Has your relationship with your parents improved since you reached adulthood
@cathy_mahoney (97)
Canada
December 15, 2007 10:35am CST
Recently, I heard of a poll asking adults whether their relationship with their parents improved since reaching adulthood. The poll showed an overwhelming response that adult children had a better relationship with their parents than in earlier years. Personally, I am definitely much closer to my Dad since adulthood but I have always been close to my Mom. I lived with my parents until I got married. I remember intensely missing my mother in the first year of my marriage, since I was so used to her daily companionship. What is your experience? Has your relationship with your parents improved since adulthood?
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@makatas (1098)
• Greece
16 Dec 07
My relationship with my parents was always very tight.I have never had problems with them, maybe because i wasnt really naughty as well.MY brother and my sister also had tight relationship, all family does.So, relationships are same now that we all are adults.Nothing has changed, there is still the caring, love and tenderness that there has always been.
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@cathy_mahoney (97)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
Congratulations on the great relationship with your parents! I'm sure that it has helped you through any difficult times you may have been faced with.
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
16 Dec 07
i think its improved since ive had children myself. i have a better understanding of why they did some of the things they did, and why they did not do some things. Its hard to be a part of a family without any drama, but as you get older you learn that you really are blessed to be part of one!
@cathy_mahoney (97)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
Yes, families sure are a blessing! I find that I have learned a lot from discussing issues that I am facing with my daughter, with my parents. I am amazed at the depth of knowledge that my mother has about my daughter - she knows so much!
@cathy_mahoney (97)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
Yes, I think that if Mom worries too much it can get in the way. Once the worry isn't as strong, and the child is grown and doing well, then the relationship can thrive.
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
16 Dec 07
I think mine relationship did improve but not only because of my adulthood but also because of dealing with the losses of loved ones in 4 years time.We grew back to eachother and we have a wonderful relationship now.
Sometimes things happens for a reason and maybe these things too.
@cathy_mahoney (97)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
It's great that you're closer now with your family! I'm sorry for your losses, as well.
@MisterPlus (1915)
• Philippines
16 Dec 07
I never had the chance of getting married. I've stayed with my parents since childhood and I could say that we have a happy relationship. Thanks for the post.
@cathy_mahoney (97)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
Congratulations on your successful relationship with your parents. As for marriage, we never know what the future holds for us.
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
16 Dec 07
Yea definatly not.. i havnt talked to my dad in 5 years,i have no idea were he is. and my mother i just it bothers me so much that she was a failure of a mother...i wouldnt say she did everything she could for me..she did what she wanted to do and that was that and she is still like this today....
@cathy_mahoney (97)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
It seems so unfair that some have a good experience with their parents and others do not. We don't get to choose our parents - some people are lucky, others are not.
@thrwbckjay67 (2870)
• United States
15 Dec 07
I think there has been a definite correlation with my maturing process and my relationship with my parents. I think that there were a lot of different things during my childhood, especially my teen years, that made the relationship strain a little bit. They have really mellowed out a bit since I have reached my 20's and have taken a different view of parenting. It's been a good relationship now, not so much sometimes when I was younger.
@cathy_mahoney (97)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
I can relate to what you're saying - my relationship with my parents was really strained during my teen years. I barely spoke to my Dad for the entire time, and my Mom always seemed to fret and worry about me. In my 20s, the relationship thawed, in my thirties I started to see a playful side in my parents that I'd never, ever seen before, and now they rely on me to help them through the trials of their older years (my Dad has been battling colon cancer this year).
@joey_matthews (8354)
•
17 Dec 07
My relationship has disappeared near enough completly since i met Joey.
They didn't like him, so they tried to split us up and it just ended up with them kicking me out and then i moved in with Joey.
Ever since then they have just tried to cause problems, but nothing worked.
We have both got on with our lifes without them and i can't imagine my life with them in it.
~Joeys wife
@cathy_mahoney (97)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
Yes, it takes a while to understand what parents are up to, and how much they really do love you!
@luvstochat (6907)
• United States
15 Dec 07
I think my relationship with my mother has improved since I reached adulthood and had children I can tell her anyting now and I talk to her on the phone every day to let her know what is going on in my life.
My father passed away 3 year ago I was never really close to him.
@cathy_mahoney (97)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
Wow, it's wonderful how close you are to your mom! I never seem to have time to talk with my mother every day, though I would love to!
@Claidissa (108)
• United States
15 Dec 07
I'm just shy of "adulthood" since I'm 17 but I thought I'd comment anyways =) I've always had a complicated relationship with my parents but over the past year I've noticed that things have changed a lot. I've noticed myself being more accepting to what they have to say, and actually listening to their advice. I really do believe as you get older you become closer with your parents and I really don't mind =)
-Claidissa
@cathy_mahoney (97)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
Yes, it is strange how the relationship changes... The bonus is, you get to see sides of your parents you've never had the privilege of seeing before. It's pretty amazing really.
