Is love enough?
By gmakesmoney
@gmakesmoney (2923)
United States
December 9, 2007 5:06pm CST
In the last half of this year I've been able to really reflect on and revisit past relationships, more importantly the two great loves I've known. I've also watched the relationships of close friends and family change, some end and some continue on in the same cycles. There was plenty of love both in my relationships and in those of my close friends and family but it makes me wonder if love really is enough to base a lifetime on?
Of course everyone wants to follow their hearts, their emotions and passions even if that leads them to someone that is all wrong in every other aspect for thier life. But when do we have to move past that love and see the bigger picture? Is it selfish to say, I love this person but I love myself and want a brighter future? Or I love this person but I just can't give up my family/career/dreams, etc? What if this love brings you great troubles in life that never seem to end? But it's a true love, do you say love is enough or do you say enough with this love?
Upon looking back on the two major relationships in my life I realized that love was never the problem, in fact in one case the love is still there and quite strong. But everything else in life has its limits, like unfaithfullness, disloyalty, instability, financial carelessness, distance and the little things matter greatly too like beliefs and culture and interests, passions. It's cliche but you can't pay your bills with love, you can't live under the roof of love, you can't drive love to work, you can't eat love, love won't give you stability or hold down a job, love can't fill every void in your life no matter how much you want it to and it can't tell you who you are. Once you've grown as a person and you've found who you are, you realize that you can't let that go... not even for the sake of love. I'm not saying that love isn't amazing or important, it is, I'm just saying that in order for that love to really thrive and bring happiness that it needs to be supported by everything else in life too.
So what do you say? Is love enough?
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@Mickie30 (2626)
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10 Dec 07
For me yes love is more than enough. O.k my husband and I cannot work I have mental health problems and when I need my husband he is there for me. He takes an active role in bringing up our daughter and I couldn't do that without him. We haven't got much money we rent our home privately and we mannage to survive on our money. Our lives our enriched by the love we have together and the love we have for our daughter which she in turn returns. Our love for God is great too and we are happy in each others company. For us love is enough even though we do have rows we love each other so much to survive and we are able to show that love to our daughter and she is thriving a happy and confident child because of love. Yes, love is enough.
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@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
11 Dec 07
The kind of love you share sounds like yes it is enough, and that's great. Love when together with all of it's virtues like respect and faith can be pretty amazing.
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@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
I guess love is enough reason to make you think twice of just letting go of love... IF the love that you are talking of love is the kind of love with respect, faithfulness, loyalty and honesty. Well that would surely be enough. Because if you really love someone then you will give him/her the best of what you have.
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I agree if the love has respect, loyalty and all of the virtues that love should have then it is enough. But if it lacks in them, then before long it becomes not enough to make a relationship survive the rough moments.
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@bishu_sinha (1457)
• India
10 Dec 07
Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, it's what
you are expected to give which is everything, If you love somebody,
let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't,
they never were, You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but
she is beautiful because you love her,
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@keminem001 (779)
• Saint Lucia
10 Dec 07
that depends on your definition of love my friend. some people look at love as a choice. they chose to be with this person not because they loved them but because that person is what they need. others want something different even though they know that this person might not be the right one for them. i guess it all depends on who you decide to be with not who you love.
typical example: if you had to decide between a woman you have loved your whole life who has nothing or a successful woman you just met. which choice would be yours?
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@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
10 Dec 07
That is my point exactly, thanks. I do think love is a major part of life but it can't be everything.
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@soulkeeper16 (1814)
• India
10 Dec 07
I can't really awnser this question. For me i think it all depends on your behavior & feelings towards the person you love. I personally feel like it is not the end of world i.e. there is not anything beyond it. It depends on the only way by which you look at your own lives.
@RAANARON (194)
• India
10 Dec 07
love is everything on the other hand hate is nothing...love is light...hate is dark...love is the eternal thing by which a man can win over the world...
somebody defines love as follows-
l=loss
o=of
v=valuable
e-energy...
but it is applicable for the girlfriends only...
but if we love our nation, our parents,our decisions then love is everything..from these aspects love is enough...
@alamode (3071)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Of course it is... but it must flow in both directions. If it does, all those problems you mentioned go away... people who truly love each other work together to make sure none of those things come into their lives. They face problems together, and they don't create problems that can damage the relationship. There will always be compromise and even sacrifice, but its done with a giving heart. I have lived this for 3/4 of my life, and we have friends who are the same way. We have surmounted religious and cultural differences, financial problems, the stress of raising kids, the stress of being empty-nesters. No, you can't live on love... but you can rely on love to show you how to live in the best possible way.
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I think that as you said if it does flow in both directions than yes you can rely on it to show you how to live but at the same time both parties must be mature enough to handle the rough spots and the day-to-day of life or problems wich rise greater than the pair can handle and before long love isn't enough alone to save the relationship. I think being able to love by both emotion and action is truly a virtue but not one that everyone has.
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