My mother quit drinking!
By Stephanie5
@Stephanie5 (2946)
United States
December 8, 2007 9:52pm CST
I can't believe it! Seriously, I really can't believe it! She lives a couple states away and I really wasn't having much to do with her because of her drinking. Now that she has quit, I really wish I could spend some time with her!
This is bad of me, but I want to spend the time with her because she's not drinking and I'm afraid that she will start again so I want to get some time in while I can. Isn't that horrible? I hope and pray that she don't ever drink again but it's hard to even believe that she won't after 30 years of constant drinking.
I've told her how proud I am of her and supported her in every way I could. I really hope she don't start again. When I was little I wouldn't ask Santa for presents. I would ask him to make my mom not drink just for that day...it never happened. This will be the first Christmas she's ever been sober. I really hope I get to spend it with her. I'm so proud of her! I'm really excited about it!
I just had to share :-)
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11 responses
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I hope you get to see her and I hope she doesn't start drinking again. It would be nice for you to get to spend some time with her while she is at her best. I hope you don't get disappointed.
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I agree! I hope she never starts again but I definitely want to get some time in there while she's well, the kids would really like that. It sucks to think like that. I am very proud of her.
@cosylvia (399)
• China
9 Dec 07
you told she has quit it now,so you must believe her will quit it in future,but for her i know is so horrible,,will quit a habit of 30years so give her more time...for my mum she has little bad habit,only sometimes play the mah-jong stayed up .so i always advice her need more rest..coz she is 50years old
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I'm happy to hear that your mother's worst addiction is Mah-jong! Make sure she gets her rest! Take care. Thanks for responding.
@tammyr (5946)
• Etowah, Tennessee
18 Dec 07
WOW! I remember when you had to go there last year. I know that her drinking was causing a lot of stress on everyone.
It will not be easy for her. I do hope you get to see her on Christmas. I know that money is tight and gas is high, but we can still hope, that is what Christmas is about. And it is not awful that you want to see her while she is not drinking. It has been your wish for years and I for one thing you deserve that much.
And remember, I am very near her and want to know if you get down close. I would LOVE to be able to get together for a cup of tea or coffee or something, and especially to see the kids!
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@elisa812 (3026)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Congrats! That's so exciting! I hope she will be successful in staying sober. Maybe if you just continue to encourage her and keep making a big deal about how happy and proud you are, it will help her to keep motivated and not go back to it. Sounds like a great Christmas present for you! :)
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Thank you! I'm am so excited and I do encourage her as much as I can from 2 states away! I really hope she can come visit for Christmas, that would be the best! Happy HOlidays!
@makatas (1098)
• Greece
9 Dec 07
Well my opinion is you should be on her side at her lows, not only at her high moments.I cant imagine how it is, to have a mother who drinks so much and is almost never sober, but werent there any things you could do to help her? I dont even know your age so i cannot really comment further.But i do think that having you on her side, sometimes with force or fierce actions you would have helped her earlier.Dont wanna sound mean or sth, and i dont want to insult you too...but supposing you were old enough to have a word in your house, you could have done some things to stop her.
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
11 Dec 07
No, you are wrong. There isn't anything that I could of done to stop her. I tried EVERYTHING. My mother went to some of the best rehab centers, it didn't work. I threatened her to not be able to see the kids, it didn't work. She even spent a long while in jail, didn't work. She nor anyone else will ever quit unless THEY want to. You could do everything under the sun, it won't work.
I'm not trying to be mean or rude with you either, so please don't take it that way. You've never had to deal with someone with an addiction, have you? It's just not that easy.
@tiffiny (872)
• United States
9 Dec 07
You have to have to let us know how your Christmas goes! Are you going to go to her state and or is she coming to be with you? I'm so happy for you and her! I hope that you will become very very close and even if this is just for a minute you enjoy every single one of them!
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
11 Dec 07
She's supposed to be coming here. Thank you so much for your well wishes. I hope you and your family have great Holidays.
Take care,
~Stephanie
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I hope you get your wish and hope she is successful in staying sober. Enjoy it while you can!
@sherrir101 (3670)
• Malinta, Ohio
11 Dec 07
Well, Santa..it is better late than never. :-)
I am very happy for you both. You family is in my thoughts and prayers. I also pray that she never drinks agin because of what it was doing to your relationship.
@fanji008 (775)
• China
9 Dec 07
Hi,there! Congratulations! It's good to hear that your mum gave up drinking. I can feel how happy and excited you're right now from what you said in your discussion. We all know that drinking is not good for our body.As a daughter,I can understand your feeling that how much you're worried about your mum in this aspect.It's good to see the result now,and maybe you can give her more confidence and supervise her so that she won't start that again. Maybe you can talk to her and share your feelings with her.Best regards for you and your mum and have a nice day!
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@naturenut (23)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I know the feeling to have a drinker in the family and your having to stay away. None of us ever really know the reason people drink, it could be to cover up a lot of pain and hurt. I pray she will stay sober so that you and her can have a great relationship. Just continue to do all you can for your mother and keep letting her know how proud you are of her. You are something special. Great news.
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