Would you be quick to judge people?

It sounds like there were some rude people at that party. I'm glad your sons had a good time and didn't seem to notice the stares. It was probably worse for you, sitting back and enjoying watching them have FUN and seeing people stare at your sons because they are different. This is very upsetting. I hope you don't let it bother you. You took the upper road and the bottom line is that your kids had a fantastic time at the party! Happy holidays to you and your family!

I probably would have wondered to myself at first but then assumed there was a delay of some sort. I wouldn't have stared or given dirty looks or made rude comments. I would have been the one smiling at you as you watched your boys enjoy themselves. I think everyone has the right to enjoy themselves at Christmas and age shouldn't matter anyway.

I am quick to judge people where i am to stay alert about the nature of the people.It is my perspective. Still i can judge people quickly all times as i think. I have read your discussion. i really don't understand what was the problem of others with your son. Although they look normal, they are developmentally delayed. People should encourage those children. Instead of they commented and glanced. its very bad.

Wow, how can people be so rude and stupid? *shakes her head* At least your sons had fun anyway! It's great that they can have fun and be happy and patient like this! Hopefully the people who were making rude comments about them and staring can actually learn something from your sons!

Sounds to me like the people giving them bad looks were the "delayed" ones. The only silver lining I can find in this cloud is that at least you know which people not to trust in future. Think, if these people had tried to befriend you at some point and you had not seen them acting like this, how much time you might have wasted socializing with them. Glad to hear that notwithstanding some people can't keep their eyes happy and in their own heads, your two boys had fun. Many adults enjoy crafts, too. Had I been at that party I probably would have played with the kids, too.

No I wouldn't be so quick to judge only because I deal with children with intellectual disabilities on a daily basis, including my own daughter. Unfortunately, I can't say I've always been so understanding. Years ago, I could have been the first one to give you not only a strange stare but also a not-so-nice comment. I only bring this up to make you aware that people are very ignorant. Ignorant in the sense that there is no understanding or compassion for those with delays because it's not something most of us have the priviledge of knowing someone such as our children. I think what you did, bringing them to the party is a great thing. I knew your kids haven't had the best of life, probably never had a chance to experience a Christmas party like this one and they will both cherish this memory for a very long time! Don't worry about what other people think. Just remember that they are not blessed with someone so special in their lives! Like I've said many many times before, I wish it was mandatory to have to spend time with an intellectually disabled person in elementary school!

I would think that you would be used to how rude people are, by now. Although, I guess you will never completely get used to it. I'm sorry the world holds so many ignorant people in it, not just with your boys, but with a whole lot of things. Everybody is judgemental (notice the 'mental" in judgemental). It's their problem and we have to realize that. "Normal" is defined as parallel. Paralell to what?

i wouldn't be so quick to judge other people. there are many factors to consider when you see someone doing something out of the ordinary and you can't always tell by judging but asking questions. i think that you should take them to more parties so they could enjoy themselves. you don't have to care what other people think just as long as you and your husband love your children then that's enough for the family.

no i am not quick to judge people.but when i put my all effort to know some one in few min. then i can knew about him or her. i like ur sons patient .

What can I tell ya kiddo the masses are a**es

People can be so judgemental. I would not even offer an explanation to such people. I'm sorry you had to go thru that but you should be very proud of your sons. from the sounds of it, they are more mature than the adults.

How rude is that. I have a girlfiend whos son is like that, he is a great kid but people feel wierded out about him playing with the younger kids. So we understand I wish there was a way to fix it but there isnt without pointing out to everyone that they have a problem and hurting their feelings. Just ignore everyone and let them be happy because its all about them, and let those people do what they do. As long as they dont hurt their feelings.

in the first place its not really good if a homosapien have a personality that easily judge people withouht even knowing them first... well am happy for your children they are not violent, its because i have a nephew, thats yeah developmentally delayed, when he finds out that somebody is staring at him or he's talking to somebody and doesn't listen he would usually find something hard and smash it to that somebody tsk tsk tsk (not good).... your children are lucky they've got a great MOTHER...

I think I can judge a person from his or her appearance. And most of the time it is right.

No I wouldn't be quick to judge. I think these people were very cruel. It's a good thing no one said anything because I think you would have been insulting to them, and by right you should have. There is nothing wrong with your children for wanting to have some fun and share in the season. Where is people's spirit of christmas? Have we forgotten the meaning of christmas? I am glad your kids felt relaxed enough to join in with the fun and the other kids. Good for them, and good for you for taking them and giving them the confidence to join the others.

Ur good with your patience because those people sound like they would have really pissed me off. I have no threshold when it comes to my children. I think we all observe differences but how we react shows our maturity and respect. I would never try and make a child or their parents feel less of a person. I have my faults, I just don't care what others think. But children have not learned to deal with that yet.