was better I would go with what I felt was best.

hey, its her body I worry WAY MORE about what she does wit it while she is alive

I would go with what my loved one wants even though it is not in accord with my beliefs, however my hubby tries to scare me into living longer than him by saying that he would not follow my wishes. He thinks that will make me outlive him. I guess, you know, really, there is no way to be sure of this sort of thing until it happens. Oh, well!

I would go with what my loved one wants, no doubt about it. Even if it was against the teachings of the religion that they belong to, it is up to the individual to decide what they want. It is not my place to make decisions for others- unless they did not specify what they want. If they went to the trouble to tell me, or put it in writing, it is obviously very important to them, so I would do as they wish.

I am not at all religious, so the question would be easy for me, I would respect my loved one's wishes and if they wanted to be buried I would carry out their last wish, even tho' it was against my religion. Maybe it was religious I would have more problem in answering this question. I want to be cremated, because there will be no one left when I have gone to tend my grave. If I had a partner and they wanted to be buried and I wanted to be cremated again I would respect their wishes and hope they respected mine.

Wait, do you mean if my spouse/partner asked for what my religion was against for himself? Or that he wanted it for me?? Even if I was a member of a strict organized religion, its not up to me to decide how my spouse is laid to rest and more than that its certainly not up to my religion...Whatever he has in his will is what would be done regardless of whether or not my church etc cared for it..and visa versa, whatever is in my will is what will be obeyed...

I would diffently go by spouces wishing! As they know what they want also some might wish burial adn some cremation. With my hubby my son took some of his ashes back and buried them between his mom and dad for some of the family wanted that. Didnt have any thing to do withthe church at all just the wishes of haveing apart of him in the ground and I respected their wishes and a neice paid for it all. So see ya can do it both way . But I also think of the costs some cant afford buring for the cost id way way out there.

Acts 16:31 They replied, "Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved you and your household." I think you need to keep praying and believing my prayers are with you. I also worry for my mum and dad. I can't imagine what it must be like for you with your husband not knowing God fortunately my husband is saved he helped bring me to salvation. I was into witch craft and spiritualism but, God brought me out of that and healed my heart. God is a God of miracles He can bring your husband out of this too.

I would go along with the loved one's wishes as to burial. You live once and hopefully die once in your lifetime so the dying person's wishes should be met instead of going against them.

I would go against religion.If church decides that only burial is allowed then they are teaching wrong.If someone wants cremation i would accept his wishes.I think it's nonsense that a church would kick someone out of the church for a cremation.It's not their problem and they should back of someones private life. That's why i never tell things to my christian churhc friends because they never really support you but immediately tell me what to do which i think is nonsense. So if i not agree with church i listen to my heart and i think listening to your heaft has more value than a church.

Maybe it is better to respect the family wishes and the last wish of the departed. Cremation and burial is a religious disagreements among the family members. But to some, cremation is more practical because you save land which maybe of use for shelter to the homeless, fertilizer and other needs while burial takes extra care for the ones left behind, obligations of going to the graves bringing flowers, burning candles and praying. In reality religion of the departed prevails.

Whether I agree or not wouldn't matter. If I want people to respect my wishes after I pass, I set the example and follow their wishes. It is their last wish, after all. And it would bring them some measure of peace I believe. Disagreements over beliefs is a problem planet wide for humans. If it's a loved one, someone who cared for you and you cared for even more important to put aside own wishes. Not about you. It's their last resting place. Where they would find most peace.

I don't have any religious beliefs so this is easy for me in the respect that I would do whatever my loved ones wishes were - burial, cremation or whatever. I think even if I did have religious beliefs though I would still feel a sense of obligation to the person that would override my own personal beliefs but that's hypothetical of course. Personally I want to be cremated, I've always hated the idea of burial.

If a loved one wanted the total opposite of my religion I would still obey their wishes. I couldn't live with myself if I did the opposite of their final wish.It means more to me that they are put to rest the way they want than I obey my religious beliefs. This easy for me to answer because I am not the same religion of my loved ones . So what they believe is totally different than what I believe. And even if their final request was against their religion, I would still obey their wishes.

In a situation like this, I don't think religious beliefs would come into play on the interment of a person. If their request was to be buried, then they should be buried. If their request was to be cremated then they should be cremated. I would obey the wishes of the deceased. It is what they wanted and it should be honored regardless of what your or anyone else's beliefs are.

I would follow what my loved one wanted as it is their body and their right to choose what happens to it once they've gone. My mother wants cremation and to have her ashes scattered in the ocean and I would prefer a more traditional burial so that I have a place to visit and mourn. However, her wishes are her wishes and knowing that it would make her happy makes me want to go ahead with her plans when the time comes.

I'm also not religious, but going with the hyperthetical: I would do as my loved one wished, as I would hope my loved ones would do for me. Religion should be about your own belief and love for your God/Gods etc, and not simply following a bunch of rules blindly. For a church to "kick you out" for a such a thing seems to be an abomination in itself. But that's just my opinion. I couldn't go against my love's wishes or change them on their behalf. Even if they wanted something illegal done with their ashes, such as sprinkling into the ocean, I would still do it. That's just me. =)

As for me I think I will choose cremation because in China burial is forbidden by goverment.