What would you do?

First of all please use some dots in your text, it is a little difficult to read this way :) I think the arrangement you did is OK.If he wanna try, give him the chance, and he will decide if its good or not.Personally i wouldnt do it, leave the home where i am safe and economically secure just for the sake of loneliness and peace. Finally, my kid would never tell me this. Children where i leave never leave the parents home if they are not economically secure, and it is good this way.Trust me, families stay closer for more, children still got their own space, they dont want more.If they cannot pay for their room and life why would they want to go?

Well, I'm a mother of 6, and if my oldest who's 15 said that at age 17, I'd jump for joy. No, for real. Unfortunately she's very independant like me, but is also a major headache. I think she needs a dose of reality. In fact I cant wait until April 26, 2010 at 12:33am. She was born 33 minutes after midnight on April 26, 1992 and every year since she was 2 I wake her up at the time she was born to give her one gift. I told her that on that date and time in 2010, I will wake her up with her bags packed in some new luggage and a few checks and/or money orders and a pre-paid debit card so she can move out and become a responsible adult. I told her she'd better start looking for an apartment in March so that she's ready. She thinks I'm joking. But I am not. The only way she will not have to leave is if she has given me her plans to go into the armed forces or if she lets me know which college she's going to. And in that case, she can use the money for college stuff or housing close to campus if she don't want to live on campus. But either way, she's getting out.

I dont think That it is a bad thing that your son wants to try to make it on his own. I moved out of my parents house and got my own apartment when I was 17. I was still in High School but I finished, and have since started college. I am now 23. I have learned a lot about responcibility, and things that a good portion of my friends have no idea of. I think it could be a good idea for him to try it, but let him know that mama is always there.

i dont know coz i have no son,but i can thing at his position,maybe he just want to need a space belongs to himself,so wish you have a good day and merry the coming christmas

I moved out right after I graduated highschool I had acquired a good paying job and I was one of those that didn't want to follow my parents rules anymore. I did fine on my own I went to work like I was suppose to and paid my bills like I should. I would probaly make him wait until he turned 18 graduated highschool and had a secure job lined up to pay the bills.

in china,most of parents don't allowd their children to live by their own,cause they think they are children because they don't reach 18year old.but I think if u think your child have the ability to deal his life ,please give him a chance.

Is he still in school or has he graduated? I believe if he thinks he is old enough and can make it on his own, there isn't much you can do other than what you already offered to him. Does he accept that? I knowsometimes it is hard to make a child do something if they already have their mind made up on what they are going to do anyways. I know it is hard but sometimes they have to live and learn. I know you have been through alot but I am not sure about your whole situation as each one is very different. I wish you luck with it though.

My daughter was self sufficiant at 16. There was no stopping her. She was working and making good money and doing dual enrollment (going to high school and college at the same time). She was ready to go out on her own and has been ever since. She is 26 and working toward her law degree.

I would tell him he needs to wait until he's 18 and at least graduated from high school. Show him an actual budget of everything he can expect to pay in the real world and if he's serious than he should save up money for things like downpayments and emergency funds. When I moved out when I was 18 it was such a shock, I had to buy my own TP, my own makeup, bath items - it all adds up and you don't think about it.