Kissing therapy

Kissing therapy - Child kissing mother
@SViswan (12051)
India
December 21, 2007 3:33am CST
Have you heard of Mata Amritanandamayi - the hugging saint? She blesses by hugging. I started a new therapy in the family. We were all arguing and fighting so much. And I realized there was lots of negative energy going around. Now everytime, one of us is irritated or getting angry with the other, we give a peck on the cheek and this lightens up the mood and we are fine. Our son has joined in and it has become a fun game now. Do you have anything like this that you do on a regular basis in the family?
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
27 Dec 07
Hi i never heard of Hugging Therapy and kissing Therapy. but sure in "Munna Bhai MBBS" in that i saw and heard about " japhi therapy" and "Laughter therapy", LOL well i dont mind if some one kisse me on cheek but if some one from West saw it that will declare it gay activity, LOl so think about it all i can say about ur family is "WHAT A FAMILY" take care
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
27 Dec 07
haan..haan...kya family hai! teek hi to kaha. Anyways, it's done only at home and done on the cheeks..so I guess there's no problem in that! Japhi therapy is the same as hugging therapy!
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
27 Dec 07
Hi dear u r very right i was just kidding about Gay activity, i know we are clean at heart so we dont care what other says sure do it enjoy it and hey if u ever think of expanding it to friend, just tell me Ok and i wont take a minute to get angry, lol
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
21 Jan 08
u did not reply, i am angry
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Dec 07
Hi Sviswan, I actually find this very intersting and a very effective therapy. I am the kind who would not go into anything untoward and would not hesitate to apologise. Many times I have found myself apologising even when I am not at fault. Sorry is not at all the hardest word for me. I feel, you need not have to fight in order to win the game. You can lose the game and still win! Little bit of love, kiss, hug, sweet loving words do wonders! I always try to pacify things with appreciation and showing my emotions for my loved ones. I just cannot do without them. You have formulated a wonderful therapy and i wish this goes a long way. I pray for you and your family. Love and huggles to your son.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
21 Dec 07
lol..so far it's working for me andit's more enjoyable now that our 7 year old has joined it...just the mention of it makes us smile. So, we have him saying things like, 'Papa, don't scold me or you'll get a kiss' and we break into laughter at once and everyone's then having a good time. I don't hesitate to apologise too and like you would end up apologising even if it wasn't my fault. But after a point, I felt resentful of the fact that I was taken for granted and expected to feel sorry for someone else. Thanks for the wishes. have a nice day:)
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Dec 07
Yes, I agree there is a risk of being taken for granted but then at the end of the day if things get pacified nothing like it. Actually, it happens naturally and we cannot change out of the blue. And ofcourse our loved ones love us for that only, isn't it?
@SViswan (12051)
• India
21 Dec 07
If and when they think about it...lol I have to come up with different ways to keep up the excitement before we all fall into a rut.
• United States
7 Jan 08
That is a really cool idea! I will have to start trying that! Though...I'm not sure it'd be successful in every situation LOL.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
7 Jan 08
I have to be frank and admit that it isn't always successful but it is more successful than being grumpy all day!
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• United States
7 Jan 08
LOL - no doubt about that!
@swatig (1183)
• India
7 Jan 08
I very much support kissing therapy, more we support 'japhi therapy of 'Munna Bhai MBBS'. i agree with you that its help to getrid of negative energy via this and get lots of +energy from this and also enlighten the mood of individual. i support this on regular basis but im unable to convince of the thinking in mine family and they take this as fun issue and not take it as seriously as i want tobe, so not able to apply in the family culture. but im very much happy when i heard 'What a Family' wording from anybdy in positive way.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
7 Jan 08
No one took it seriously in my family either. But I just went ahead and did it...it lightened the situation and everyone started laughing at first...then my 7 year old son joined in and he would kiss the person who was about to get angry or who already was and we started making jokes about it. It isn't easy especially in a family that isn't used to showing affection in a physical way.
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
21 Dec 07
Wow..thats a very good therapy..!! But in my family you can't do any thing when papa or mamma is angry..!! I mean rela angry...!! YOu just need to listen quitely or go away from that place..you can't even sit closer to my father when he is angry. So in my family its better stay calm and Quite. But with my friends I always hug them when ever they seem to get angry..! I just hug them and take them away from the hot topic. :)
@SViswan (12051)
• India
21 Dec 07
hey...we used to fight like crazy too...before I came up with this therapy. But it has to be done by the people involved and they should want to NOT argue or fight...or else it doesn't work. Maybe you can suggest to your papa or mamma. The hug therapy sounds good too...maybe we'll try that once we are done with the kiss therapy:) Thanks for the response.
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
27 Dec 07
hey Stella i am angry with u(wink_ LOL
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 08
It appears to me a good and effective idea to calm down the flared up atmoshpere. If we start patting and hugging say our kids...it does make an positive effect and whenever my kids perform something commendable..I make it point to big a big pat on their back and always try to encourge them. Good Post!
@SViswan (12051)
• India
7 Jan 08
Clam down a flared up atmosphere - that's exactly what I am trying to do. Kids always got hugs and kisses. It was the adults actually who were getting floared up..but now this therapy has lightened the atmosphere.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 08
Well done! Keep it up!
@balasri (26537)
• India
21 Dec 07
I like to touch and to be touched.It works wonders with my wife and daughter.We are a big happy gang here.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
22 Dec 07
That's good. But I started this as a therapy...it gets us laughing and lightens the mood.
• United States
21 Dec 07
Wow..what a truly amazing new custom you are starting there; I hope this helps out..I would suppose the peck on the cheek is after the person has cooled down..if not you might see some pretty scarred cheeks;) .. I think it's great..and every family should have some problem solving program in play .. Too many families and friends break up ..because they fail to listen to one another or forgive one another. I don't think there is anything that anyone can do that is so unforgiveable..I know I try to forgive all the wrongs done me..since I want also to be forgiven:)
@SViswan (12051)
• India
21 Dec 07
no...we give a peck before the other person cools down...infact the peck cools them down. If not, we would just boil and then the other person gets mad at something the first person said...and it just goes on to be a useless fight. In this case, we end up smiling or laughing before we boil! It's more fun with the son joining in because he goes 'Ok mom, don't yell or I kiss'..you can't help but smile at that.
• India
21 Dec 07
Hmm thats a nice Idea. Have you seen that movie 'Munna Bhai' & it made the Jaadu ki Japhi (magical hug) so popular, that everyone on the railway station, college campus, to the streets was doin it. Infact I had seen a very interesting video on it as well. Hugs definately make you feel better & I guess a kiss on cheek can be quite magical too.. But another thing that can be tried, that I do is.. just laugh out loud when the tension mounts LOL
@SViswan (12051)
• India
22 Dec 07
lol..I forgot about the Jaadu ki Jappi! That's next in line! Actually, the kiss (or mention) gets us smiling or laughing and we are out of tension. Both of us have a short fuse and we need something like this to get us laughing.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
21 Dec 07
we have nothing like this but i must admit i think its a great idea. I think we will have to try kissing therapy too thankyou for sharing blessed be
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
21 Dec 07
What it does for us is lighten the mood before we really get worked up. Both of us have a short fuse and real minor things can get escalated into bigger problems if we don't stop. I just hope it continues this way. Thanks for the response.
@dmillman (2273)
• United States
23 Dec 07
I think that this is a fabulous idea SViswan!!! I wish that my immediate family had done this while we were growing up (or even the hugging one) so that we'd be closer today than we are now. I will definitely try this therapy with my hubby and then if it's good with him, maybe I'll try my parents and sister. So, how does it feel to have started a great "movement" such as Kissing Therpay? Hey, this could become famous some day. You should start a website, using feedback from everyone here that tries it out. Then, you could maybe write a book. OK, so I went a bit far with this, but I'm serious about how great this idea is and how wonderful it would be if it "caught on"!!! You go girl!!!
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
24 Dec 07
lol...thanks! I guess I should write a book! We really didn't have any hugging in my family before I was married. It has become a ritual we do to lighten the mood and it helps. I'm not saying it works 100%. Sometimes, we are too worked up for the kissing to work (we just keep trying till it works then)...but it works most of the time.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
23 Dec 07
i haven't heard of that saint but that's really a cute way of giving blessings. ^__^ in our family we never grew up with that kind of habit, hugging and kissing. we only kiss our mother as a sign of respect when she arrives from work. i can't remember any event that i hugged or kissed my siblings. ^.^;; and i think it will be kind of awkward now if we would start a habit like that. ^__^
@SViswan (12051)
• India
24 Dec 07
lol...I understand. I wasn't used to hugging and kissing in my family either. And I would feel awkard everytime. But I had to do something when I realized that we were fighting more in our marriage and for the little things too. Well it works for us and I'm happy:)
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
21 Dec 07
Well, I guess this is related...when hubby was an "angry young man" and got too wrapped up in his gloom and doom, I used to go sit on his lap and tickle him. Does that count as one of his blessings? LOL. It worked.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
22 Dec 07
Oh yes...it does:) And it's a lovely idea (for me try out)!Thanks!
@I_LUV_U (2519)
• India
26 Dec 07
LOL! Funny! I have not heard of this Mata Amritanandamayi, I will check her out now. I think this will work depending on how intense or relaxed the situation is. Do not you think there is an element of risk involved in this kissing therapy? If the situation is out of control and you kiss someone, that might irritate them further and they might in turn slap you. One has to kiss very early, before the other loses his/her temper and that's too tedious a task because one can possibly lose his/her temper within the blink of an eye. We do not have any therapy as such in our family. I just leave the place(room) and hop into my own every time when I get mad at someone or vice-versa. Then comeback later on when the atmosphere has turned normal.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
26 Dec 07
lol..you are right about kissing before the situation gets out of hand. I just jump to it every chance I get..lol Walking out never worked for me in the marriage...because my husband would never let me let myself out to cool myself! This works for me:) Thanks for the response!
@amitksing (1323)
• India
7 Jan 08
Wow! Such a cool thing to do. I must appreciate for the new therapy you have worked upon. I think hugging and kissing makes the other person believe that you love and care for him/her. I have heard about Mata Amritanandamayi but not much about her hugging therapy. i read somewhere that hugging makes each other feel one another's heartbeats and this ultimately yields positive reults!
• Kottayam, India
22 Jan 08
Let alone kissing even touching will be profound, thanks for becoming one of my friend. Shall I come as people go MA? this is only a joke!!!
• Philippines
21 Dec 07
when im down i always want a hug or kis but i prefer to be hug or to hug but then your way is exciting c".) thanks for posting it have a merry christmas mmwauh c".)
@farazsag (80)
• Pakistan
21 Jan 08
lolz