How old were you ?
By nmhschic2004
@nmhschic2004 (1238)
United States
24 responses
@diana611 (22)
• United States
22 Dec 07
i was 18 when i got pregnant with my daughter. as for an age that is to young. i couldn't give one. i think it all has to do with how mature you are. if i knew at 18 what i know now though i probaly would have waited. just because i think it would have made me a better mother
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
20 Dec 07
I found out I was pregnant right around my 25th birthday. :)
It's really funny to me, because I look kind of young, and people who didn't know me well (and thus didn't know my age) kept saying they couldn't believe I was pregnant. *rolls her eyes* Yet in the place where I grew up many of the girls had kids while in high school, and a few in junior high.
I don't really think there is some magic number that works for everyone. I know some people who were completely irresponsible mothers at the age of forty, and others who were very responsible mothers at the age of 15. So I think really maturity is more of an issue than age. If I had to pick an age though, I'd say 18 was probably old enough.
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@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
21 Dec 07
Yeah some people can just be so rude. I was out shopping one day and went to the restroom. When i was going in a woman said to my husband RUDELY is she pregnant? My husband said yes. And she was like is she married? My husband then with an attitude said yeah shes my wife. I guess some people just dont know how to mind their own business.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
22 Dec 07
It was around my 24th birthday that I first got pregnant.
I'd say , below 18 was too young to be a mother. They wouldn't be physically or mentally ready then. Having said that, there are girls who are mentally ready before 18...but I still wouldn't advise it.
I still feel a girl needs to experience life more on her own terms before being bogged down by the responsibility of being a mother.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I was 20 the first time I got pregnant. Which kind of stunk because I was pregnant when I turned 21 lol. I think that under 18 is too young to be pregnant. Some people can't handle it at that age.
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@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
21 Dec 07
Ravinskye i was pregnant when i was 21 also. But not exactly when i turned 21. So i imagine it would kinda stink. I was hoping to have my baby before new years but i dont think thats happenning!
podushko i think your right - your never really ready. Im married also and we were ready to start a family. Its very nerve racking though! Im so scared to go through the labor. Congrats on your baby girl.
tapdawg25 i know its the most amazing miracle. It brought me to tears just going through the pregnancy. Hearing the babys heartbeat and seeing the ultrasounds. Im getting so anxious waiting for this baby to come!
vera5d i agree with you about the younger the better. I wanted to start a family early because i want to have more then one child. I dont want to be 40 some years old and pregnant. I think its much better to start in your early twenties if your ready for it. That way you can be around to see your children and even your grandchildren.
Thank you everyone very much for all of your comments!
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
22 Dec 07
I was 20 when I was pregnant with my first child. I was excited and my husband wasn't, but to be to honest I think that being in high and pregnant is to young. On that note, I'm not a judgemental person and think that only the person who is having or wanting to have a child can decide if they are ready for wether they be in their 40's or 20's. Good luck with your pregnancy!!
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@tapdawg25 (15)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I was 26 when I got pregnant, but 22 when I got married. I think as long as you are prepared for the responsibility, you are not too young to be pregnant. Motherhood is amazing, even if it doesn't feel like it now. Things always change when the baby is actually here. It's the most amazing miracle that can ever happen. Congratulations! My daughter is 19 months now, and I've never asked for such an enormous blessing. Good luck!
@imadriscoll (2228)
• United States
7 Jan 08
I was 24 when I got pregnant with my first child. I was 25 with my second, 26 with my third and 29 with my fourth.
I don't know if you can say what age is too young to be a mother with absolute certainity. I would say that anytime before 18 would be too young without a doubt. Though there is always exceptions. For me 24 was perfect anything earlier then that would have been too soon.
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@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
21 Dec 07
I was 23 years old when I got pregnant. They say I am too young because most of my sisters have children more than 23 years old and I am the youngest who have a child.
For me, too young is the age below 18 maybe. Because you are not fully develop in terms of some girls for physical, emotional and financial. What is important is you can raised well your child even if people think you are too young for your age to get pregnant.
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I was 21 when I was pregnant with my first child. As someone else said anyone under 18 is too young to have a child, especially in this day and age. Now back in the 'old days' it was common for girls to get married and have babies while in their teens. My grandmother was one of these girls who married young and had her first child at the age of 15. It was just the way it was back then.
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@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
5 Jan 08
I'm not really sure, i think if you're still in school (high school) then you're probably a little too young, i think you need to have your education & maybe enjoy yourself a little before hand. Make sure you've got all the sillies out before you have to take on such a big responsibility!
My partner's mother was 16 when she had him & now she's 42 or 43 & trying to be 16 again which is kind of embarassing! So maybe enjoy your teens while you can - rather than later!
I got pregnant with my first shortly after i turned 24 & that was a good age for me, i am due to have #2 just a little before i turn 27 so yeah, i think anywhere from young to late 20's is the best age to start but everyone has their own ideas!
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
20 Dec 07
i was 20 when i got pregnant with my son...i think it was great because i was in good shape and healthy and had a lot more energy. I missed my 21st b-day too as another poster said. Having my daughter at 25 was a little tougher though...I think the younger the better, my mom was 41 when she had my youngest brother and it was really hard for her, and hard for her now to keep up with him. i think as long as the girl is mature enough to accept the responsibility, any age from 18-26 is good. After that, i'd start feeling too old to just be getting started - but people do it all the time.
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@amiemarie176 (4)
• United States
21 Dec 07
I had just turned 17 the first time, and after 2 miscarriages, gave birth to my son when I was 20. I don't think there is any real "too young to be a mother" age, because I have seen wonderful 17 year old mothers and TERRIBLE 30 something year old mothers that never should have had the chance. It depends on your maturity level, financial situation, and ability to love. Among many other factors, of course..
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@Wario_1 (965)
• Sweden
6 Jan 08
Since i am on the wrong side of the gender thing, i can't get pregnant. My mother however was 20 when she became pregnant with her first child (me). She gave birth when she was 21. One fun thing is that she is ecaxtly twice as old as me, so its quite easy to guess how old i am or how old my mohter is.
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@crystalsthenry (19)
• United States
13 Jan 08
I think it all depends on where you are in your life when you get pregnant...no one is ever READY to have a child that is why they give us 9 months. I got pregnant with my first child at 25...found out 2 weeks after I got engaged...Kinda early for me but God wouldn't give me something that I couldn't handle. It will all work out...It is hard to say how young is TOO young...Depends how fast you grow up...or WANT to grow up...
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@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
20 Dec 07
Right now I'm pregnant with my first child and I'M 26 years old.
I think that before 18 is kinda young to have a child because most of the mother that age arent really ready.
After that at 20-22 girls an be really good mother if they are mature enough :)
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@balaji_civil (190)
• India
14 Feb 08
i think it would be at the 18 age. in that age girls may not that much matured.22 is the right age to be pregnant.
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
i was 25 when i got pregnant with my first child..i think too young for me is like under 20 because they are like kids, playing around, waned to be with their friends rather than with their little children..thats my opinion..advance merry xmas to you..
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@kuting (885)
• Philippines
19 Feb 08
i was 24 years old when i got pregnant by my boyfriend. it was actually a few months before i turned 24. the guy left me when i turned 6months pregnat which is really sad. but everything's okay now. im a 25 year old single mom to a beautiful baby boy.
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
20 Dec 07
i was 20 when i got pregnant with my son...i think it was great because i was in good shape and healthy and had a lot more energy. I missed my 21st b-day too as another poster said. Having my daughter at 25 was a little tougher though...I think the younger the better, my mom was 41 when she had my youngest brother and it was really hard for her, and hard for her now to keep up with him. i think as long as the girl is mature enough to accept the responsibility, any age from 18-26 is good. After that, i'd start feeling too old to just be getting started - but people do it all the time.
@podushko (7)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I just gave birth to my baby girl on Oct 25th (2007) - I was 23 years old, I personally don't think it's to early, I'm married and we were ready to start a family (you are never really ready, but you know what I mean) - ALTHOUGH we had a lot of people telling us we were to young to get married and have a family.
