A girlfriend or a boyfriend that drink and get drunk...
By lextoper
@lextoper (573)
Philippines
December 16, 2007 8:45am CST
I am just curious and bothered on this thing and i would like to ask YOU myloters specially those you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend.
if ever you(girls) drink liquors, beer or any drinks that can make you dizzy or something, and get drunk without your boyfriend around, do you do unexpected things such us, flirting with someone or somebody, dancing wildly, and extremely worse, going into bed with other man? i know the feeling of getting drunk and i can say that, you still know or aware on the things that you do, but you can't control it anymore. It is like you can say or do what you like to say and do... expressing our greatest desire and hidden feeling of hate and love to the person involve. Honestly, i hate seeing, hearing stories, and reading messages about my girl drinking but i cannot do anything to stop her or even just warn her on the possible things that might happen to her if she get drunk because she is physically far away from me and she will get angry and asking me back if i trust her. I do trust her, and i know my girl, but i don't trust the people surround her. They may take advantage of her when she is drunk...
So... what can you say girls? am I just paranoid or something? and guys, do you have the same fear? hope you can help me clear my mind here.
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6 responses
@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
16 Dec 07
I have a boyfriend and honestly I rarely ever drink without him. I am beyond the phase of my life where I drink to get drunk and will only have one or two drinks. I like to be able to drive myself home and not rely on other people to "take care of me" if you will. That said, I would never do anything to jeopardize my relationship and I am fully aware of what I do while I am drinking (even if I am drunk) and honestly I feel that saying "Oh, I was drunk" is just an excuse to do things you wouldn't normally do. With my ex-boyfriend we were in a long distance relationship and I ended up kissing another guy while I was drunk. I told him the next day and he was very upset. I said that I was drinking but I also knew what I was doing so it was no excuse. I was lonely without him and I let that get the best of me. It didn't work out for us and that was a main reason. I really regretted it for awhile, but I got over it and so did he. One of my good friends recently moved in with her boyfriend. They haven't been dating that long, but she ended up sleeping with another guy (that he knew, no less) and really I lost a lot of respect for her. She talks about how she wants to marry him (after only 4 months of dating) and goes and does something like that. He barely got upset about it! I'm afraid they are somewhat desperate for each other and their relationship is based on that, not trust. My two cents anyway. Okay I wrote a lot. But I think my point is if you love someone you will not put yourself in a situation where you might do something you'll regret, like getting too drunk to know what you're doing, for example.
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@lextoper (573)
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
at least you've learned from your mistakes, but do we need to be wrong or do that before we learn? i mean, do we have to do things in which we know WRONG for us to learn from it? what is done is done, and theirs nothing we can do about it. But we need to face the fact that their will be changes in a relationship.
For me, we must think first of the possible consequences of our action before we do it because we can't turn back the things that already happen. Its a matter of choice and decision. Drinking and getting drunk is a choice...
@pakyutz (4)
• Singapore
19 Dec 07
based from what i know, if girls get drunk, they tend to be crazy?, but, it depends. there are some cases that girls get raped when drunk but if, and only if, your girl's friends are a real friend of her, then you don't have to worry.
you said, she's far from you and you don't trust the people around her? but why?.. yeah,you trust her, and it's very important in a long distance relationship. but, why you can't stop and warn her? does she get angry when you do that?...
if i were you, i think, i will be very2x concern about her. your not paranoid. you're just concern. try talking this with her. it must be ok with her right?
**hope this helped you a bit?**
@pakyutz (4)
• Singapore
19 Dec 07
try talking to her slowly and nicely. that will solve it.
i know it's kinda nervous (is this the right word to describe it?) to think bout this stuff.. but, u trust ur gf and that's the most important thing in a relationship, and lobg distance relationship too. its hard when u are apart. but u love her, and that does it.
just a normal, slow conversation. (got wat i mean?).. just be cool. nothing will happen.. maybe, she drinks because of some reasons? mybe she need to go out eith friends at work? or maybe, she needs to meet VIPs in a certain place (or others....) right?.. just my thought and opinions. because, me and my bf's apart also. and im also experiencing the felings u are feeling right now. but, i just talk to him bout certain issues. and thats how we discuss certain things.
(hope that helps, again too.^^)
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
I know how you feel. I do get very worried and upset when my girl drinks without me. She has a tendency to get drunk and I don't like it one bit. Not at all. She says she doesn't like the feeling of being drunk, hangover, especially the vomiting, so I hope she never does it again.
@makatas (1098)
• Greece
17 Dec 07
At the moment i have no girlfriend. However, I can say tha girls not usually get drunk where i live, i know many girls who drink a bit but always stop before getting drunk.If that happened to my girlfriend, i would surely want to know what she was doing when i wasnt present.I would also try to convince her to stop getting drunk, not healthier thing that can happen to anyone.
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@lextoper (573)
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
yes... i have tried to talk to her about it... but, she still insist on what she like and want to do and give me the assurance that she didn't do something wrong. But my problem is that, she is not used to drink and i never see her drinking before. I don't know... for now, i'm still on the stage of doubting on the things that she is doing and telling me.
@phatbiatch (8)
• United States
16 Dec 07
I think the best thing you can do in this situation is just trust your girlfriend. You say you do, so that is enough. She is the only one you have to trust. Trust that she is smart enough to make decisions on her own. Unfortunately, we cannot control every aspect of our own lives, let alone someone else's so, you really cannot not control or do anything about the people she's around. Even if you try to and you talk to her about the people she is hanging out with, we cannot prevent things from happening. If something is going to happen, it's going to happen. Whether you are there to prevent her from getting drunk, or feeling lonely, or not. We all want to protect ourselves from being hurt and I'm not condoning cheating, but every person and every couple is individual and there are going to be things that happen, GOOD and bad. It's how we handle it that really matters.
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