the best way to forget about "someone" and just ..move on!
@inowloveapples (29)
Philippines
December 10, 2007 5:31am CST
hey guys.. i know this isn't really a counseling kind of site.. but i'm really having a hard time forgetting about someone in my past and just move on with life. it sucks big time cos he's been occupying my thoughts 80% of the time and it's hard cos ive got to focus on more important things! you know when you're depressed you're just so not productive. sigh. so much for a white christmas
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12 responses
@makatas (1098)
• Greece
10 Dec 07
Well you didnt explain the conditions well..Why cant you forget him?You still see him around, or dont you know where he is?In any way, how about you call him and ask for a coffee or something?A nice, simple discussion nothing more is needed.If you dont want for a reason, then you must try to focus elsewhere.Hard as it seems, there are only two ways, forget or encounter.Better encounter if you cant forget him.
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@inowloveapples (29)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
oh no i cant do that. what happened was, we got really close and sweet and had all those very common "safe acts" everybody thought we were going somewhere.. i know him well enough and i knew that he was sincere. but one day everything just suddenly changed. i havent heard from him and just this weekend, my cousin's friend said that the guy had a girl already. so i thought, was it the reason why he suddenly disappeared? it's just really crazy. i mean, all the while i thought we were working some things out and then he'd just leave me hanging. it's crazy. it's crazy cos i've already fallen for him
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
10 Dec 07
If you were the reason behind this broken past, i suggest you explore more into the mind of this guy and figure out if you can rekindle lost love. However, if he is gone and you know he cannever be yours ever again, the best way out of your situation is to have his place taken over in your heart by someone or something that gets the 80% of your thoughts and mental focus-leaving this guy stay put in your heart is going to wqaste you away for no good reason and that is truely annoying, because you are thinking about someone who has errased you completely from his heart!
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
11 Dec 07
Well there is no best way except making a New Year resolution and mixing with a lot of people so that you get hooked on to someone else. Seriously, I have been in love (OK maybe calf love) a couple of times in my teens and I still remember those guys. And then I fell seriously in love with somebody and thankfully he is now my husband. But I know and believe that if this relation had not worked and I had married someone else, he would still be very much in my thoughts. When you love someone very very much, he kind of grows inside you, you cant really shake him off. You may get married, have kids, move on to a different city and start life afresh, but in your deepest thoughts he will always be there, like a dream not realized, like a desire unfulfilled, a hazy picture you can no longer see clearly and the pain of it does subside with time but it stays life long, like a thorn in your heart.
@inowloveapples (29)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
awwww this just makes me not want to give up and just hold on until it's very clear and FINAL that we're not really meant to be. hehe (cos you know, what i have now are just assumptions--i mean, yeah he may have a girl right now but it doesn't mean he was never really sincere about his feelings for me right? that he doesnt really love her right? haha errr making excuses for him againnn) but really.. when you love someone very much, that person will forever be different from any other guy you meet and he'll forever be in your heart. that's very true -- "he grows inside you" awww :) but like i said in one of my replies, i dont wanna totally forget about him bcos i know he's a good man and no matter what he does, he just remains very special to me.. my love for him is the most beautiful kind of affection i've ever felt for anyone. and it's the same love that i'd like to keep forever.. haaayy, this is making me really smile =) thank you for commenting
AND TO THE REST WHO POSTED A COMMENT-- thank you thank you very much. each comment just made me realize many things. thank you guys for taking the time. i needed these words so much. THANK YOU :)
@makamania20 (274)
• India
10 Dec 07
Hi!! thats great idea you have !! If u can forget something good had happened in past!! if we hve the memory only its hard to go without that thing!! but if we can forget!its normal life again!!!may this christmas bring you better thing in ur life!!carry on!!
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
You're obviously still in love with him. Is it really over and hopeless? If so, I suggest you just concentrate on your career and family and friends for now. Eventually you'll meet someone new and it will be easier to forget this guy.
@inowloveapples (29)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
i hope it's REALLY over. everytime we got close, he just did the same thing! he'd be the sweetest-- make me feel as if i'm the most special woman in his life but later on, he'd just be gone and never communicate for, say, a week. we're not even LDR!
@nightshadow23 (1)
• Canada
11 Dec 07
I understand too! I was married for 10 years and then it came crashing down around me. I have to c this person every day and it hurts! For me, I hate christmas, but I have 2 b there for my kids because they are the only thing I truly care about. Good luck though, things will get better
@circumstance (283)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 07
"if you can't forget someone, so don't"
there is no prolem by remembering about the past whether it bad or good, but try make that thought not change the way you now, try make that thought to push you forward and not make you look backward, you know the law of attraction, if you though about something, that thing will come to you.. so try to though about other thing but don't just let go the past....
@inowloveapples (29)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
you've got a point there. i don't TOTALLY wanna forget about him bcos he's just a really special person. i just want to forget about all the pain he unintentionally caused me and this stupid feeling i have for him.. other than that, i'd like to keep in my heart forever. sigh. oh, thanks for the comment :)
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
11 Dec 07
Go shopping! buy a new outfit,new shoes get your nails done and go do somthing with youfriends. that will keep your mind off him and mabey u might meet someone who will take up that 80%
@Angie97 (21)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
Well, we are almost same situation but it is more easy for you...lol. Here are some that you may consider to do this season: May be you give gifts this Christmas to your dear friends if you can afford; Shop early for that to avoid over expense; Make early arrangement if you are planning for out of town vacation; avoid excessive eating...lol but do some regular exercise with some friends and enjoy communicating properly to your relatives and friends around avoid arguments and stress. Merry Christmas!
@naturenut (23)
• United States
10 Dec 07
I understand how you feel. I have experience some great hurt in the last few months and it is hard trying not to think about a person especially if you really cared about them. One thing that may help is to make new friends or get more involved in the relationships that you have that will help you through this transistion. Another thing would be to volunteer your services and give your attention to a cause that will make not only yourself feel good, but also the other people you will be helping. Cheer up. Time heals all wounds. Trust me on this one.
