I feel so out of place

do your kids go to school ? I know what you mean of being all alone want friends with your interests . I have tried a playgroup and it increases but it wasn't like the past playgroup i was when because the playgroup i was in was so nice but the one i tried to attend was too snooty and left people out. So I try to set up my own but I get a friend and they moved on me

Everyone has felt alone at some time or another. There were times when I also felt out of place or didn't belong anywhere. This is a great time for you to work on what you want to do. Pursue your own hobbies or take up a new one. Take a class ,join a club, find a group, do something new. I'm sure you will meet new people you can connect with if you take a step outside of your comfort zone.

Get your kids involved in activities, story hour at the library, play groups, soccer, hockey, swimming lessons. You will meet people with the kids that age of your kids and you will be surprised how easy it is to make friends that way, My son played on travel teams, we shared kids, cars, meals, holidays, events and parties. Made many friends that way.

I'm living up in a small mountain town right now, in my brother's 'country' house. I have no friends here at all really, I mean the postmistress and I are very friendly, but we don't hang out together or anything. I have no one to 'have in for tea' or to talk to. My kids wonder how I can do it. First of all, I really enjoy my own company, and I've always got a hundred or so projects I'm working on... like I'm learning to play the fiddle with a teach yourself video, I make dolls and costumes for them and myself, I love painting and redecorating the rooms. I gathered walnuts and made some walnut stain for one of the wooden floors here - it's beautiful! Granted there are days that I sleep for 10 or 12 hours, and some times I don't feel like doing anything, not even washing the dishes, but it passes, and even then I can always find something I would rather do, especially since I'm always looking for any excuse to feel good. One day I couldn't think of anything to feel good about until I remembered how well the clover I planted was growing! And I absolutely never think of myself as stupid for any reason!

dear asgtswife...in new york they have a place you can go at a local college where you can send a video tape to your spouse or family member and they will send it to the warzones for you for free...perhaps you can look into a program like that where you live, and send your husband a video greeting for Christmas..don't dwell on feeling down around the holidays, and keep talking to your mylot friends, i myself have found them a great comfort in trying times i'm going through..take care..stanzi

i think your just stressed on something, there's one thing you can do about it just think positively ok? and enjoy life... i've been to that when i was being kicked out of school because of the terrible i had done(i punched my teacher and he went to sleep foe 3 hours) everyone was turning around on me i felt alone, but i had overcome it... and the lesson i learned just be positive thinker.. i know you are going to overcome it...

No, I feel like this very often. I have no friends of my own to say, only family. OK family is a big support I know, but sometimes you do need to talk to your own group. But your situation is certainly worse than mine, coz my husband is here with me all the time. even then I believe you have pretty less time on your hands after managing three kids! Why don’t you take the kids to a weekend vacation? I am sure you can arrange thru some travel agent. You badly need a break from the monotony of family life.

I can relate to this. My friends all went their own ways after school and since then I've just been a family person. I do have friends, just at times I'd rather be away from them due to verious reasons. Don't feel like your being stupid, everything will settle and you'll be able to see things better. Take care, ~Joey

You are not dumb for feeling this at all. In fact i think that it is something that is quite normal. Just keep in mind that you have all of your mylot friends. Which could be even better because we will never show up unexpectedly at your home when it looks like a tornado has blown through it. :)

Sorry to hear you feel so out of place. But i think that this happens to everyone at one time or another. Maybe you could look in some other places to find friends. There has to be somewhere people your age go. And just because your frends doesnt have kids doesnt mean you still cant be friends. Maybe you could find a babysitter one night and then go hang out with those friends. And no you are not being stupid. I have felt like this before and i know from experience that it is a very miserable feeling. Good luck and i hope it gets better for you.

You aren't being stupid and you aren't sounding crazy. I would say that I hope you make close friends your age for real life. Even if you don't you still have people that you can depend on, you said so yourself. The alienation seems to be more mental than social. You can fit in and associate with the people you described in your latter example. You might also be able to find other people in some more civil public areas: parks, libraries, bookstores (probably sounded like a dork just now, but my examples are much better than some malls, bars, and other fool's circles). Even if things don't work out there, we are still here Sgtswife. Don't forget that. And there are plenty of people that fit in (either in age and in interests).

I have the opposite problem -- all my friends have kids. Therefore, they are never free to do anything anymore. Kids are always sick or they can't find a babysitter. So I've pretty much given up on them. I'm also not afraid to go out alone to go see a movie or eat dinner. I've done that and go to the zoo alone, went to a theme park alone and a lot more.

iut is the metter of fact that if u get good friends . caring parents,helping neighbours so u never feel so out of any place. even it is new for u. also be kind and poliet to every one so that u also get good response from everyone. and dont be so upset everything will be fine

I used to feel down and out of place. I've been through the party friends crap. You get to see what real friends are and what real friends are for. The thing is that when I was growing up I had so many friends and I lived in Miami, Florida. So ever since I was 14, I would go clubbing because I could, and they have clubs for people under age. Then all my friends, I noticed they were back stabbers. I met my boyfriend and a week later they all disappeared. They stole from me, they talked crap about me, they set me up and tried to get me jumped. Nothing happened to me because my boyfriend was always there right by side whenever I went out to the clubs. He would end up giving some of them that one hitter quitter. So now I moved away from there. And I'm in a totally different country, My mother is here on a work transfer in CANADA! So I'm so far away from him. And I'm sad everyday but what I do is I keep myself occupied and even though I see so many guys around I have no doubts about my boyfriend and I don't mess up. So I'm home, online, taking some courses for French. I won't be able to go back to the states for about 3-4 more months! So might as well find something to do like kickboxing, go online on this site, listen to music, learn something, and let the time pass by as quickly as it can.

Awww hon!! Consider yourself hugged!! I know exactly how you're feeling because my husband and I don't have any children because I couldn't have them. Not that we didn't try... boy did we!! But I couldn't get pregnant. However all of our friends had kids and still we had friends. We kept their kids (free) so they could have a night out but yet at times we still felt alone because there wasn't a person that didn't have kids. Don't get me wrong, we loved kids and we took a few under our arm but at times we wished we knew someone who was like us, childless but there just weren't any. So we thought in roughly 5 to 10 years we'd meet some couples that were childless like us and free to do what they wanted when they wanted like us and we have because of our ages their kids have all grown up and flew out their nests.

hey asgts relax,this happends to many its just a lonely feeling,God is great u will get friends soon with children,and besides consider me your friend on mylot,maybe others too on mylot will join me to be your friends,will remain in touch with u,tc

Hey all Army wive go threw this. I'm going to add you as a friend. But where are you stationed at? Have you went to ACS and volunteered? You can have alot of fun doing that and meet some great people. You can join PWOC and meet some really amazing spirtial women that I swear will get you threw everything! I highly recomend those things. And I'll most definately will be talking to you.