can you give up love for your sister???

What you should do?Let them have fun of course! Your sister got your opinion about the guy,you lied (so its your mistake). After years, why would she bother to think whether you had lied or not?And, why denying the guy if you like him?Sorry, but woman's mind is really beyond my way of thinking LOL Cant you discuss it with her?If she likes the guy, why not have him?

I think you should have a talk to this guy. To know who he likes. Whether your sister know that? If she don't know, should better not tell her, I think it's a kind of injure to her.

i think you made a mistake, you probably made the guy to realise t you don't love him and that could be the reason he turned to your sister. you said he has persuit yo for a long time and you denied him. you should have given in earlier to avoid this conflict knowing that just as you refused he was searching somewhere to find someone who loves him and so your sister has taken the chance which could have been your if you gave in earlier. so in conclusion i'll say your sister is luckier and you should not interupt again because if you do your sister will be sad and that will even make the guy confuse for both of you love him. please be wise and let your sister the chance.

You should stay right out of it! This is between the boy and your sister. Its none of your business. Get used to it!

Well you should have spoken up before. Now all I guess you can do is be happy for her.

since he pursued u to be such long time and u rejected him, it explained that he was not the type which u liked, even if he returned to side u, u will not love him. he is prusuing your sister now, u feel uncomfortably, this is because you thought originally he ought to belong to you. you can cost some time to think that clear, then u'll make ur decision.

talk to your sister! if it hurts that much then she probably wont do it. but if you dont like him enough to tell him of course your never gonna have him, i think it might be a little sibling rivalry here too.

In my opinion, I guess you have no choice but to give him up. I would think this preferred before it sour your relationship with your sis and the guy. From your description, you have in the first place, outrightly denied the friendship and have given chance to your sister. Your sis did nothing wrong. It would become wrong of you now to claim the relationship after he has changed direction. Give them your blessings if you love him :p

hi kwenge, the best thing to do, is talk to the guy and ask him if he still love you, if he said yes then tell him also what you feel. then tell your sister the truth, that you love the guy and the guy love you also. maybe your sister will understand.

I think you want what you can't have. You stated it yourself - he was interested, but you showed you were not interested in him. Years passed by and he is free to show interest in who he wants to. If I was rejected by someone, at a certain point I would give up/move on. You also gave your sister the green light by saying you "don't like him." Its okay to feel regret, but there was probably a reason why you rejected him. He may not have been right for you. If you denied him because you weren't interested - move on. If you rejected him because you were playing hard to get - not all people like games so don't do that to the next guy. I have a feeling you will meet a guy sometime that will make you wonder why you ever liked this guy. Don't deny your sister happiness because of your own regret or hurt. It may turn out just to be a flirtation and you'll all laugh about this years later or he may be the "one" for her where it wasn't quite the right fit with you. Let them work it out themselves because it may be nothing too. If you ever liked him "as a person" (not dating material) or thought he was a good guy, and you love your sister, you would want them to be happy even if it didn't include things being the way you wanted them.

This is a tough one....I say, whatever happens is meant to be...let him choose who he wants to be with.

This is a tough situation to be in. My heart goes out to you. However, he technically was never your boyfriend. You have no claims on him. And where you didnt tell your sister how you were feeling, she has done nothing wrong. To answer the question about giving up love for a sister, Yes you can. My younger sister is the sneakiest, most dishonest person I have ever met. She has slept with my oldest daughters boyfriend(he was 19). She doesnt care who she hurts as long as she gets what she wants. She is pure evil. I dont understand it. I have nothing to do with her unless it absolutely necessary. My mother doesnt see it. That aggrivates me even more. Its got to the point I dont associate with either of them. My mother used to be my best friend. Now I dont trust either of them as far as I could throw them. Family is the first ones to cross you!!!!!!

This is a tough situation to be in. My heart goes out to you. However, he technically was never your boyfriend. You have no claims on him. And where you didnt tell your sister how you were feeling, she has done nothing wrong. To answer the question about giving up love for a sister, Yes you can. My younger sister is the sneakiest, most dishonest person I have ever met. She has slept with my oldest daughters boyfriend(he was 19). She doesnt care who she hurts as long as she gets what she wants. She is pure evil. I dont understand it. I have nothing to do with her unless it absolutely necessary. My mother doesnt see it. That aggrivates me even more. Its got to the point I dont associate with either of them. My mother used to be my best friend. Now I dont trust either of them as far as I could throw them. Family is the first ones to cross you!!!!!!

Your sister needs to know your true feelings. I think I could give up love for my sister but I think that If you both like him maybe both of you shouldn't be with him or you need to tell your sister and you guys need to find out what both of you are going to do about this situation you have on your hands now.

Hi dear that happened to me. Now am regretting because i should be the one holding the green card if i did not give him to my older sis. My sister now is happily living in USA together with her kids. The man is a Filipino too but he was petitioned by his mom. Before it is too late for you tell exactly what you feel for the man. Don't play hard to get. :)

If it is really bothering you to think of this guy being with your sister, you need to tell her. If you have said you don't like him, she is doing nothing wrong- unless you tell her. If you think you can let it go, then say nothing. I wonder, though, why did you deny him for years and only decide you want him when he became interested in your sister? Are you sure you want him, or do you just not want her to have him?